Mmene mungakhalire ngati mlendo?

Aliyense amakonda kupita kumaphwando, masiku okumbukira kapena kukhala ndi phwando la tiyi, koma ochepa chabe amadziwa momwe angakhalire bwino pa phwando. Choyamba, malingana ndi malamulo a ulemu, mulimonsemo simungathe kupita kukaona popanda kuyitanidwa. Izi zikhoza kusokoneza zolinga za eni ake ndikuziika pa malo osasangalatsa kwambiri, chifukwa panthawi ino angathe kuchita zinthu zawo ndikuyenda mozungulira nyumba, mwachitsanzo, mu usiku. Komanso simungabwere kudzacheza ndi alendo. Izi zingachititse kuti anthu asamangoganizira zokhazokha, koma ndi alendo omwe sali ovomerezeka. Kuwonjezera apo, sikuvomerezeka kubweretsa ana ndi ziweto kuti aziyendera, pamene maonekedwe awo sanawonedwe.


Chikhalidwe cha khalidwe pa phwando

Malinga ndi malamulo a khalidwe labwino, mukamabwera ku malo okhala, muyenera kuchotsa chipewa chanu mwamsanga ndikumuuza hello kwa eni ake. Kugwirana kapena kugwirana chanza kumatha kokha pamene magolovesi achotsedwa. Ngati mvula ikugwa kunja, ambulera imayenera kupukutidwa ndikusiyidwa panjira. Mulimonsemo simungathe kuziika ndikuziika pakati pa chipinda. Ngati chitseko cha nyumbayi sichinatsegulidwe ndi ambuye, koma ndi wina, ndiye kuti muyenera kulowa m'chipinda momwe alendo onse anasonkhana, perekani hello kwa aliyense, ndipo malinga ndi malamulo, pitani kwa eni eni.

Etiquette imanena kuti mukapemphedwa kuti mupite kuchipinda choyamba, ndiye kuti mkazi kapena mwamuna wamkulu kuposa eni ake angagwiritse ntchito mwayi umenewu, ena onse angalowe m'chipindacho pokhapokha mwini nyumbayo. Malingana ndi malamulo ovomerezeka, munthu ayenera kutsegula chitseko patsogolo pa mkazi ndikumulola apite patsogolo, ndikupereke njira pamsewu. Lankhulani moni kwa anthu omwe mukufunikira, kugwedeza dzanja lanu mopepuka. Ndi ochepa omwe amadziwa kuti mkazi ayenera kugwirana chanza akamagwedeza manja, koma izi ziyenera kuganiziridwa. Kupereka moni kwa mlendo aliyense ayenera kukhala chimodzimodzi, malinga ndi malamulo a makhalidwe abwino paulendo, wina sayenera kusankha wina. Ngati kampaniyo sinawadziwe, iyenera kuperekedwa kwa eni eni.

Mukamayankhulana ndi alendo kapena alendo ena, simukuyenera kuyika manja anu, kuwaika m'mapokoteni, kuwatsogolera pazinthu zosiyanasiyana, kapena kugwirana nthawi zonse ndi interlocutor. Ngati thumba liri m'manja, sizingatheke kutsegulidwa nthawi zonse ndikutsekedwa, ndi bwino kuliika pamalo ofikirika. Mlendo wokhala ndi interlocutor ayenera kuchita momwe mukufuna kuti akuchitireni. Choncho, simusowa kubwerera kumbuyo, kusiya ndudu, ngati wosasuta, phokoso, kuseka mokweza, kudandaula za mavuto.

Malingana ndi khalidwe labwino pa phwando, atakhala pansi patebulo, muyenera kusuntha mpando wanu pafupi, ndi manja onse awiri. Achinyamata sayenera kukhala pamipando yawo mpaka akazi ndi achikulire atakhala pansi.

Pa ulendo muyenera kuchita zinthu mwanjira yoti wina asawononge maganizo anu, ngati alipo, chifukwa nthawi zambiri izi zingasokoneze chikhalidwe chonse cha tchuthi. Palibe vuto silingasonyeze kusakhutira kwawo ndi kampani kapena kuchita. Zakudya zosankhika sizikanakanidwe. Ngati simukufuna kudya, mukhoza kungonena kuti mudzawayesa kenako.

Musaiwale za malamulo a khalidwe la ana pa phwando. Sikoyenera kuti mwana wanu aloĊµe kupyola mu zipinda ndikulira, kuthana chirichonse popanda chilolezo, kudya ndi manja kapena kusokoneza zinthu. Tiyenera kuonetsetsa kuti chikhalidwe cha mwanayo chili pamwamba.

Ndipo potsiriza, musakhale motalika kwambiri, chifukwa zingathe kutopa kwambiri. Tangolingalirani momwe mwakhama mwakhama kuti mupange chikondwerero, ndi nthawi yochuluka yotani imene mwiniwakeyo amakhala pafupi ndi stowe. Pamapeto a tchuthi iwo akufuna kuti apumule, koma, ndithudi, sangathe kukutulutsani. Choncho, muyenera kukhala olemekezeka ndikudziwa muyeso mu chirichonse.