Nthawi ndi nthawi, munthu aliyense amabwerera kumbuyo, ndikumvetsa chisoni komanso amakumbukira nthawi zakale. Izi ndi zoona makamaka kwa okalamba omwe amadziwa kuti moyo wadutsa, kuti ndichedwa kwambiri kuyamba chirichonse, ndipo amangokhala kuti aganizire zomwe zinachitika. Kodi chikhulupiliro - mu nkhaniyi.
Chisangalalo - ndi chiyani?
Mawu awa ndi ochokera ku Chilatini ndipo amatanthauzidwa kuti "kusungunula kwa amayi". Anthu omwe ali ndi chidwi ndi chidziwitso chotani, ayenera kuyankhidwa kuti kumverera kwachilendo kwakhala kwa nthawi yaitali kuti ndi matenda, chifukwa zovuta za imfa chifukwa cholakalaka kunyumba si zachilendo. Panthawi ina anaphunzira ndi dokotala wochokera ku Switzerland I. Hofer. Anayang'ana asilikali odwala komanso ophunzira akukakamizika kukhala kunja kwa dzikolo, ndipo adazindikira kuti atabwerera kunyumba iwo anachira mwamsanga. Mpaka pano, mawu awa agwiritsidwa ntchito kumverera omwe amakumana nazo zamoyo zilizonse.
Kodi kudalira zabwino kapena zoipa?
Mawu awa sangaperekedwe kaya maonekedwe abwino kapena oipa. Kulakalaka kungaphatikizepo ndi kumverera kopanda chiyembekezo ndi kusagonjetserana kowawa, ndipo kungakhoze kuchita zokoma ndi zokondweretsa. Chisangalalo ndi chabwino, ndipo akatswiri ambiri a maganizo a maganizo omwe amaphunzira malingaliro okhudza malingaliro ameneŵa m'mitundu ndi zipembedzo zosiyanasiyana, mafilosofi amavomereza. Chilakolako, munthu amatsimikizira kuti "I" wake, mgwirizano ndi magawo oyambirira a moyo umalimbitsa, kupitiriza kwa mibadwo ndi miyezo yapamwamba ya makhalidwe ndi zikhalidwe zimayambira.
Kodi chikhalidwe chimakhudza bwanji thanzi?
Pa nthawi imene iye ankaonedwa kuti ndi matenda a maganizo, khalidwe lokhalo la anthu ochokera kudziko lina, chikoka chake pa chikhalidwe cha munthuyo chinali cholakwika. Vuto la chisangalalo chinali kuti linawonetsedwa ndi kuvutika maganizo, nkhawa ndi kusowa tulo. Pakati pa asilikali a nkhondo ya Napoleonic, kumverera uku kunali kofanana ndi mliri. M'dziko lamakono, zotsatira zake pa mtima waumunthu zimawonedwa ngati zabwino.
Zimakhulupirira kuti kudalira nthawi zam'mbuyomu kumalimbitsa thanzi, kumadzitamandira. Kukumbukira za anthu oyandikana nawo, zochitika zofunika kapena malo omwe munthu amamva kuti amamukonda ndi wotetezedwa, amakhala ndi chidaliro m'tsogolo. Alibe pangozi ndipo ali ndi chiyembekezo cha tsogolo. Kulakalaka zakale kumathandiza kupulumuka kusungulumwa ndipo izi ndi zofunika kwambiri kwa anthu achikulire amene, pamapeto pa moyo, nthawi zambiri amavutika maganizo , khalani okha.
Chisangalalo ndi kuvutika maganizo
Komabe, kuyembekezera nthawi zakale, ndi zophweka kwambiri kugwera mu kusimidwa ndi chisoni, chifukwa chofuna kudziŵa chomwe chidziwitso chiri, ndikofunikira kukumbukira kuti kumverera uku ndi kovuta kwambiri. Kukumbukira, munthu amamanganso zochitika zake zakale, osabweretsanso zochitika zapitazo, koma kuyang'ana kwake moyenera pa zomwe zinachitika. Ichi ndi chododometsa chachikulu: anthu amanjenjemera ndikumva chisoni ngakhale pa zochitika zoopsya kwambiri zakale.
Dziwani kuti chikhulupiliro chikhoza kusudzulana kapena kupatukana ndi wokondedwa wanu, kukhala ndi moyo wochepa, kusowa ndalama. Ziribe kanthu momwe ziliri zabwino pakalipano, kulakalaka kudzawoneka kuti kuli bwino kusiyana ndi kale, sikudzakhalanso ndikugwera m'masautso otere, omwe sichivuta kutuluka popanda kuthandizidwa ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo.
Chisangalalo - chikuchitika ndi chiani?
