Mmene mungasunge ubale ndi mnyamata?

Mu moyo wa aliyense, nthawi zina mumakumana ndi "munthu" wanu, mumayamba kukondana, kuyamba chiyanjano chomwe chimakulira kukhala chinthu choyipa, ndiye mutha kumangirira nokha. Koma posachedwa kapena mtsogolo, pakubwera mavuto mu ubale wanu. Sikuti aliyense amatha kumugonjetsa wamasiye. Wina alibe chidziwitso chokwanira pa izi, ndipo wina watopa kwambiri ndi kumenyana. Tiyeni tiyesetse kupeza momwe tingasunge ubale ndikubweretsanso chikhalidwe cha chikondi mu chiyanjano.

Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino?

Kaya mumakumana nawo nthawi yanji, nthawi yanji ya ubale wanu, panthawi iliyonse ya chitukuko chawo, msungwana ndi mnyamata amafunika kuwathandiza, kuika maganizo pa chitukukochi, yesetsani kumvetsetsa. Kuti mumvetse bwino momwe mungasunge ubale ndi mnyamata, ganizirani magawo a kukula kwa ubale uliwonse.

1. Kusonyeza chikondi. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, ndi maluwa - maswiti nthawi. Pafupi ndi gawo ili nthawi zambiri limalembedwa ndi ndakatulo - chikondi. Ambiri omwe ali okwatirana kwa nthawi yaitali, ndikufuna kumvanso m'moyo wanga nthawi yopsompsona, kugonana, chikhumbo chokhala pamodzi nthawi zonse. Chikondi chimenechi chimakhala pafupifupi miyezi isanu ndi umodzi. Cholakwika cha sitejiyi ndi chakuti mungathe kulakwitsa mnzanu ngati mukufuna kumanga mapulani akuluakulu. Ndipotu, pachigawo chachikondi, mukukwera mumitambo ndi chimwemwe, ndipo mnzanuyo akuwoneka kuti ndi abwino kwa inu. Ngati, panthawi ino, mukuzunzidwa ndi kukayikira ngati kuli koyenera kuyanjana, yesetsani kumvetsetsa zomwe simukugwirizana ndi mnzanuyo. Mwinamwake, kusiyana ndi nthawi yomweyo kudula pamapewa, mumayankhula momasuka ndi wokondedwa wanu za zomwe zikukuvutitsani mu chiyanjano chanu.
2. Zoona. Mukuyang'ana kuyang'ana mzakeyo kudzera mu magalasi obiriwira. Nthawi zina mungakhumudwe ndi zizoloŵezi za mnzanuyo, makhalidwe ake. Musaganize mofulumira, ganizirani momwe mungasunge ubale ndi mwamuna. Mwinamwake sikuti akukutsutsani chifukwa chakukhumudwa kwanu. Mwinamwake mwachita zowonjezereka mosiyana ndi makhalidwe ake, pamene anali pachigawo choyamba cha chiyanjano.
3. Kulandiridwa. Uwu ndi mtundu wopitiliza gawo lachiwiri. Inu mumadziwana bwino bwino. Inu mulibe chikhumbo chomukongoletsa mnyamata, inu mumagwirana ntchito wina ndi mzake. Kuyankhulana ndi chinsinsi cha kumvetsetsa. Kawirikawiri, pokhala pa nthawiyi, abwenziwo amapanga chisankho kapena amakhala pamodzi, kapena kukwatira. Yesetsani kutsegula moyo wanu kwa mnzanuyo, mulole kuti inu ndi mnzanu wapamtima, amene mungathe kumanena zonse zomwe ziri zopweteka.
4. Kusamvana pakati pa okwatirana. Pamene muli pamsinkhu uwu, n'zovuta kupeza yankho la momwe mungasunge ubale m'banja. Ndipotu, muli ndi mavuto ambiri omwe mwagonjetsa, koma mwakhala mukukondana kwambiri kuti nthawi zina mumafuna chinachake chatsopano. Mwamwayi, panthawiyi, mabanja ambiri sangathe kusunga chikondi chawo ndi gawo lawo. Ndikoyenera kudziwa kuti pamene mutapeza mphamvu kuti muthandizidwe palimodzi, mutha kukhala ndi chidziwitso chofunika kwambiri chomwe mungachite kuti mukhalebe ndi banja. Ndipo zidzanena kuti zoyembekeza zanu ndi chiyembekezo cha ndalama zomwe mnzanuyo adawonongera, zomwe zinayambira pa gawo loyamba la chibwenzi, sizinali zolakwika. Kumbukirani kuti mikangano, kawirikawiri kapena ayi, nthawi zonse imakhala yachilendo. Izi zikusonyeza kuti aliyense wa inu ndi munthu, aliyense ali ndi lingaliro lake lomwe. Chinthu chachikulu ndikupeza njira yothetsera yankho lanu.
5. Kulumikizana. Panthawi imeneyi ya chitukuko, mumatha kudziwuza nokha zomwe mungachite kuti mukhalebe pachibwenzi. Ndipotu, mwafika pa siteji yomwe imasonyeza kuti mwadziwa chikondi. Mumamva chikondi kwa mnzanuyo. Nthawi zina mumadziwa kuti ndinu okondwa kwambiri ndipo mukufuna kugawana chikondi ichi ndi dziko lonse lapansi. Malangizo okha - Pitirizani kukambirana ndi mnzanuyo ndipo kumbukirani kuti nthawi zonse muyenera kugwira ntchito pa ubale.

Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale pachibwenzi?

Potsiriza ine ndikufuna kudziwa momwe ndingasinthire tsiku lirilonse lomwe ndimakhala ndi wokondedwa, mu tsiku lodzazidwa ndi chikondi, mosiyana ndi masiku ena. Izi zimadalira malingaliro anu. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito ndalama zambiri pazipangizo. Onetsani chikondi pakati pa wokondedwa mnzanu, pom'pempha.

Ndiyenela kudziŵa kuti ubale ukhoza kusungidwa pa gawo lililonse la chitukuko chawo. Chinthu chachikulu mwa izi ndi chikhumbo chofanana cha abwenzi.