Nthawi zambiri timawoneka mwachimwemwe maloto, omwe tikuwathamangitsa, omwe tikulimbana nawo, ndipo, tikakwaniritsa, pazifukwa zina sitinakhutire. Nchifukwa chiyani chimwemwe chimachokera kwa munthu komanso chomwe chiri kumapeto? Izi ndi zomwe tidzakambirana ndi inu lero.
"Munthu analengedwa kuti akhale wachimwemwe, ngati mbalame yowuluka," - mwinamwake mukudziwa mawu awa (VG Korolenko, "Chodabwitsa"). Komabe, kodi timamvetsetsa tanthauzo la mawu awa? Taganizirani: tonsefe tinalengedwa osangalala. Ndipo pamene mudali aang'ono, kuti mukhale osangalala simunasowe zifukwa zina. Munkafunikira zifukwa zokha kuti musakhale osangalala. Choyamba muyenera kumvetsa kamodzi kokha: Munthu amabadwira kuti akhale wachimwemwe.
Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani, patapita nthawi, timasowa kukhala osangalala chifukwa chachabechabe?
Nchifukwa chiyani timamenyera nkhondo?
Ndipo, chowonadi, ndi chiyani cholimbana nacho chomwe chimaperekedwa kwa ife kuchokera kubadwa? Chimwemwe cha anthu ena nthawi zambiri chimatiwoneka ngati chinthu chachibadwa, koma kwa ife tikuyang'ana chifukwa. Ndipo timayesetsa kukhala osangalala, ndikudzilonjeza tokha, monga maswiti, kuti zinthu zichitike. Nzosadabwitsa kuti chimwemwe ndi chofanana ndi chokoma - chokoma, koma mwamsanga zimasungunuka.
Komabe, izi zimachitika chifukwa timaphunzitsidwa: kukhala osangalala, tikusowa chifukwa. Kukonzekera uku kumafalikira ku mibadwomibadwo, ndipo chimwemwe chimakhala chinsinsi chomwe tikuyesera kuthetsa. Ndiye, kodi munthu ayenera kukhala nacho chiyani kuti akhale wachimwemwe?
Zinsinsi za Chimwemwe
Chinsinsi choyamba ndi chakuti chimwemwe cha moyo chimabisala nthawi yosangalatsa, koma mwakumverera komweko kwa chisangalalo. Ndipotu, monga mukudziwa kale, chimwemwe chiri mu moyo wa munthu aliyense kuchokera kubadwa. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kuseka mukadandaula. Ayi, chimwemwe chenicheni chimamveka ngati nyimbo, ndipo chikhoza kukhala kumbuyo. Munthu wodala amakhala ndi mavuto, koma ndizochitika zokha zomwe zikusiyana ndi moyo wachisangalalo. Ndi misonzi - mikanda yokha yomwe imamangirizika pa ulusi wolimba - chimwemwe.
Chinsinsi chachiwiri: mu chimwemwe mungathe kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi. N'zosadabwitsa kuti akunena kuti munthuyo ndi smith wa chisangalalo chake, amene amapanga chisangalalo chabwino. Nazi malangizo ena:
- tsiku lililonse kuyang'ana chifukwa cha kuyamikira. Idzapezeka nthawi zonse. Ngakhale m'mawa wokongola kunja kwawindo mungathe kuthokoza. Mukamayamikira kwambiri, mumasangalala kwambiri;
- kuseka ndi kumwetulira kawirikawiri. Kwa ichi, nthawizina simukusowa chifukwa. Kumwetulira kungabweretse chisangalalo chabwino, monga momwe mtima wabwino umayambira kumwetulira;
- Dzivomerezeni nokha. Pewani kudzimva kuti ndinu wolakwa, zonse zomwe zili mdziko lapansi zimachokera ku malingaliro anu. Kudzudzula nokha, iwe mosadzimvera ukufuna chilango;
- dzivomerezeni nokha ku chikondi. Bwino pamaso pa galasilo. Chiyaninso chomwe munthu amakhala nacho, ngati sichikondi. Pokha podzikonda nokha, mukhoza kugawana chikondi chanu ndi ena, chifukwa, muyenera kuvomereza, ndi kovuta kugawana chinachake chimene mulibe;
- kubwereza. Choyamba, dzikhululukire nokha ndi zolakwa zanu zakale. Lero ndinu wamkulu kuposa dzulo, choncho mukhale kholo labwino, musamatsatire mkwiyo umene sulipo;
- mukufuna zabwino kwa ena. Chitani izo moona mtima, ndipo mudzamva kuti inuyo mumakhala osangalala;
- khulupirirani moyo wanu. Musati muzichita chirichonse kuchokera pansi
Musayang'ane zachinyengo. Apo ayi, palibe chimwemwe chidzadzaza mtima wanu kunthaka; - tidzipezeni nokha. Ndizotheka mukakhala ndi nthawi yapadera pamoyo wanu. Dzipereke nokha ku nthawi yake yaufulu, kondwerani pa kupambana kwako;
- samalani thupi lanu. Izi zikutanthauza: muzikonda, koma musasankhe. Sangalalani ndi mwambo wodzikonda tsiku ndi tsiku. Ganizirani: ngakhale kugwiritsa ntchito kirimu kungakhale kulengeza kwa chikondi khungu lanu. Njira iliyonse yopangidwa ndi chikondi, idzakhala yogwira mtima kuposa zowonjezera mtengo kwambiri!
- khalani basi. Iwemwini.