- Matenda. Ngati mumwalira chifukwa cha ululu, ndiye kuti kumverera kumeneku ndilo ndondomeko ya matenda oopsa. Panthawi yomwe asilikali a ku Swiss ankapita kumayiko ena, sankafuna kuimba nyimbo zawo, kuti asakhumudwitse.
- Kumva kuti ndikulakalaka ndikulakalaka zosakwaniritsidwe. Mtundu uwu ndi wosiyana kwambiri ndi amuna omwe angafune kukonza zolakwa zakale, pamene akazi amangokumbukira nthawi yomwe iwo anali okondwa.
- Chodabwitsa cha kugwirizana. Katswiri wa zamaganizo wa ku America E. Erikson amakhulupirira kuti munthu aliyense amapita moyo wake masitepe asanu ndi asanu ndi atatu ndipo chisangalalo ndicho chotsiriza. Pa nthawi imeneyi, nthawi yoganizira ndi kuganizira zapitazo ikuyamba.
Chisangalalo cha kale
Ngati pali chilakolako cha malo obadwira, ndiye kuti mu nyumba yatsopano ndi bwino kupachika chithunzi cha achibale anu ndi anzanu, okondedwa ku mtima wa dziko lapansi. Mukhoza kulankhulana nawo nthawi zonse ndikuitana, kulemba makalata, kulankhula pa skype. Pemphani momwe mungapirire chidziwitso cha zakale, mungalangize kuti musamangomva, musadzipatse nthawi yokonda, ndipo mutu wanu upite kukagwira ntchito. Mu nthawi yanga yosangalatsa, sangalalani, mukakumana ndi anzanga, musangalale. Ndiponsotu, ndi chiani chithunzithunzi chomwe chimatanthauza kukhumudwa ndi kukhumudwa, choncho muyenera kuchita chilichonse chomwe chikuwachotsa.
Chisangalalo cha ubwana
Maganizo amenewa amadziwikanso kwa aliyense ndipo amagwirizana ndi nyumba yamtengo wapatali, kutentha kwa manja a amayi anga, malangizo a bambo anga komanso fungo labwino kwambiri. Zikuonekeratu kuti pamene zaka zikupita mosalekeza, makolo amakalamba, ndipo amene adakali mwana, amakakamizika kutenga udindo ndi kuthetsa mavuto awo okhaokha. Kulowa mu chisokonezo sizowopsya. Ndizoopsa kwambiri kutumiza chilichonse chimene makolo amaika mwa mwana wawo, chifukwa cha zomwe amakhala, chifukwa munthu ali moyo, pamene akum'kumbukira. Mitengo ya mibadwo yakhala yotchuka kwambiri ndipo ndi yabwino.
Kodi chikhulupiliro cha munthu ndi chiyani?
Zimakhala kuti mumakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi munthu amene amathandiza kwambiri pamoyo. Mwamuna kapena mkazi wokondedwa, amayi kapena alangizi amathandiza ndikuthandiza, amapereka malangizo, koma pazifukwa zina izi zogwirizana. Zili zoonekeratu kuti kupitiliza moyo popanda kuthandizidwa koteroko kuli kovuta ndipo pali chikhulupiliro cha ubale. Munthu aliyense amakumana ndi nthawiyi mwa njira yake, koma pali wina kapena chinachake chimene chimalimbikitsa, chimapatsa mphamvu komanso chikhumbo choyendabe, ngakhale mu dzina la kukumbukira amene anali pafupi.
Mmene mungagwirire ndi mantha?
Ngati mumamva bwino, musamane izi. Ndikofunika kufotokoza tsogolo layamiko chifukwa cha zochitikazi ndikupitiriza. Ngati lingaliro lamphamvu limabweretsa mavuto okha, kupweteka ndi chisoni, ndiye kuti muyenera kupeza chilimbikitso - chinthu chomwe chiyenera kupitiliza kukhala ndi moyo. Njira yabwino ndiyo kuthandiza omwe ali oipitsitsa, omwe ali m'mavuto. Mukhoza kupempha Mulungu kuti akuthandizeni ndikulandira uphungu wa wansembe. Mtumiki aliyense wa tchalitchi anganene kuti kudandaula ndi tchimo ndikutanthawuza kusangalatsa satana.
Moyo umaperekedwa kamodzi kokha ndipo ngati mumakhala nthawi zakale, simungathe ngakhale kuwona. Chifukwa kudandaula ndi_ndi zomvetsa chisoni za nthawi zammbuyo, koma nthawiyina mphindi yamakono idzakhala inanso yapitayo ndipo munthuyo ayamba kudzimvera chisoni. Ndipo, ndi liti, kukhala moyo? Ndipo wina ayenera kukhala pano ndi tsopano, akondwere mu tsiku lililonse latsopano ndikuthokoza cholinga chake ndi Mulungu kwa zomwe amapereka.