Nkhani yokambirana za chikhalidwe cha chikondi monga chikondi ndi chilakolako ndizovuta kwambiri. Mwa kusokoneza mawu awa, anthu nthawi zambiri amalowa mu ubale wochepa, amadzipatula okha komanso okondedwa awo, ndipo amatha kupenga.
Mwina, kutanthauzira kwa mawu awa mu dikishonale ya Ozhegov kudzatithandiza kuti tizindikire momwe chikondi chimasiyanirana ndi chilakolako.
- chikondi - thupi lonse lopweteka, lodzikonda ndi lodzikonda;
- chilakolako - chilakolako choyaka, muzinthu zambiri zogonana.
Maziko a chikondi ndi chiyanjano pakati pa anthu, kumvetsetsa komanso kulemekezana ndi mphamvu ndi zofooka za wina ndi mzake. Chisoni ndi chokopa, chikhumbo chokhala nacho. Kawirikawiri mfundo zimenezi zimagwirizana. Popeza chilakolako chikhoza kukhala chomwecho, kotero khalani m'chikondi.
Mmene mungasiyanitse chikondi ndi chilakolako?
Pamene pali chikondi pakati pa anthu awiri, ntchito iliyonse ndi mawu aliwonse amawunika mogwirizana ndi malingaliro a wina ndi mzake. Chikondi chimakupatsani mwayi wokhala ndi chibwenzi chosatha. Kukulolani kuti muthane ndi zovuta ndi zowopsya, pezani zotsutsana ndi zothetsera zomwe zingakwaniritse zonse ziwiri. Kukhudzidwa payekha sikumverera kolakwika kapena kolakwika. Pano, palinso kulemekeza zilakolako za mnzanu. Komabe, maziko a mgwirizano akadali wodzikonda. Ubale wochokera ku chilakolako sakhala wochepa kwambiri. Chikhumbo chofuna kusangalala kwambiri ndi inu nokha kusiyana ndi chokwatirana chimatha kuwononga chithunzi chonse chabwino.
Kusiyanitsa pakati pa chikondi ndi chilakolako ndibwino, koma sikokwanira kuthetsa malingaliro awiriwa wina ndi mnzake. Mwachikondi, chilakolako chimadziwonetsera ngati chilakolako chofuna kugwirizana kwambiri ndi mnzanu. Ndipo pamene chikondi chimalamulira chilakolako, ubale udzakhala wolimba ndi wosagwedezeka. Mu chilakolako cha chikondi palibe malo. Kumalowa m'malo mwa kusowa chidwi, kusayanjana ndi kudzikonda.
Mwinamwake aliyense amadziwa kupweteka mtima mumtima, chosowa chofulumira chiri pafupi ndi munthu wina, wokonzeka kuchita chirichonse kuti akwaniritse chiyanjano chake. Ndipo pakapita kanthawi mutatha kukwaniritsa zolinga zake, kumangokhala kusamvetsetsa komwe kulikonse kutengeka kwatha kwatha. Kumene chikondi cha chikondi ndi chifundo cha chilakolako chinafa. Zimangokhala kumvetsetsa kuti uyu si munthu yemwe mungakonde kumaliza masiku anu onse. Zonsezi ndi zotsatira za mfundo yakuti mu moyo wanu kumvetsa chikondi ndi chilakolako zimasokonezeka.
Kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa chilakolako ndi chikondi:
- chilakolako chimadza msanga - chikondi chiyenera kukhala choyenera;
- Chilakolako chiri mwamsanga ndipo chimadutsa msanga - chikondi sichifulumira kulikonse ndipo chimachoka pokhapokha chitathamangitsidwa;
- Chilakolako ndi chiwonongeko - chikondi ndi chowonadi, chimapanga ndi kulenga;
- Chilakolako chimagwera panjira, chimataya kunja kwenizeni - chikondi chimabweretsa moyo.
Kusiyanitsa pakati pa chikondi ndi chilakolako ndibwino, koma panthawi yomweyi panthawi yoyamba ya chiyanjano ichi zimakhala zovuta kuti tisiyane. Koma ndi kofunika kuti tichite nthawiyo. Ndipotu, nthawi zonse chilakolako chimabwera kwa anthu omwe alibe ufulu. Chifukwa cha zolakwika ziwirizi, mabanja akugwa, psyche ya ana ndi akulu akuvutika, ndipo ngakhale kuphwanya malamulo kumachitika, kuphatikizapo kupha.
Kodi kumvetsetsa chikondi kapena chilakolako kukulimbikitsani bwanji ndi kukhudzidwa kwa munthu wina? Ingoganizirani malingaliro anu, kuponyera pambali zonse zomwe ziri zopanda pake. Chikondi chimaphatikizapo zinthu zitatu zokopa: ku thupi, ku malingaliro ndi kumoyo wa mnzanuyo. Pa nthawi yomweyi, monga chilakolako chachikulu chimachokera ku kukopa kwa thupi.
Kupitiliza kuchokera pamwambapa, sikuli kovuta kuyankha funsolo, chomwe chiri cholimba ndi chikondi kapena chilakolako. Yankho la kusalakwitsa ndi losavuta, ndithudi chikondi. Amayesedwa ndi nthawi ndi mayesero. Ngakhale chilakolako chochokera pa malingaliro a ogula, amatha msanga monga, mwachitsanzo, kumverera kwa njala.