Posachedwapa, nthawi zambiri mumatha kumva za njira zamatsenga zomwe zimakupatsani kusintha moyo wanu. Izi zikuphatikizapo mapulogalamu a NLP - neurolinguistic, omwe amatchedwanso njira yogwiritsira ntchito malingaliro. Zimakulolani kuti mutengere mbali yanu kumbali yanu popanda kukhudzidwa kwanthawi yaitali ndikubweretsa umboni wochuluka. Kukongola kwa NLP ndikuti palibe zotsatira "pamphumi." Munthu amatsimikiza ndi mtima wonse kuti mawu onse oyankhulidwa ndi interlocutor akuwonetsa maganizo ake, koma ndani sagwirizana naye? Kwa akatswiri otsogolera, maluso oterowo ndi ofunikira, koma kodi NLP ingawathandize kwa atsikana omwe akufuna kutchuka ndi abambo?
Njira za NLP za akazi pa tsiku
Choyamba, tiyenera kutchula kuti tsopano sitikulankhula za malire a amuna - tonsefe timagwiritsidwa ntchito kuganiza molingana ndi dongosolo linalake, ndi ochepa okha omwe ali ndi maganizo enieni, koma njirazi ndi zopanda ntchito kuti ziwathandize. Komanso, musagwiritse ntchito NLP kuti muyankhule ndi anthu omwe amadziwa bwino njirazi - palibe amene akufuna kuti azigwiritsidwa ntchito. Ndipo kwa munthu yemwe akugwira ntchito nthawi zonse ndi NLP, mwachitsanzo, kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo kapena kwa katswiri pa malonda, zoyesayesa zanu ndi zonse zidzakhala zopusa. Kotero samalani.
Kotero, nchiyani chomwe chingathandize njira za NLP kwa akazi pa tsiku?
- Aliyense amadziwa kuti amuna akuyenera kutamandidwa. Choncho chitani! Ngati mumadziwa za zolakwa zilizonse kapena kuti azipezeka pamsonkhano, ayamikireni mwamuna, kutembenuza zolakwitsa zake muzinthu zabwino. Mwachitsanzo, iye amadandaula za kukhumudwa kwake, kumutsimikizira kuti ndi zabwino kwambiri.
- Kumbukirani momwe okondedwa amalankhulana - ali ndi mawu ofanana, mavesi, ngakhale manja. Izi ndizo chifukwa chakuti ali ndi mawonekedwe ofanana, amayang'ana dziko mofanana. Koma ndani adanena kuti simungathe kugwirizana ndi munthu wina pamsonkhano woyamba? Yesetsani kutenga zofanana zomwezo poyamba, ngati sizikupangitsa kukana, yesani kutsanzira zizindikiro ndi manja. Ingochita izo mopanda nzeru, kuti musapange lingaliro kuti mukungoseka munthu.
- Kambiranani za kale zomwe atsikana ambiri amachita patsiku, koma NLP imalimbikitsa zokambirana. Funsani munthuyo zomwe amakonda pa msinkhu wake wakale, amusiye kukumbukira zinthu zonse zabwino zomwe anali nazo pachibwenzi chawo. Pitirizani kuyamikila, kungolankhulani ngati ngati m'malo mwake, mwachitsanzo "mwinamwake ankakonda manja anu amphamvu kwambiri". Gawo lotsatiralo mwamuna ayenera kumasuka, chifukwa chaichi chiwindi chaching'ono cha mowa kapena kuvina kochepa kwambiri. Ponena za kukula kwa munthuyu, adzalankhula zakukhumba kwake. Onetsetsani malingaliro anu mwa kusintha malingaliro anu kapena kuyambitsa. Ngati woyimilira akuyesera kuyiphunzira - ndi yanu. Yang'anani zomwe mnzanuyo akuchita, atayambiranso, ayambane naye - gwirani dzanja lanu, mumulangizeni pang'ono. Ngati izi sizimayambitsa vuto lake, pitirizani, ngati mwamunayo akubwerera - kubwereranso kuzokambirana.
- Chochita chotsatira chimadalira pa iwe. Mukufuna kuti mukhale pachibwenzi, pitirizani kuyang'anira kwanu. Mukufuna kuti munthu aganizire za iwe, asatuluke popanda kufotokozera, kungonena kuti ukufulumira. Zotsatira zake ziyenera kukhala! Chowonadi ndi chakuti ndi chithunzi chowala ndi
Zomwe zimakumbukira bwino za kale, mwamunayo amayamba kugwirizana ndi zosangalatsa zake ndi iwe.
Inde, izi sizinthu zonse za NLP zomwe zingakhale zothandiza kwa amayi, pali mabuku ambiri pa mutu uwu. Mwachitsanzo, "Kuyambira pamenepo, akhala mosangalala nthawi zonse" (L. Cameron-Baedler) kapena "NLP. Masewera omwe akazi amapambana "(Anwar Bakirov). Choncho, ngati luso lachinyengo likukufunirani, werengani, yesetsani ndikupindula. Zoona, nthawi zambiri amuna amakhala pamapazi athu osati chifukwa cha NLP yazimayi, koma chifukwa cha luso lokhala lazimayi, koma lofuna, lokoma, koma ndi zilembo.