Mukudziwa bwanji ngati mumakonda mnyamata kapena mwamuna? Funso limeneli kawirikawiri limapezeka mu theka labwino la umunthu, ndipo palibe chachilendo kapena chodabwitsa mkati mwake. Ndipotu, n'kofunika kumvetsa kuti munthu amakukondani, kudziwa kuti mwamuna kapena mnyamata ali woona mtima, osati kungokugwiritsani ntchito. Ndi momwe mungachitire izo, momwe mungamvetsere kuti munthu amakukondani inu, ngati iye sakulankhula za izo mwiniwake? Kuzunza wokondedwa wanu ndi mafunso monga "Ndiuzeni, kodi mumandikonda?" Kapena mukukonzekera kuti ayang'ane? Ndipotu, palibe chofunika, munthu ayenera kuyang'ana khalidwe, osati mawu, ambiri anganene bwino, zomwe siziri zokhudzana ndi zochita zawo.
Kodi mungamvetse bwanji kuti munthu amakukondani?
Zizindikiro zomwe zidzati kaya mwamuna amakukondani kapena ayi, misa, apa pali ena mwa iwo:
- Munthu wachikondi sangatsutse maonekedwe a wokondedwa wake, kunena mosakayika kuti bwenzi lake "chifaniziro chidzakhala bwino."
- Ngati mwamuna amakonda, ndiye kuti adzatenga mbali yanu kumatsutsana, ngakhale ngati mukulakwitsa. Ndipo adzayesetsa kuti asakwiyitse iwe.
- Simungamve kuchokera kwa iye zifukwa monga "ndilibe ndalama, choncho sindikuthokozani tsiku lanu lobadwa." Ngakhale kukhala wovuta kwambiri pazinthu zachuma, adzapeza momwe angasangalatse wokondedwa wake.
- Kodi munthu wachikondi adzasankha chiyani: pulogalamu yomwe ikukuyenderani ku mafilimu a filimu yomwe muli ndi makutu onse kapena kuyang'ana macheza ndi anzanu? Ndiko kulondola, iye adzakutengerani ku filimu, ziribe kanthu momwe akufunira chidwi ndi maso a Edward Cullen pawindo.
- Kodi mudakhala ozizira m'nyengo yozizira ndi magolovesi ochepa? Amayika manja anu m'thumba mwake ndikuyika magolovesi ake ndikuchita zonse kuti okondedwa anu aziwotha.
- Kodi mwadwala kapena ndikumva chisoni? Darling adzakhala pafupi, ayang'anitsitsa, ayesa kuyambitsa kumwetulira pamaso. Kodi muli ndi vuto? Iye sadzanena kuti: "Mukudziwa, ndili ndi ntchito zambiri, ndikuyankhula mtsogolo," koma ndithudi ndimvetsera ndikuyesera kuthandizira.
- Samasamala zomwe mumagula pa msika wa zovala kapena mu sitolo yazitsulo zili pa inu. Iwe ndiwe-kwambiri kwa iye. Koma ngati wokondedwayo akufuna kudzigulira yekha mtundu wa dzina lake, adzapeza njira kuti akhale ndi mwayi wotero.
- Munthu wachikondi akhoza kuyembekezera ubwenzi wapamtima kwa nthawi yaitali, ndipo atatha kupeza thupi, sangaziziritse pambuyo pa mausiku angapo omwe akhala pamodzi. Inde, ndipo pamene mukupanga chikondi, m'malo mwake iye adzakukondani.
- Iye sangalole kuti athake kwa kanthawi popanda kufotokoza, chifukwa sangakulole kudandaula.
- Malingaliro anu ndi ofunika kwa iye, iye sadzanena "inu simumvetsa kanthu, ndasankha kale chirichonse."
- Munthu wachikondi amayesa kumupangitsa wokondedwa wake kukhala wokondweretsa momwe angathere. Kwa iye palibe chamanyazi pothandiza pakudya ngati mutatopa kuntchito.
- Ndi mkazi wokondedwa, sizochititsa manyazi kulankhula ndi anzanu, achibale ndi anzako, kupita ku zochitika zina. Koma musamayembekezere kudziwonetsera kwa anthu, munthu wachikondi sangaganize za njira yodzinenera, chikondi chake chonse ndi chikondi iye adzapulumutsa nthawi yomwe mumakhala nokha ndi inu.
- Munthu wachikondi amayesetsa kupeĊµa mkangano mwa njira zonse, iye amavomerezana nanu muzonse, chifukwa chake sizowopsya kukutcha iwe mutu wa banja. Kusiyana kwake, chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti inu, chuma chake, muli pafupi.
- Kodi mwagwirizana pa tsiku, ndipo mukuyembekezera ola lake losweka? Ngati pazifukwazi palibe chifukwa choyipa chomwe chimalankhulira kulemekeza ndi kukhumba samoutverditsja potsutsa mayiyo kuti munthu wachikondi sangavomereze. M'malo mwake, idzafika ola limodzi kale ndikuyima pansi pazenera lanu, ndikudikira kuti musinthe nthawi yachisanu.
- Ngati mwamuna amakonda mkazi, adzafuna ana kuchokera kwa iye. Ndipo ngati wokondedwa ali ndi ana kuchokera m'banja loyamba, ndiye kuti adzawakonda.
Kawirikawiri, ngati mwamuna amakonda, simungawathandize koma amamva, zikuwonekera mwa momwe akukuwonerani, momwe amalankhulira. Samalani ndi zinthu zazing'ono, mungadziyerekezere kuti muli pachikondi, koma chikondi sichigwira ntchito.