Amayi ena, akulekana ndi amuna, adalimbikitsidwa okha ndi lingaliro "Koma lolani, lidzabweranso kwa ine." Ndikudabwa ndi kangati abambo omwe amabwerera kumbuyo komanso chifukwa chake amachita zimenezo?
Kodi abambo amabwerera kangati?
Maganizo amasiyana pa izi - palibe yemwe anafufuza kafukufuku. Amayi ena amadabwa chifukwa chake amuna amataya, kenako amabwerera. Ndipo izi zimachitika nthawi zambiri pamene mkazi akusangalala ndi maubwenzi atsopano ndipo waiwala za kale. Akazi ena amakayikira ngati amuna akalewo amabwerera nthawi zonse, ndipo ngati izi zimachitika konse, chifukwa ndi zomwezi sizinachitike. Monga momwe tikuonera, kawirikawiri oimira abambo amphamvu amabwerera kwa amayi omwe asiya, ndipo nthawi zambiri izi sizichitika. Choncho musakhale pakhomo ndikudikirira kuti abwerere, ngakhale kuti simungathe kupatula mwayi woterewu. Chabwino, kuti muzindikire ngati foni yochokera kumbuyo idzawonekera m'nyumba yanu, muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti abambo amabwereranji.
Nchifukwa chiyani amuna amasiya ndi kubwerera?
- Anabwerera, chifukwa adadziŵa kuti chimwemwe chake chiri pano ndipo kulibe kwina kulikonse. Ichi ndi chofunika kwambiri kwa mtima wofatsa wa mtima, koma, mwatsoka, njira yowonjezera ya zochitika. Pambuyo pake, ngati mwamuna achoka patapita nthawi yaitali, ndiye kuti nthawi zambiri amapita kumalo okonzeka, kwa mkazi wina. Chabwino, n'chifukwa chiyani ayenera kubwerera kumlanduwu, kwa mkazi yemwe wasiya kukhala wosangalatsa kwa iye? Chikondi ndi chokongola, koma chimachitika kawirikawiri pamasewera a TV kapena masamba abukhu kusiyana ndi moyo weniweni.
- Ndipo zimachitika kuti abambo achoka, ndipo pakapita kanthawi amabwerera. Nchifukwa chiyani izi zimachitika, kodi amangofanizira akazi awiri ndikusankha akazi? Ndipo apa ayi. Kaŵirikaŵiri zimachitika kuti ndi ubale wa nthawi yaitali, amuna amayamba kusowa zachilendo, pomwe zina zonse zimawakwanira. Pankhaniyi, ambuye amayamba kugwira nawo ntchito, ndipo nthawizina amuna amachoka kukakhala ndi mkazi wina, koma kusintha. Iwo sankafuna kusiya banja, ndipo kotero iwo amabwerera, patapita kanthawi kochepa.
- Kupatukana ndizochitika pamene munthu, kusiya chiyanjano, kubwerera, amayamba kuyang'ana bwino ndikulonjeza mapiri a golidi. Zonse zikanakhala zabwino, ngati sizingakhale za "koma": amachitira, pamene mkazi ataponyedwa ndi izo adasintha moyo wake ndipo mwina adzakwatira. Nchifukwa chiyani abambo amabwerera ku mulanduwu? Ziribe kanthu momwe zimamvekera zoipa, koma oimira nsanje omwe ali ndi mphamvu zogonana amachitidwa ndi nsanje. Mwamunayo adamva kuti mkaziyo adaponyera zonse, pomwe moyo wake udakali wovuta, ndipo adaganiza kuti ndizolakwika. "Iye anataya chuma choterocho, monga ine sindinaganize nkomwe kuika moyo wanga mtanda? Ndizovuta kwambiri, ndikofunikira kuchita chinachake. " Koma kodi mungathetse bwanji vutoli? Kodi mukufuna kuti mukhale osangalala ndikuyesera kupeza mnzanu wapamtima? Koma ayi, anthu oterewa amalingalira kuti ndi udindo wawo wopatulika kuti asokoneze moyo wawo wakale. Choncho chibwenzi chonse chili ndi cholinga chimodzi - kukhumudwitsa ubale weniweni wa mkazi. Mukangotuluka, ndipo mutha kupereka mwayi kwa wobwezeretsa, adzatha - simukusowa.
- Ndipo apa pali njira ina. Banjali linatha, kuchokera kwa bamboyo osati kuitana kapena kalata, ndipo mwadzidzidzi usiku wamvula mvula akuitcha (osati nthawi zonse pafoni, nthawi zina pakhomo) ndikuyamba kukambirana momasuka za momwe iye aliri wosungulumwa komanso momwe mwakhalira limodzi. Kodi mukuganiza, kuzindikira, kubweranso ndipo tsopano zonse zidzakuyenderani bwino? Izi, ndithudi, n'zotheka, koma m'moyo sichikuchitika. Mwinamwake, wosasangalala chotero ndi mwamuna yense wotayika
ndikungofuna malo osungira usiku kapena awiri. Mwinanso amachitcha atsikana ake akale kuti ali ndi chiyembekezo chakuti wina angamve chisoni - musamadyetse amayi ndi mkate, mulole wina azidandaula. Kodi amunawa abwerera nthawi yaitali bwanji? Ndipo nthawi yomweyo, zimakhala zomvetsa chisoni komanso zosungulumwa, zomwe poyamba zimakhala zosiyana, sizili zofunikira kuti zigonjetse, ndipo atsikana amafunika kuchita zambiri pamagulu.
Tsopano mukudziwa nthawi imene abambo amabwerera, komanso ku mawu a "okhumudwa mtima", akuti, ndithudi adzabweranso, ndibwino kukhala osakayikira. Mwamunayu samangokhala boomerang, kuti abwerere nthawi zonse.