Ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi ndi mwinamwake mutu wokondweretsa kwambiri, wokondweretsa mitima ya mibadwo yambiri. Khalidwe la amayi aang'ono limasankha wokwatirana naye payekha, ndiye, monga lamulo, amakumana ndi mavuto ambiri okhudzana ndi udindo, zaka ndi maganizo otsutsana a okondedwa.
Mwamwayi, lero palibe masukulu oyendetsa mabomba komanso sukulu kumene asungwana amaphunzitsidwa makhalidwe abwino komanso momwe angakhalire ndi munthu wolemekezeka. Amayi amasiku ano ali odziimira okha, ndi otsimikiza, choncho amvetsetse sayansi yokondweretsa imeneyi paokha. Pofuna kuthandiza amayi m'nkhani yovuta imeneyi, tidzakambirana za momwe mkazi wanzeru amachitira ndi mwamuna, kuti akhalebe wokongola komanso wokongola kwambiri.
Momwe mungakhalire ndi mwamuna wokwatiwa?
Zikuwoneka kuti munthu yemwe ali ndi mphete yothandizira pa dzanja lake ndi chisindikizo chokwatirana mu pasipoti yake saonetsa chidwi chilichonse kwa mkazi. Mwachibadwa, izi ndi momwe ziyenera kukhalira, koma osati nthawi zonse ukwati kwa munthu - chikole cha chimwemwe m'moyo wake wonse. Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe zimachititsa kuti "amuna a mitala" asamasewere kunja.
Pankhaniyi, funso la momwe tingachitire bwino ndi mwamuna wokwatira likufunsidwa ndi asungwana ambiri omwe amayesa mwayi wawo pochita nawo "zibwenzi". Mwamwayi, maubwenzi amenewa nthawi zambiri amakhala osakhulupirika, koma okondwa, odzaza ndi zodabwitsa komanso, mwatsoka, malonjezo opanda pake. Kotero, momwe mungakhalire moyenera monga mwamuna yemwe ali ndi banja lake, ndibwino kuti mudziwe musanayambe kuyenda mu njira yamphepo yotere.
Zikudziwika kuti onse awiri amafunika kugonana kwakukulu mkhalidwe uno. Moyo wapamtima pazinthu izi ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu za buku lalitali komanso losangalatsa. Kotero, okondedwa inu, nthawizonse muyenera kukhala ndi zida zankhondo ndi kuyamikira wokonda.
Komabe, munthu wapamtima sangathe kuchita, chifukwa ndi kofunikira kuti azichita bwino ndi mwamuna wokwatiwa osati pabedi, komanso polumikizana. Kwa wokondedwayo, wodzaza maukwati athunthu, sanayambe kufunafuna woloweza m'malo mwake, kupambana chikondi chake mwakumvetsetsa. Pezani chinachake chomwe chiri chosangalatsa kwa inu nonse, yesetsani kuthera nthawi pamodzi chifukwa chachinthu chofala. Mwachitsanzo, dumphani pamodzi ndi aqualung kapena pangani maphunziro amodzi ogwiritsa ntchito pagalimoto kunja kwa mzinda.
Pali malingaliro osiyanasiyana okhudza mmene mungakhalire ndi mwamuna wabwino. Chinthu chachikulu sikutaya umunthu wanu. Anadabwa ndi wokondedwayo ndi zitukuko zatsopano, zopezeka, zosangalatsa ndi zosayembekezeka. Nthawi zina mumakhala kutali ndi wokondedwa wanu, kumasuka ndi anzanu, kuyenda. Kotero iwe umakhala kwa iye chinthu chokhumba, chilakolako ndi kuyamikira, osati mkazi wachiwiri wa wamng'ono wamng'ono.
Ndiponso, kuyesezera pang'onopang'ono kumbali sikungapweteke. Kwa msungwana yemwe ali ndi udindo wa amayi awo, ziri ngati mankhwala osowa pokhala ndi njira yosunga wokondedwa amene, atawona mpikisano, amayamba kugonjetsa mtima wako.
Kodi ndibwino bwanji kuti mukhale ndi munthu wamkulu?
Lero tikukhala m'dziko limene kusiyana pakati pa zaka zingapo kapena zaka zambiri ndizolepheretsa ubale. Choncho, nthawi zambiri zimatheka kukakumana ndi banja losangalala, lomwe likuoneka ngati bambo ndi mwana wamkazi kuposa okonda. Kwa amayi oterewa, malingaliro angapo a momwe mungakhalire ndi munthu wamkulu adzalandira bwino.
Kumbukirani chinthu chofunikira, musamukumbutse kusiyana kwa msinkhu. Izi zidzasokoneza chithunzi chonse.
Ngati simukudziwa momwe mungakhalire ndi munthu wachikulire kuposa inu, komabe muzimva chifundo, ndi chikhumbo chokhala nthawi zonse, ndikofunika kupirira. Wosankhidwa wanu sangathe kumaliza mphindi iliyonse ndi inu, chifukwa kuti athandize phindu lonse, ayenera kugwira ntchito mwakhama.
Kuti zikhale zosangalatsa ku knight yanu, muzikumbukira zimene akunena kwa inu, musonyezeni ulemu chifukwa cha zokondweretsa, ntchito, banja. Komabe, chonde tawonani kuti amuna achikulire ali olimba kwambiri, choncho khalani osasamala komanso osadziwika. Limbani wosankhidwa nthawi ndi nthawi ndi zodabwitsa zomwe zikuchitika, mu moyo wapamtima kapena kuwonetsera luso lophika m'khitchini.