Monga lamulo, ndi mwambo kulankhula za munthu, khalidwe labwino, kuti ali ndi mwana.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amamasulira kuti infantilism ndi kukhalapo kwa makhalidwe aumunthu pamakhalidwe a munthu wamkulu yemwe amadziwika ndi khalidwe labwino. Ubale ndi mwamuna wamng'ono ndi wovuta kumanga, chifukwa suli wodziimira.
Zizindikiro za infantilism mwa amuna
- Iye sakonda ntchito yake, salandira khalidwe labwino kapena zakuthupi kwa iye, koma kwa zaka zambiri amakoka "nsonga" iyi, nthawi zonse akudandaula ndikulonjeza kupeza ntchito ina, popanda kuthandizirapo kanthu.
- Amayi ambiri samvetsa momwe angakhalire ndi mwana wamwamuna wamng'ono, ngati angathe kukangana komanso kulonjeza, koma pafupifupi sakwaniritsa zomwe walonjezedwa. Munthu woteroyo angapange maudindo , koma asakhale pa iwo pansi pa zizindikiro zosiyana, zosavomerezeka.
- Kulankhulana nthawi zonse ndi amayi anga (kuyitana, makalata, kuyendera nthawi zonse, kukambirana kosatha ndi iye pa china chilichonse, ngakhale funso lochepa kwambiri, ndi zina zotero)
- Amayi ambiri samvetsa momwe angakhalire ndi mwana wamwamuna wamng'ono, ngati sazengereza kusonyeza kuti alibe thandizo komanso samatha kumvetsa nkhani za tsiku ndi tsiku.
- Ngati palibe mayi pafupi, ndipo adakalibe ndi chibwenzi ndi mkazi, akuyang'ana bwenzi lomudziwa pogwiritsa ntchito ubale wa "mwana wamwamuna," akuyembekeza kuti adzasamalira mavuto onse, monga amayi ake adachitira, ndipo adzakhala mwana wamwamuna womvera.
Mwamuna wamasiye: zizindikiro zake zimadziwika bwino. Monga lamulo, uyu ndi munthu yemwe ali wokonzeka kukhala moyo wake wonse mu holide inayake ya kumvera, yomwe idakonzedweratu kwa iye ndi mayi yemwe ali ndi mphamvu zamphamvu komanso wovutika ndi mavuto a moyo. Iye "amadziwa bwino" zomwe mwana wake amafunikira ndikumuuza kuti apulumutse moyo wake wonse, makamaka popeza mwanayo amavomereza kuti adzatetezedwa "kosatha". Kawirikawiri amayi oterewa amafunsira okwatirana ndi akazi awo chifukwa cha anzawo - "anyamata."
Musaganize kuti munthu wachinyamata ndi wosavuta kulankhulana: zimakhala zovuta kwa iye, choncho, nthawi zambiri, ngati mwamuna uyu amakoka mkazi ali ndi chinachake, ali ndi funso momwe angakonzekerere chikumbumtima chake chokhumudwitsa cha mayi wolakalaka ndi kuyamba kukhala ndi moyo wabwino.
Ntchitoyi ndi yovuta osati nthawi zonse, ngati munthuyo mwiniwake samva zosowa izi ndipo samvetsa kuti moyo uyenera kusintha kwambiri.