Pikaper - ndi ndani, momwe angazindikire chojambula mu moyo?

Chiyambi cha papepalachi chimabwerera ku nthawi zakale pamene akazi adanyengedwa ndi Don Juan, Giacomo Casanova. Pikaper wamakono - ndani uyu? Wofufuza wa chikhalidwe chachikazi kapena mwamuna yemwe amasangalala ndi zosangalatsa zogonana, ndi asungwana oponderezana mu zosangalatsa zake zokondweretsa?

Kodi ndi wojambula wotani?

Pa intaneti, chithunzichi chimakhala ndi makhalidwe osakondweretsa ndipo chimayambitsa mkwiyo mu chiwerewere chabwino. Ndani ali munthu wosankha? Uyu ndi munthu amene amagwiritsa ntchito njira zina zowonongolera atsikana kuti azitha kugonana ndikuthawa pomwepo ndikugonjetsa zotsatirazi. Chojambulacho chikhoza kufanikizidwa ndi fano la njenjete likuyenda kuchokera ku maluwa kupita ku maluwa.

Chojambula chojambula - ndi chiyani?

Choyimira - mu mlembi wa 1992 wa ku America, Paul Jeffrey, mu bukhu lake "Momwe mungakokweretsere mkazi wa maloto anu mu kama" amatchedwa njira yonyenga yonyenga kwa amuna omwe ali otopa chifukwa chokhala abwino, koma kulephera ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo. Sakanizani kumasulira kuchokera ku Chingerezi. slang kunyamula - "kunyamula", "kuchoka" - luso lokopa mofulumira, lochokera kumadzulo. Msonkhano womwe umapezeka pa kapepala umakhala pa "3 maulendo":

1. Yoyambira siteji - kudziwana. Kusaka msungwana pamalo ammudzi: metro, mapaki, mabungwe. Cholinga ndi kupeza nambala ya foni (osapitirira mphindi 15).
2. Tsiku loyamba - chojambula chimapanga chikhulupiliro, chimagwiritsa ntchito kuwala, kuyang'ana kokongola. Chigogomezero chonse chiri pa zokambirana za mtsikana ponena za iye mwini, amamuwongolera nthawi zonse. Cholinga ndikutulutsa chidwi (sikungotenge oposa ola limodzi), komanso kuti msonkhano ukuchitika.
3. Kusankhidwa kwachiwiri ndiko kunyenga ndi manja: kukumbatirana, kugwedeza, kupondereza, kuyesera kusonyeza kuti ananyamulidwa ndi mtsikana. Nthawi yaying'ono kwa maola 4-5. Cholinga cha msonkhano ndi kusintha kosavuta kumsonkhano wachitatu ndi kumaliza kwake kwa kugonana kwake, kapena ngati mtsikanayo sali wokonzekera, mumuitane iye kuchitatu.
4. Tsiku lachitatu . Cholinga ndi kugonana. Kwa ichi, kunyamula "mwangozi" kukumbukira kuti pali malo amodzi omwe ali nyumba yake, kapena nyumba ya abwenzi.

Kodi galimoto yabwino ndi chiyani?

Njira iliyonse ili ndi zotsatira zoipa komanso zabwino. Chojambula mu kutanthauzira kwamakono chinagawidwa m'mitsinje: chojambula chodetsedwa ndi kupusitsa mwadala. Sikuti anthu onse amadziwa momwe angadziŵe bwino ndikukhala momasuka ndi amayi. Winawake ali ndi manyazi amanyazi, ena amakhala ndi zovuta zambiri payekha, koma ali ogwirizana ndi chilakolako chodziwana ndi mtsikanayo chifukwa cha ubale wautali. Mapulogalamu a galimotoyo anazindikira kuti:

• kuwona mwa mkazi munthu yemwe ali ndi chuma chamdziko lapansi;
• kuphunzira za thupi kuti adziwe chizindikiro, pamene mtsikanayo sadziwa kuti adziwe;
• kusintha;
• ntchito ndi kudzidalira;
• kuphunzira za mantha kuchokera kwa anzako

Nchiyani cholakwika ndi galimoto yamakina?

Psychology yamapangidwe imamangidwa pa njira zowonongeka za njira ya neurolinguistic program (NLP) yotsegulidwa ndi Richard Bendler. Kugwiritsiridwa ntchito kwa njirayi kunakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi njira zozizwitsa: zokhudzana ndi thupi, zomveka, zooneka bwino, wogwidwa ndi phukusi zimayambira mu mtundu wa thunzi, chithumwa chokhwima. Wofiira wamapikopa - ndani uyu? Gulu la anyamata omwe mzimu wa mpikisano ndi utsogoleri umabwera poyamba. Njira zomwe zimagwiritsa ntchito kunyamula:

1. Zimatsutsana ndi mfundo zachikhalidwe.
2. Iwo akukonzekera kudzichepetsa kudzikuza kwa mtsikanayo. M'mayeserowa, gwiritsani ntchito banter, nthabwala zosiyanasiyana (osati kuvala mafashoni, tsitsi lopsa, etc.).
3. Zomvetsa chisoni, mtima. Zingatheke ndi zochitika zosayembekezereka: kukonda nyama, kukhumba maulendo komanso kukamba zachangu. Atsikana amakhudzidwa ndi zoterezi, zomwe zikutanthawuza kuti - kunyamula kukwaniritsa cholinga chake.

