Inde, msungwana aliyense amatsimikiza kuti mwamuna wake ndi wapadera, amayi onse omwe amamuzungulira amamuyamikira ndipo amafunitsitsa, kulankhulana .
Koma bwanji ngati muli ndi nsanje ndi chibwenzi chanu? Amakhulupirira kuti nsanje ndizofunikira kwa anthu osatetezeka, komanso kuwonetsetsa kwakukulu kwa umwini wake. Nsanje ndi yosangalatsa kwa wosankhidwa wanu pamene akutumizidwa ndi mankhwala ochepa. Kuwonetseratu kwakukulu kungathe kuwononga maubwenzi anu, mpaka kuphatikizapo kupuma. Ngati mukuzunzidwa ndi funso la momwe mungasiyire nsanje ndi chibwenzi chanu, nkhaniyi idzakhala yothandiza kwa inu.
Kodi mungasiye bwanji nsanje ndi mnyamata?
Pafupifupi munthu aliyense ali ndi katundu kumbuyo ngati mawonekedwe apamtima, koma nkofunika kudziwa kuti nsanje kwa iwo ndi yopanda phindu ndipo ingangopweteka kwambiri. Si chinsinsi kwa aliyense kuti amayi ali achinyengo kwambiri ndipo akhoza kupanga chisokonezo ngakhale popanda chifukwa. Timapereka malangizo othandizira kuchotsa nsanje zapitazo.
- Pezani chomwe chinakwiyitsa mnyamata wanu mu ubale wakale. Ngati muli ndi zizolowezi zofanana - yesetsani kuzichotsa mofulumira kapena, musati muzichita mwanjira imeneyi ndi munthu wokondedwa wanu. Monga lamulo, oimira abambo amphamvu amakumbukira atsikana makhalidwe omwe adayambitsa chisokonezo mu chiyanjano: kukambirana momveka bwino, kupsa mtima, kupsa mtima, ulesi.
- Muyenera kuzindikira momveka bwino kuti ngati mwamuna wanu ali ndi inu tsopano, osati ndi iye, ndiye kuti sakukondanso. Amakhala ndi inu nthawi, akukambirana za zomwe anakumana nazo, zolinga za tsogolo limodzi? Ndi yankho lolondola, muyenera kumvetsa kuti si mdani wanu. Koma ngati wokondedwa wanu alandira mauthenga a SMS kuchokera pa chiwerengero chosazolowereka, makamaka usiku, muyenera kufufuza mosamala mkhalidwewo. Popanda zolemba zosayenera.
- Pezani ngati ali naye pachibwenzi tsopano. Ngati ndi choncho, khalani chete, palibe chifukwa chochitira nsanje. Koma samalani,
ngati "akusambira momasuka" - n'zotheka kuti dona uyu akhoza kutchula munthu wanu kuti asatengeke kapena kufunafuna chitonthozo ndi chisoni. - Gwiritsani ntchito lamulo limodzi losavuta - nthawi zambiri mumakonza ndewu ndi zoopsa zomwe zimakhala chifukwa cha nsanje ndikukumbutsani okondedwa anu za chilakolako chake chakale, nthawi zambiri amakumbukira ubale wawo. Kodi pali chitsimikizo kuti atatha izi sakudziwa kuti watopa komanso akufuna kukomana naye?
Wachibwenzi wake wakale sayenera kukhala wachiwiri mu ubale wanu, choncho musamalumbire pa iye, makamaka ngati sangasokoneze moyo wanu.