Ubwenzi uliwonse ndi woipa mwaokha. Ndipotu, pakadali pano munthu sangathe kudziimira yekha, zimadalira nthawi zina. Kugonjera ndi, mwa njira, chizoloŵezi chomwe palibe chomwe chiri chosatheka panthawi ino kukhalapo.
Kukhumudwa ndi kukondana mu chikondi
Kudzidalira kwadongosolo ndi lingaliro lomwelo, lomwe tidzakambirana pamodzi ndi mgwirizano pakati pa anthu. Chikondi chisamaliro chofanana ndi matenda omwe amachititsa kuoneka kovuta, matenda okhudza maganizo ndi zinthu zina zoipa zomwe zimagwirizanitsa " kugwirizanitsa maganizo ". Ena samaganizira ngakhale momwe angagwirire ndi vutoli, amakhala okhutira ndi zomwe zikuchitika. Choncho, sakufuna kusintha chilichonse, amachikonda, makamaka amadya.
Kudalira - Kudwala kwa banja
Si chinsinsi chakuti kudalira kwathunthu m'banja kumakhala kofala. Pambuyo pa zaka zambiri ndikukhala limodzi, anthu omwe ali pabanja, amamva chikondi, akusowa ndi kudalira mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo. Izi ndi zachilendo, ndipo ngakhale - zabwino! Zingakhale zovuta kwambiri ngati anthu awiri sanagwirizane, kugwirizanitsa ndi kulimbikitsa ubale wawo. Koma pali zovuta zosiyanasiyana mu chiyanjano chomwe kudzidalira kumadziwonetsera.
Zizindikiro za kusagwirizana
Mwinamwake anthu pa gawo ili la chiyanjano chawo sali osangalala chifukwa chokhala pamodzi, akudyera tsiku ndi tsiku zokhazokha, zokondweretsa zokondeka ndi zachikondi kuyambira kale. Tsoka ilo, iwo salimbikitsana maubwenzi panopa. Vuto la kunyalanyaza ndiloti aliyense amadziwa kudalira kwake kwa wina, koma samachita chilichonse kwa wokondedwa wake. Aliyense amafunanso kuchita zinthu mwachidwi, mwachibadwa, osati kwa iye mwini. Amafuna kuti zonse zikhale "monga kale", akunena kuti akufuna kukonda, koma sangathe chifukwa chosowa chochita. Munthu uyu amasiya udindo wake kuti apititse patsogolo chiyanjano komanso kufunika kochita zinthu zinazake. Chirichonse chimamangidwa kokha pa chikhulupiriro pa zomwe zidzakhale mtsogolo momwe zinalili kale. Njira yothetsera kusamvetsetsana ndi yosavuta: yambani kuchita chinachake kwa anthu apafupi kwambiri, yesetsani zofuna zawo, ndipo musatsatire nokha! Pamapeto pake, inu nonse mudzapeza zotsatira zomwezo! Tiyeni tsopano tiwone momwe tingachotsere ndi kumasuka kuzinthu.
Kudalira-pokhapokha mu ubale - mankhwala
Ngati mwadabwa momwe mungagonjetsere kudalira, kambiranani ndi akatswiri ndi akatswiri a maganizo a banja kapena yesetsani kuthetsa vuto lanu nokha. Choyamba, yongolerani zinthu mwa inu nokha. Nazi mafunso omwe muyenera kuyankha musanachitepo kanthu:
- Kodi ubale wanu ndi wofunikira kwa inu?
- Kodi mumawayamikira?
- Chimodzimodzi? Chifukwa cha chiyani?
- Kodi iwo amakonda inu panthawiyi?
- Chimodzimodzi?
- Kodi mungakonde kusintha chiyani?
- Kodi mukufuna kukonza chiyani?
- Kodi mukufuna kukwaniritsa chiyani?
- Ndi mtundu wanji wa chiyanjano chofuna kupeza pamapeto?
- Kodi ndi zotheka bwanji izi? Ndipo zosankhazo?
- Kodi pali mwayi wotani mu ubale weniweni?
- Kodi mumadziwa chiyani za wokondedwa wanu chomwe chimatipatsa chidaliro kuti tidzapambana?
- Kodi mukufunikira kumuuza kapena kumuuza chiyani, phunzirani kuchokera kwa iye, kuti muthandizane ndikumanga ubwenzi wokhutiritsa?
- Kodi ndendende ndi momwe mwakonzera kuchita nokha?
Ngati munthu nthawi ndi nthawi ankadzifunsa mafunso amenewa, ubale pakati pa anthu ukhala wabwino kwambiri. Pambuyo pake, chinthu chofunika kwambiri chomwe chimasangalatsa kupulumutsa ndicho thanzi ndi mphamvu za ubalewu. Musabweretsere vutoli, koma yesetsani kuchita zonse panthawi yake. "Kasuni ndi njira yakudyera." Ndiyeno dziko lanu lomwe ndi dziko la munthu wina lidzakhala lowala kwambiri komanso losangalatsa!