Palibe munthu padziko lapansi amene sangawope chilichonse. Zina zimawopa m'maganizo mwathu pa msinkhu wa nkhaŵa, ena amatembenukira ku phobias weniweni, kuphwanya moyo wathu wamtendere. Koma kodi kumverera kumeneku kumachokera kuti, kumatha kutembenuzira moyo ndi thupi, kuchititsa mtima kugunda mobwerezabwereza ndi kudzuka mu thukuta lozizira usiku? Ndipo chofunikira kwambiri, momwe mungagonjetsere kumverera kwa mantha? Tiyeni tiyesere kumvetsetsa nkhani iyi yofulumira.
Zifukwa za mantha
Kukumverera mantha, monga zowawa zina zonse, zimayambira mu kuya kwa chikumbumtima chathu. Ndipo nthawi zambiri sitidziwa kumene zimachokera. Mwachidule, timayamba kumva kuti sitinasangalale, timayamba kuda nkhaŵa, kenako timakhala ndi mantha. Koma pofuna kuthana ndi chisokonezo ichi, munthu ayenera kudziwa chiyambi chake.
Zowopsya zonse za munthu zimabwera chifukwa cha zifukwa zazikulu zitatu:
- Kuphatikizidwa ku zinthu za dziko loyandikana ndi kudalira pa iwo. Tonsefe timakonda kudzizungulira ndi anthu kapena zinthu, popanda zomwe sitingathe kuziganizira. Mwachidziwikire, mkati mwathu timakhala ndi mantha otaika zinthu izi ndi anthu awa. Tikamamatirira iwo, timakhala odalira, ndipo timasiya malo ochepa kuti tiganizire kuti chilichonse chimatha kapena kutha.
- Kusakhala ndi chikhulupiriro mwa Mulungu ndi mphamvu zakumwamba. Zachilendo ngati zingamveke, koma kwa osakhulupirira pali mantha ndi mantha nthawi zambiri kuposa anthu okhulupilira. Izi zimakhala zovuta makamaka panthawi ya mavuto, pamene munthu alibe thandizo lauzimu ndikuyamba kuopa kudalira luso ndi mwayi. M'malo mwake, okhulupilira amakhala mwamtendere komanso mwamtendere. Amakhulupirira kuti ngakhale m'nthaŵi zovuta, Chinachake chapamwamba chimateteza mabanja awo ndi iwo eni. Kuphatikiza apo, iwo ali omasuka ku mantha aakulu aumunthu - imfa, tk. mu zipembedzo zonse, anthu amakhulupirira mu moyo pambuyo pa imfa.
- Nkhawa ndi mantha chifukwa cha kusowa kwawo. Mudziko lapansi, anthu ambiri omwe sakhulupirira mphamvu zawo, amawopa kuti achoke ku misala ndikudziwonetsera okha. Iwo akuwopa kuti adzanyozedwa chifukwa cha kusowa kwawo. Kuchokera ku mantha iwo amapanga ngakhale zolakwitsa zambiri, ndipo bwalo lozungulira limatseka, kukhala wopanda malire.
- Phobias ndi mantha amantha. Zosiyanazi ndizochokera ku ntchito za psyche ndi zosamvetsetseka. Phobias amapezeka ngakhale ali mwana ndipo kenako amakhala osatha. Mtundu wina wa phobia ndi zotsatira za moyo m'mizinda ikuluikulu. Chifukwa cha kusunthika komanso kuthamanga kwambiri, kusungulumwa pakati pa anthu ndi kudzipatula lerolino, anthu ambiri amamva mantha ndipo posakhalitsa amakhala odwala a maganizo ndi a maganizo a maganizo.
- Gawo losiyana ndi mantha a amayi. Pali nkhawa zomwe zimayambira mu chiwerewere chofooka. Ndipo amapezeka nthawi zambiri. Ena mwa otchuka kwambiri amatha kudziwika: mantha a kutayika mwana, mantha a kubala, mantha a ukalamba, kusungulumwa ndipo potsiriza, mantha a makoswe, tizilombo ndi njoka. Zonsezi, ziwalo zonsezi zimagwirizana ndi cholinga chachikulu cha mkazi - kupitiriza kwa mtunduwu ndipo ambiri mwa iwo amakhala ndi maina.
Zoonadi, munthu aliyense, ngati sakudziwa zenizeni, amadziŵa kwenikweni chiyambi cha mantha ake. Ndipo imakhalabe yaing'ono, koma yothandizira kwambiri mu ndondomeko yamalingaliro, monga kuthana ndi mantha.
Kodi mungachotse bwanji mantha?
Pali mawu akuti ngati mukuwopa chinachake, ndiye kuti muyenera kuchita choyamba. Ndipo sikuti mulibe gawo lina la malingaliro. Kungoyang'ana pa mantha athu, tikhoza kuwaletsa. Kodi mungathetse bwanji mantha ndi kuiwala za izo kwamuyaya? Pali njira zingapo zopangira izi:
1. Yesetsani kusamalitsa zomwe mukuchita ndikungopitiriza kuchita zina. Dzifunseni nokha: "Inde, ndikuwopa, koma ndikuchitabe." Mundikhulupirire, palibe chomwe chingakhoze kufanizitsa ndi kumverera kwa chigonjetso chimene mudzamverera mutatha kuthana ndi mantha anu.
2. Talingalirani zotsatira zoipitsitsa zomwe mukuchita. Tiyerekeze kuti mukuda nkhawa musanagwire ntchitoyi, ndipo simungasiyire nkhawa ndi mantha. Tangolingalirani chinthu choipitsitsa chimene chidzachitike, ngati chomwe mukuwopa chidzachitikabe. Yesetsani kudzikonzekera nokha ku zotsatira zotere za zochitika ndi tsatanetsatane wa chithunzi cha kugwa kwanu. Mukangomaliza, mantha anu adzakusiyani.
3. Phunzitsani kugwira ntchito ndi mantha anu pogwiritsa ntchito njira yothandiza:
- Dziwani kuti ndiwotani umene uli wofunika kwambiri m'moyo wanu ndipo umasokoneza moyo wanu;
- Awonongeke pang'onopang'ono kuti pangopangidwe mantha ang'onoang'ono asanu;
- ayambe kuthana ndi mantha owopsya mu njira zomwe tawonetsera pamwambapa;
- Kugonjetsa mwanjira imeneyi mantha ena ena;
- Kambiranani mobwerezabwereza machitidwe awa pamene muli ndi kumverera kwa nkhawa ndi mantha.
Anthu ambiri omwe adapambana m'nthaŵi yawo adadutsanso mantha awo. Ndipo onse amavomereza chimodzimodzi: kuthekera kuti zomwe tikuopa kuti zidzatichitikire ndizosavuta nthawi zonse. Khalani okonzekera zotsatira za zochitikazo, ndipo posachedwapa mudzazindikira kuti mulibe mantha.