Pamene chifundo kwa munthu wina chimabadwira mu moyo wathu, tikufuna kuti maganizowa akhale ogwirizana. Mkazi aliyense ali ndi luso lachibadwa lokwanira ndi kupusitsa mwamuna kapena mkazi. Komabe, kuti kutuluka kwa malingaliro amodzi ofanana sikukwanira. Psychology imatipatsa malangizo ambiri momwe tingagwirizane ndi munthu. Koma musanawagwiritse ntchito, muyenera kuganiziranso, ndipo kodi ndi bwino kuti mukhale ndi chikondi ndi munthu ameneyu?
Momwe mungagwirizane ndi mwamuna?
Olemba, ndakatulo ndi okonda chikondi amanena kuti chikondi ndikumverera komwe kumabwera kuchokera kwinakwake ndipo sikungathe kulamulidwa. Komabe, akatswiri a zamaganizo amatsimikiza kuti maonekedwe a chikondi nthawi zonse ndi olondola komanso otsimikiziridwa ndi zomwe munthu amakumana nazo pamoyo wake, khalidwe lake ndi khalidwe lake. Kutanthauza kuti, pokhala ndi chidziwitso chokhudza munthu, mukhoza kukondana naye.
Psychological ya kulankhulana imapereka malingaliro otere monga kukondana ndi munthu:
- Ndikofunika kupeza chinthu chomwe chimagwirizanitsa anthu awiri. Zingakhale zosangalatsa, zokhumba, ntchito, zochitika pamoyo. Zomwe zimagwirizana kwambiri, zimakhala zabwino, chifukwa zimakopa anthu omwe ali ndi mzimu womwewo. Zitatha izi, m'pofunika kumusonyeza munthuyo zofanana. Inde, izi ziyenera kuchitidwa mosavuta, ngati kuti mwangozi. Komabe, kufanana kumayenera kukhala koona, mwinamwake iwo sakhulupirira izo.
- Nthawi yofunika kwa iwo amene akuyang'ana momwe angagwirizane ndi munthu ali patali ndiwonetsedwe ka chidwi chenicheni mwa iye. Munthu ayenera kumverera kuti ali ndi chidwi ndi khalidwe lake, khalidwe lake, kuganiza kwake . Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kuphunzira kufunsa mafunso omwe amathandiza kukambirana ndikuchititsa chikhumbo choyankhulana.
- Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa zomwe mwamuna amakonda mmaonekedwe a mkazi ndikuyesera kutsindika mfundo izi mwa iyeyekha.
- Pakukambirana, ndibwino kugwiritsa ntchito mfundo yakuwonetsera. Icho chimaphatikizapo kubwereza chikhalidwe cha munthuyo, manja ndi ngakhale liwiro lakulankhula ndi kuyankhula. Iyenera kuchitidwa mosamala ndi mwachibadwa.
- Munthu aliyense amasankha kukhala pafupi ndi munthu amene akumva mosavuta komanso momasuka. Choncho, mbali yofunikira ya momwe mungagwirire ndi mnyamata ndikutenga malo abwino. Khalidwe labwino la msungwana, losavuta, kuseka ndi kuwona mtima kumathandiza munthu kukhala omasuka ndi omasuka, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti akhale ndi mwayi wokhalamo.