Ndine wokondwa kwambiri ngati munapanga pempho lanu pa intaneti mwanjira iyi, koma simunalembe, mwachitsanzo "Momwe mungamumenyere mnyamata kuchokera kwa mnzanu?" Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa amandiuza izi: Inu ndinu munthu wokhwima maganizo ndipo mumadziwa bwino choonadi ichi: Amuna m'moyo wanu akhoza kukhala khumi ndi awiri, ndipo mnzanu wodzipereka, wapadera ndi mphatso yochokera Kumwamba. Ndipo mphatso zochokera kumeneko, monga mukudziwa, zimatsanulira pa ife kwambiri, kawirikawiri. Komabe, pa zokambirana zathu tili ndi mutu wosiyana, wotero, momwe tingamuthandizire munthu wina.
Ndikuganiza kuti funso ili likukuzunzani chifukwa. Mwinamwake panali nthawi pamene, chifukwa cha ichi, munamva kuti mukuphwanyika ndi kuwonongedwa kuti mumangofuna kulowa muzenera ndi kutha - pokhala mutagwiritsa ntchito goose pate, pafupi ndi khoma lapafupi.
Mwinamwake, lingaliro "Ndikufuna kukhumudwitsa chibwenzi chake!" Kwafika mwadzidzidzi mwa inu mosayembekezereka kwa inu. Kapena_chimenenso chingakhale! - Inu basi kwenikweni, mumakonda kwenikweni munthu uyu. Musaganize! Tidzakambirana za momwe mungamenyedwere mnyamata - osati chifukwa chake munaganiza kuti mumumenya.
Kotero, kodi pali njira zina zamtengo wapatali zothandizira mnyamata? Ndikhoza kuitcha osati mwa njira, koma ndi ndondomeko ya khalidwe.
Choyamba, kumbukirani kuti maonekedwe anu mu "Mmene mungamenyetse mnyamata" ntchitoyo idzakhala ndi gawo laling'ono. Kotero, malingaliro monga "Ine ndidzamuchotsa iye ku cholengedwa choyipa ichi mu ziwerengero ziwiri!" Sayenera kuwuka mu chikhalidwe chanu cha emmoni. Monga, ndithudi, ena - "Ndingapikisane nawo ndi kukongola kotere ..." Ichi ndicho choyamba ndi chofunikira chomwe muyenera kuphunzira.
Lamulo lachiwiri loyamba ndi Lamulo la Kukhalapo Kwamuyaya. Ndikutanthauza chiyani? Kufunsa funso la momwe mungamuthandizire mnyamata wina, zimakhala zomveka pokhapokha mutakambirana ndi munthu uyu.
Yesani kusinthanitsa nambala za foni naye - ndipo musayembekezere kuti ayambe kuitanira. Mutchule nokha - kukuyamikirani pa tsiku lanu lobadwa kapena tchuthi, kuti mudziwe momwe zinthu zilili. Koma onetsetsani kuti zokambiranazi pambali panu sizichedwa, ndipo poyamba zinali zochepa kwambiri - monga dongosolo la mantha, losakaniza.
Muloleni iye azidzizoloŵera yekha. Pakapita nthawi, kuwonjezera pa chifuniro chake, kuyitana kwanu kudzakhala kozoloŵera ndi kofunikira pa msinkhu wosadziwika. Mukuti - dikirani nthawi yaitali! Inde, ndi. Zili zokayikitsa kuti mudzatha kum'tenga pakatha sabata kapena mwezi. Koma ine ndikuganiza inu munali ndi chidwi ndi momwe mungamenyere mnyamata kwa nthawi yayitali, osati momwe mungamumenyere munthu usiku umodzi?
Mukawona kuti anayamba kuthandizira foni, ndikufunseni mafunso ndikukhala ndi chidwi ndi zomwe mukuchita, musiye kumuitana ndikudikirira. Ngati simukuyembekeza kuyitana kulikonse, muyenera kuyambiranso. Ngati akukuitanani kuti mudziwe ngati chinachake chakuchitikirani, mumayenda pafupi ndi msewu waminga ndi pointer "Momwe mungamumenyere mwanayo," ndipo mukhoza kupitiriza.
Ndipo kusunthira kwina kukusonyeza kuti tsopano mukufunika kuti mwapang'onopang'ono, koma molimbika mukhale mizu kumbuyo - ndiko, mu ubale wake ndi wina. Yambani mwachifundo kumufunsa mafunso okhudza iye. Mvetserani mwatsatanetsatane mayankho ake - ngakhale m'mawu ake mudzatha kumvetsetsa mmene amachitira ndi momwe amamangiririra.
Musamukwiyitse ndipo musamuuze chilichonse choipa pa iye. M'malo mwake, mumuuzeni momwe amachitira pamodzi ndi momwe zilili zabwino kuyang'ana iwo kuchokera kumbali. Ili ndilo lamulo lachitatu la ntchitoyi "Momwe mungamumenyere mnyamata", ndipo ndingayitchule kuti Good Feedbackback.
