Chikondi ndikumverera kwakukulu pa Dziko Lapansi. Kuchokera kwa iye kumayambira moyo wonse mu chilengedwe ndipo kumapitiriza kupezeka chifukwa cha kumverera uku. Kotero izo nthawizonse zinali. Ndipo pa nthawi yomweyi, kodi nthawi zonse munthu wakhala akufunafuna tanthauzo lolondola la tanthauzo la kukonda? Kodi munthu wachikondi ndi ndani ayenera kuchita? Ndi umboni uti wa chikondi ulipo? Kodi mungamvetse bwanji kuti mumakonda? Mafunso awa tidzayesa kupereka yankho lolondola.
Kodi kumakonda munthu kumatanthauza chiyani?
Nthawi zonse munthu amafunikira umboni wosatsimikizika kuti amamukonda ndipo wina amamufuna. Chotsatira chake, zizindikiro zambiri ndi choonadi chosasinthika zimawoneka pa kuwala, kukhalapo komwe kumasonyeza kuti munthu amakonda kapena amamukonda. Zambiri mwazimenezi sizisintha kwa zaka zambiri. Timapereka chitsanzo cha ena mwa iwo:
- Kukonda ndiko kukhululukira. Aliyense ali ndi ufulu wolakwitsa. Ndipo palibe amene angapeze zifukwa zochuluka za wolakwa, monga yemwe amamukonda. Uwu ndi umodzi wa machitidwe abwino - chikondi sichiwona zoipa.
- Kukonda kumatanthauza kusiya kulekanitsa. Kumverera kwenikweni kungakhale kwa munthu mmodzi yekha. Ngati, mu ubale, mmodzi wa abwenzi akufananitsa wina ndi ena omwe anali nawo kale, ndiye kuti kuwona mtima kwake kumakhala kokayikira.
- Kukondana sikuyenera kukonda. Izi ndi zakumverera kwa chikondi-chofupi, chokhumba ndi khungu. Kumverera uku si chikondi chenicheni. Ngati chikondi choyamba chaplatoni chimakhala mgwirizano wautali, ndiye kuti pokhapokha munthu akhoza kunena za chikondi chenicheni.
- Kukonda ndiko kukhulupirira. Chimodzi mwa choonadi chofunikira kwambiri kwa mabanja ambiri amakono. Kumatanthauza kukhala ndi chidaliro pakati pa okwatirana achikondi. Chimodzimodzi kuti kukonda kumatanthauza kudalira. Pokhapokha kukhulupirirana wina ndi mzake ubale weniweni weniweni wamangidwa. Chikhulupiliro kwa wokondedwa ndizopangitsa mabanja kukhala ndi moyo zaka zambiri.
- Kusintha - ndiye sakonda. Lingaliro lofala, ndipo kawirikawiri lolakwika. M'mabanja ambiri, kusakhulupirika sikungokhala chifukwa cha kusowa chikondi. Kaŵirikaŵiri, okwatirana amalingalira ponyengerera chifukwa cha zokhudzidwa zatsopano ndi kukhutira kofunika kukhala kofunikira, kuwonekera achinyamata, ndi zina zotero. Ambiri mwa omwe adasankha kusintha gawo lawo lachiwiri, amanena kuti kugonana ndi chikondi ndi zinthu ziwiri zosiyana. Choyimira ndi chakuti ambiri a iwo ndi amuna.
- Chikondi chiribe ngakhale. Chimene chimatanthauza kukonda mosasamala kanthu, ambiri amadzidziwa okha. Munthu aliyense ali ndi ubwino wake wapadera ndi zophophonya zambiri kawiri. Chikondi chenicheni sichimvetsera zovuta za munthuyo. Kawirikawiri amati munthu sakondedwa chifukwa cha zabwino zake, komabe ngakhale kuti amalephera. I. kukonda momwe izo ziliri, popanda zojambula ndi ziwonetsero.
Kwa munthu aliyense, ndi lingaliro lake payekha la dziko lapansi, kulera ndi khalidwe, pali lingaliro lake lomwe lakutanthauzira chikondi chenicheni ndikutanthauza kukonda. Mmodzi mwa asayansi a ku America alemba mndandanda wa masitepe angapo omwe, mwa lingaliro lake, ayenera kutsogolera ku chikondi chenicheni ndi choyera:
- Cholinga cha chiyanjano chiri chonse ndiko kuyendetsa ndi kuchiza mavuto onse a ana ndikukonza zovuta zonse;
- mu ubale sayenera kukhala ayi
malingaliro. Munthu ayenera kuwonedwa ngati alibe zoyembekeza zosayenera; - Ubale uyenera kugwira ntchito ndikuwongolera tsiku lililonse;
- mu ubale uliwonse ndi munthu nkofunika kumvetsetsa kuti zosowa zake ndi zosowa zake ziri zofunika monga zathu. Komanso musaiwale kuuza wokondedwa wanu zokhuza zanu ndi zosowa zanu;
- musanayambe kufotokoza maganizo anu ndi malingaliro anu pa munthu, nkofunika kumvetsetsa nokha ndikuyesera kuteteza wokondedwa wanu ku zolakwa zanu.
Mu chiyanjano chilichonse, ndibwino kukumbukira kuti chikondi ndi nsembe yaufulu. Ndipo aliyense amasankha chifukwa cha zomwe akuchita, ndipo ngati munthu yemwe ali pafupi ndi nthawi imeneyo ndi mphamvu zomwe adzatsitsimutse malingaliro enieni ndizofunikira.