Nkhani zokambirana ndi munthu

Ndi amuna, mofanana ndi amayi, zimakhala zovuta kupeza chinenero choyamba nthawi yoyamba. Kuti mupeze nkhani zoyenera zokambirana ndi mwamuna, musaiwale za malamulo akuluakulu oyankhulana ndi anyamata . Mkazi ndi mkazi ali ovuta kupeza zofanana, chifukwa zonsezi zinalengedwa kuchokera ku chikhalidwe chimodzi poyerekezera ndi munthu.

Choyamba, tisanamvetse mawu omwe anthu amakonda , tiyeni tipeze uphungu waukulu wokhudzana ndi maganizo oyankhulana ndi Adams:

1. Amuna amafunika kulankhulana pang'ono kuposa akazi. Amayi ambiri sawasungira abwenzi awo akamagawana zomwe akuwona tsiku lapitalo. Nthawi zina mumayenera kuima pa nthawi yoyenera, kufikira munthu wanu atachoka.
2. Musaiwale za cholinga cha kuyankhulana kwanu. Kawirikawiri, izi ndizo amuna. Koma, ngati mukufuna kuphunzira momwe mungalankhulire bwino ndi munthu, pangani zolinga zanu. Ngati zokambirana zanu ziri "zachabechabe," mwamsanga mchenjezeni mnzanuyo za kuyankhulana kwabwino, sayenera kuyang'ana mmenemo kwa zopempha, mafunso kapena mfundo zina.
3. Ikani malemba. Ndizodziwika bwino kuti munthu amadziwa bwino kwambiri mawu, kapena samazizindikira m'mawu anu. Ndizovuta kwambiri kwa amuna kuchokera pazinthu 25 zomwe mwazilemba maminiti 30, werengani mzere wa 26 pakati pa mizere. Kwa iwo, zomwe simunalankhule, poyera pokambirana, siziripo. Kumbukirani kuti pokambirana bwino ndi amuna kapena akazi, lankhulani molunjika za zokhumba zanu, za moyo wanu. Musamamuzunze ndi kupanduka.
4. Gwiritsani ntchito machenjerero osiyanasiyana olankhulana. Amuna amatha kugwiritsa ntchito njira imeneyi poyankhulana, zomwe mukuganiza, zidzawoneka zovuta.

Kodi uyenera kunena chiyani kwa mwamuna?

Monga momwe nzeru ya Kummawa imati, "Ngakhale mawu okongola kwambiri akhoza kusangalatsa njoka yoipitsitsa", choncho, sikungakhale zopanda nzeru kupeza mawu omwe anganene kwa munthu.

1. Mwamuna sangavomereze kuti alankhule za zinthu zogula, kuchotsera, maubwenzi osiyanasiyana ndi ntchito zapakhomo. Adzapeza mitu imeneyi "zachabechabe". Amuna amakonda kukambirana zinthu zenizeni kapena zomwe akudziŵa posachedwa, za mpira, ndale, ndi zina. Inde, sikuti amayi onse angathe kuthandizira kukambirana, koma kumbukirani kuti mukhoza kukhala omvera kwambiri.
2. Kumbukirani kuti kumbuyo kwa munthu aliyense wopambana ndi mkazi amene amamukonda. Kambiranani za kupambana kwake. Mulimbikitseni m'mawu anuanu.
3. Azimayi ambiri amakonda kukambirana zolinga zawo mokweza, zomwe zingasokoneze wokondedwa wanu. Amuna onga awa sali achilendo, amadziganizira okha, osatulutsa kuti aziwonekera pagulu, koma pokhapokha phokoso lovomerezeka. Amuna samakhumudwa osati ndi zokambirana za akazi mwadala.
4. Mwinamwake mwawona kuti amuna ena akukambirana amayesa kusokoneza interlocutor, popanda kuganiza kuti wotsiriza akhoza kukhala okhumudwitsa kwambiri. Ngati wothandizira wanu akufuna kukusokonezani pakati pa chiganizo, yesetsani kugwiritsa ntchito njira zake. Chinachake chachitika kwa inu, ndiye nkunena molimba mtima.
5. Kulemera kwaumunthu komwe mumayang'anitsitsa ndizoyamba masekondi 10 mpaka 15 akulankhulana. Poyamba amamvetsera mwatcheru. Musayambe kukambirana ndi zilembo zam'tsogolo, pitani molunjika, ndikugwiritsanso ntchito pa mutu wa interlocutor.

Kodi sitinganene chiyani kwa mwamuna?

1. Sikofunika kwa munthu kuti agawane malingaliro awo onse pa chinachake. Kumbukirani kuti anthu onse akumva momwe akumverera mkati mwawo, komanso, akulankhula mofuula chabe zotsatira zake: "Ndikufuna-sindikufuna," ndi zina zotero.
2. Musamuyitane wokondedwa wanu mayina omwe akukakamiza mukakhala pamalo amodzi.
3. Kumbukirani mawu akuti "Mudalonjeza." Sankhani zomwe mukufuna kunena. Ndi bwino kulankhula molunjika momwe simunakhutire.
4. Musakhumudwitse zokondweretsa zake, muzimulemekeza, choyamba, monga munthu.

Ndi munthu aliyense mukhoza kupeza zofanana. Chinthu chachikulu ndikumvetsa psychology yolankhulana ndi amuna.