Komabe, kumbukirani kuti aliyense pa nthawi iliyonse amakangana. Choncho, khala woleza mtima ndipo dikirani, pamene mphindi yotere ikubwera. Adzakuuzani za kukangana kwawo - inde, ngati mutakwanitsa kale masitepe a marathon "Mmene mungamuthandizire mnyamata kumtsutsana."
Ngati akukuuzani za izi pa foni, mufunseni ngati akufuna kukomana kuti akambirane nkhaniyi pamalo omasuka. Pamene ndikunena kuti "kukomana", ndikutanthauza kuti msonkhanowu, suyenera kuchitika pabwalo lanu, koma kunyumba, komwe iwe ndi iye mungasiyidwe nokha.
Kumbukirani zotsatirazi. Kumva kuchokera kwa iye poyankha mawu akuti "inde", mungaganize kuti mwamva kuchokera kwa iye mawu akuti "Ndikufuna kuti kukambirana uku kukhale pabedi." Koma simukusowa kupanga cholakwika ichi. Sindikutanthauza bedi. Bedi linali pachiyambi tsamba lathu lomalizira, lomaliza la masewera "Mmene mungamuthandizire mnyamata."
Chimene ndikufuna kunena, musalole kuti zokambiranazi zizichitika pabedi. Muloleni iye alankhule, kulikonse - mu khitchini, mu khola, pa khonde. Ngati kokha sikunali kumalo komwe mumamumenya ndi kumupha.
Chinthu china chofunika kwambiri - musamamukhudza malinga ngati akudandaula za wina. Kukhudza kwanu pa chiwerengero cha chikumbumtima chidzasokonezedwa ndi iye komanso chimzake. Kodi mukufunikira izi? Inu mukufuna kumukhumudwitsa mnyamatayo kuchokera kumzake, ndipo musamukhomerere iye.
Koma akazitulutsa, prilaskay-priboglub, monga akunena. Pang'onopang'ono ndikuchikhudza - kapena, monga momwe amachitira ndiubwenzi, mutsatire mosavuta. Khulupirirani ine, iye akubweretsani inu kuti mudzagone nokha ...
Chabwino, ndikuyembekeza kuti nsalu ya nkhosa imakuwonongerani zambiri, ndipo chifukwa chake simunadzifunse pang'onopang'ono ndi kulingalira: "Chabwino, ndiyenera kuchita chiyani?"
Tiyeni tipitenso patsogolo - cholinga, chosinthidwa "Mmene mungamenyere munthu wina" sichinali chokwanira, ndipo ndondomeko yotsiriza, monga mwachizolowezi, ingakhale yovuta kwambiri. Werengani mosamala zomwe ndikulembera.
Onetsetsani kuti mutuluka pabedi choyamba. Chifukwa chabwino cha izi ndi kupereka kuti amubweretse ndudu kapena chinachake choti amwe. Musayese kuyenda pamaso pake wamaliseche, ziribe kanthu momwe thupi lanu lirili labwino. Ndipo musapange cholakwika chomufunsa ngati mungathe kuponyera malaya ake - njira zathu zowonongolera munthuyo kuti asamayang'ane zinthu zoterozo.
Ndikudziwa kuti zidzakhala zosangalatsa kwambiri kuti mudziwe zotsatirazi - koma, ndikukuuzani izi. Mfundo yoyamba ndi yokhayo yomwe imangotuluka pamutu pake pambuyo pa "pambuyo" ndiyo lingaliro la iye, ndiko kuti, lina. Ndipo chokhumba champhamvu pa nthawi imeneyo adzakhala chilakolako chotha msinkhu kutha - ngati msonkhano unachitikira panyumba panu, kapena mwamsanga mwakukhoza kukuchotsani - ngati mutakumana m'nyumba yake.
Choncho, yambani, muvale (simungathe kunama naye lero), mubweretseni ndudu kapena galasi ndi chinachake chokoma, ndipo mukhale pambali pa bedi. Choyamba, funsani kuti asanene chilichonse - chifukwa simukumupweteka. Khulupirirani kuti iwo adzakhala bwino - ndinu wotsimikiza. Muuzeni kuti ngati akufuna kukhala bwenzi lanu,
Mwachiyankhulo china - muloleni adziwe kuti nthawi yogona sizinakukhudzeni. Adzabweranso kwa inu - ndipo adzabweranso kuti adzakhale ndi inu pabedi, komanso kuti asakambirane mavuto awo ndi wina.
Kodi izi zikutanthauza kuti ndondomeko zotchulidwa pamwambazi zidzakuthandizani kuti mupambane pa mpikisano "Kodi mungamenyane bwanji ndi munthu wina"? Pafupifupi ndithu - inde. Chifukwa chiyani "pafupifupi"? Mukuona, vuto ndilo. Pambuyo pake, kuwonjezera pa njira "Mmene mungamuthandizire mnyamata", pali kusiyana - "Mmene mungamusungire munthuyo." Ndipo ngati mdani wanu akudziŵa bwino kwambiri kuposa inu - ake ... Koma izi ndizokambirana zina ndi mutu wina.