Kodi mungadziwe bwanji zojambulajambula?

Amayi ambiri omwe anali ndi masewera a anthu osakhulupirika anafunsa funsoli: momwe angadziwire zojambula mu moyo, kuti asamve ululu wa "ntchito" kachiwiri. Dziwani ichi "maso" angakhale pamaziko a:

1. Kunali kovuta poyankhula.
2. Osakhala congruent boma: zochita, maganizo, nkhope, manja, maganizo amatsutsana. Zimasonyeza chisangalalo - ndi mapewa ndi pakamwa pakamwa, manja adadutsa patsogolo pa chifuwa.
3. Kusamala kwakukulu kumaperekedwa kwa mawonekedwe: chovala chosakongola, mafuta onunkhira.
4. Kuyambira pikaper amayesetsa kuti atenge telefoni kuchokera kwa mtsikanayo ndi kubisala, ndi "zochitika" zimapereka kukambirana nthawi.
5. Kuyankhulana kumayamba ndi mawu osakhala ofanana omwe samawaphatikiza odziwa.
6. Mmene mungasiyanitse katswiri wamakono wochokera kwa munthu wokondweretsadi: zithunzizo zimapereka malo okayendera kumene kulibe kusowa kulipira mtsikana.

Posachedwapa, gulu la anthu okhudzidwa ndi amayiwa linatengedwa ndi oimira ofooka. Mkazi wa Pikaper - ndi ndani ndipo ndi chiani chachikazi chosiyana ndi chachimuna? Atsikana amagwiritsa ntchito njira zofanana zogonana, koma cholinga chachikulu chingakhale chosiyana: kusudzulana kwa ndalama, kusonkhanitsa amuna, kapena kukwatira. Mzimayi akhoza kukomana ndi amuna angapo nthawi imodzi, ndipo aliyense adzatsimikiza kuti ndi iye yekha.

Kodi mungayankhule bwanji ndi ojambula?

Pikaper ndi munthu wopita ku cholinga chake, pa nkhaniyi ndi chinyengo ndi kugonana. Mtsikana ndi chinthu chimene safuna kudziwa, koma amatenga mphoto kuti ayesetse. Ngati mkazi amvetsetsa izi pamaso pa wonyengererayo pomwe mukulankhulana ndi ojambula ojambula mungagwiritse ntchito njira:

1. Sungani yekha kwa iye, funsani mafunso ambiri okhudza moyo wake, banja lake.
2. Musanyalanyaze kupembedzera ndi kuyamikirika ku adilesi yanu: Yankhani "Inde, ndikudziwa zokongola (zanzeru, othamanga)".
3. Kuti azitsogoleredwa ndi kukhazikika mtima komanso kusamalidwa, atangokhala ndi maganizo osokonezeka pokambirana - kusiya kulemba, ponena za ntchito.

Momwe mungagwirizane ndi wokonda kujambula?

Mwamuna - wonyengerera - ndi munthu wamba amene ali ndi mavuto ake ndipo nayenso sangathe kukonda "nsembe" yake. Ubale ndi ojambula otha kukonzekera n'zotheka ndipo, kwa kanthawi, adzakondana ndi mtsikana yemwe adachotsa malingaliro ake, koma nkofunika kumvetsetsa kuti maubwenzi amphamvu m'tsogolomu sakuyenera kuyembekezera. Amuna omwe amagwira nawo ntchito yolimbana ndi chidziwitso amodzi amadalira moyo wawo.

Momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito pepala?

Njira zamakono zojambula zimatha kugwiritsidwa ntchito motsutsana ndi onyenga okha:

• kumuthandiza mwakumva kuti ndi wosatetezeka (thalauza, phokoso lakale);
• ikani malo a msonkhano womwewo: cinema, cafe (chithunzicho sichigwirizana, ali ndi njira yake yaulere);
• funsani kuti alankhule za iye yekha ndi kutsogolera zokambirana za iye (iye sakonda izo, chifukwa ulamuliro wake watayika).

Njira zina:

• kunyalanyaza: musayankhe maitanidwe, maimelo. Mungathe kuyankha, koma musabwererenso msonkhano wa tsiku lina la sabata, kenako pitirizani. Kwa nthawi yaitali izi sizidzapitirira, pikaper adzasiya yekha ndi kutenga wina.
• kupeŵa kugwirizana kwa thupi, komwe kumakonda kwambiri kugwiritsa ntchito anthu onyenga.

Kodi mungaphunzitse bwanji phunziro kwa wojambula?

Khalidwe la kunyamula limakwiyitsa atsikana omwe anakumana ndi chodabwitsa ichi kwa nthawi yoyamba. Maofesi a amayi akukambirana mozama nkhani zokhudzana ndi phunziroli komanso atsikana omwe akukhumudwa akulota ndemanga. Kuti aphunzitse phunziro kwa wopanga, mungathe kumukonda ndikusiya, kusiya moyo wake - ndicho chomwe amai amaganiza. Kwa munthu - zopweteka kwambiri, koma sizingatheke kuti zidzamusintha.