Eya, kodi nthawi zamakono zinkapita kuti, pamene omenyana amenyana ndi dzanja la mkazi wokongola ?! Mu m'badwo uwu, amayi okhaokha amayenera kumenyera amuna kuti azisamala ndi momwe angapambitsire mtima wa mnyamata. Ndipo kuti muchite mkhalidwe wa mpikisano wolimba, o, osakhala kosavuta, makamaka ngati mukukonzekera kugonjetsa wakale, koma akadali mnyamata wokondedwa.
Ndiye choyenera kuchita, momwe mungakhalire ndi zolengedwa zodabwitsa izi kuchokera ku dziko lina? Palibenso njira yopezera chikondi cha mnyamata, koma pali mfundo zina zomwe zingathandize kuchepetsa mtima wake.
Njira zogonjetsa mnyamata
- Kodi anthu amayamba chidwi ndi chiyani? Inde, kupita kunja. Choncho, ndizofunikira kwambiri kukhala ndi maonekedwe okongola. Inde, chilengedwe sichinaperekedwe ndi changwiro komanso chiwonetsero cha nkhope, koma aliyense akhoza kudzisamalira okha. Mwa njira, musati musokoneze chisamaliro chanu nokha ndi "mitundu yolimbana", ndizosiyana kwambiri.
- Kodi mtsikana angapeze bwanji mtima wa mnyamata? Ndi zophweka, tiyenera kukhalabe osangalala kwa iye. Choncho, sitimathamangira kumamuuza moyo wathu wonse, kuyambira ndi matenda a ubwana, kumatha ndi chikhomo chosweka dzulo. Lankhulani za inu nokha, ndithudi, ndi kofunikira, koma kutulutsa uthenga pang'onopang'ono. Kodi pali kujambula kokondweretsa? Ndizo zokhuza, mukungoyenera kunena, ntchitoyi ndiyomwe ingakunyengeni, koma pokhapokha mutha kukamba za izo zokondweretsa, popanda kusokoneza wosankhidwa wanu.
- Zikomo! Choyamba, kumwetulira kwa pafupifupi aliyense kumapangitsa kukongola, ndipo kachiwiri, mnyamatayo ayenera kuona kuti mukusangalala ndi kusangalatsa naye, ndipo kuseka kwanu ndi njira yabwino yotsimikizira. Chinthu chofunikira sikuti chikhale choposa, msungwana akuseka mawu alionse angakhumudwitse, koma sitikusowa izi.
- Kuwoneka kodabwitsa, kumwetulira kwaubwenzi, zonsezi ndi zabwino ndithu, koma sizongokwanira. Nthawi yoyamba, iye adzakuyang'anirani ndikuyamikira, ndipo mwina samvetsera kuti nthawi zonse mumakhala chete. Ndiye mphindi ino idzasokonezedwa. Kotero, kuti mumupindule naye, zokambiranazo ziyenera kuthandizidwa, osati monga zoopsa, koma zolondola. Ndiko kuti, ngati atangokuuzani za kulumphira pamatope, musadzaze pause ndi nkhani yokhumba kwanu kupita kukagula. Ndikofunika kunena chinachake pa mutuwo. Chifukwa chake, timawerenga mabuku ndikukonzekera.
- Kodi mukuganiza kuti maubwenzi anu ali olimba kale ndikuganiza kuti ali ndi ufulu wopanga maudindo akuluakulu? Makhalidwe amenewa amavomereza ngati mwakhala mutakumana kale. Ngakhale kuti simunapambane malo osatha mu mtima mwake, simuyenera kukhala opusayira ndikupempha kanthu nokha mwaopseza. Iyi ndi njira yotsimikiziranso kulekanitsa ngakhale munthu wodwala kwambiri komanso wachidwi.
- Palibe chomwe chingakuthandizeni kugonjetsa mnyamata wokondedwa monga chisonyezero chakuti simuli wokongola komanso wodalirika, koma inunso mumagwirizana naye mumzimu. Gawani malingaliro ake ndi malingaliro ake ndipo mvetserani mwachidwi kwa ogwirizana ndi okondedwa awo za zochita zodzikongoletsa ndi ntchito.
- Kuphweka kulankhulana, atsikana okongola ndi okongola kwambiri, ndipo mwinamwake wosankhidwa wanu nthawi yomweyo amasankha kumasulira mgwirizano ndi msinkhu wina, pa tsiku loyamba. Chinthu chachikulu choti muzimvetse, mukuchifunikira tsopano? Kodi mukufuna kudzipeputsa zokhazokha za tsiku lachikondi? Ngati sichoncho, ndiye kuti palibe chifukwa chofulumira, nyengo ya msuzi siidakhumudwitse aliyense.
- Kodi mukufuna kubwereranso ndikugonjetsa mnyamata wakale, koma mumadziwa bwanji? Apa njira zonse ndi zabwino, chinthu chachikulu ndikutsimikizira kuti ndi inu (ndipo mudzakhala) bwino kusiyana ndi chilakolako chamakono. Iye sagwirizana nazo zokondweretsa zake? Choncho, mumayenera kumuchitira izi, ndikuthandizira zomwe zinayambidwa m'maganizo ake onse ndi ntchito zake.
Malangizo omaliza ndi ofunika kwambiri - khalani nokha. Mukhoza kudziyerekezera kuti mumagwira ntchito mofanana ndi momwe mumafunira, mvetserani za cholinga chodabwitsa chomwe chinapangidwira pamasewero omaliza, koma ngati sizosangalatsa kwa inu, ndi bwino kunena za izo. Chifukwa posakhalitsa maskiti akukugwirani adzasweka, ndi ndani mwa inu amene angasangalale?