Mwachidziwikire muwiri iliyonse pali zinthu zovuta ngati nsanje zili ndi mikangano ndi mikangano. Tiyeni tiyesere kupeza yankho la funso lovuta: kodi nsanje ndi zabwino kapena zoipa?
Anthu ambiri amakhulupirira kuti nsanje yaing'ono imawathandiza kwambiri. Kugwedezeka kwa mtima, kuwonjezeka kwa malingaliro ndi mphamvu, kuzindikira kuti misewu yokondedwa ndi mzake. Ndipotu, nthawi zonse, moyo wamtendere ndi woyerekeza umafuna, nthawi zina, kukangana pang'ono, kotero kuti kumverera kumakulimbikitsani ndikukula. Koma zochitika zoterezi zimangopindulitsa pamene sizikhala zochepa ndipo ubwino wa nsanje ndizowonekera. Nthaŵi zambiri, nsanje yochuluka yowononga ubale.
Kodi nsanje imawononga bwanji maubwenzi?
Nsanje ndikudandaula kwa mnzanu mu chiwembu ndi kukaikira m'maganizo ake pa inu. Maganizo ameneŵa ayenera kukhala ndi zochitika zoipa, chifukwa chifukwa cha nsanje, mabanja amasiye, mabanja osangalala akugwa, maganizo amatha. Ngati mumaganizira nsanje kuchokera kumbali yabwino, ndiye kuti kumverera kumeneku kumayesedwa ndi chikhumbo chothandizira kukondana ndi munthu wokondedwa wanu ndikupanga chingwe chodalirika. Mwa njira, ndizovomerezedwa ndi sayansi kuti mwa anthu ena nsanje imadwala mutu ndi matenda akuyamba.
Nsanje ndi kuphatikiza chidani, chidani, kudzidandaula, mkwiyo ndi chisoni. Pokhala nsanje, munthu amasonyeza kudana ndi wokondedwa wake, wotsutsana naye, komanso nayenso. Muyenera kuzindikira momveka bwino kuti mwa njira iyi, pokhala ndi nsanje, mukupereka mwachindunji kuti pakhale katatu wachikondi.
Lamulo la kukopa kwa chilengedwe ndi losavuta: malingaliro athu onse ndi enieni. Choncho, zochepa zomwe mumaganiza zotsutsana - sizingatheke. Samalani, kuwonjezera pa izi, za kuyera kwa malingaliro anu - mulimonsemo, musayang'anenso ndi ena, oimira "akunja" a amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Nsanje ndi kusatetezeka ndi kunyalanyazidwa pa msinkhu wosadziwika. Ngati mukuganiza kuti osankhidwa amatha kukusinthanitsani ndi munthu wina, mungafunikire kuphunzitsidwa mwapadera kuti muthe kudzitamandira ndikudzidalira. Munthu amene akuvutika ndi zovuta zimamukakamiza kuti ayambe kuyang'ana makhalidwe omwe akusowa mwa anthu ena kumbali.
Poyamba, muyenera kumvetsa nokha ndi kuchotsa zovuta zomwe zikuwonetsa moyo wanu wokongola. Kufikira inu nokha mutayamba kudzilemekeza nokha, kuyamikira ndi kukonda, palibe amene ayamba kusonyeza malingaliro awa kwa inu. Dziwani kuti ndinu munthu wodabwitsa komanso wodabwitsa, wamphamvu komanso wanzeru. Moyo umakuthandizani ndipo umatumiza chikondi chimodzi, ndipo muyenera kumanga mgwirizano wokhazikika, pamtendere ndi mnzanu wapamtima. Gwirizanani kuti kukhala ndi munthu wokondedwa mumtendere ndi bata, kumudalira ndi kukhala wodalirika mu lingaliro la malingaliro ake ndi chimwemwe chenicheni. Phunzirani kuvomereza nokha, modzipereka ndikuyesera kusintha.
Muyenera kukumbukira mwamphamvu kuti nsanje ndi mantha a kutayika wokondedwa wanu. Kodi mukuzindikira kuti munthu si chuma chanu? Ngati muli ndi nsanje, ndiye kuti mukusowa kusintha maganizo kwa ena, makamaka - kwa anthu apamtima. Muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti chikondi ndi chiyanjano ndi mphatso yochokera kumwamba, choncho samalani mosamala kuti mutseke anthu ndikusamalira ubale wanu. Dzisamalani nokha, yesetsani kuthetsa maganizo anu osasangalatsa ndipo musasonyeze kupsa mtima, mkwiyo ndi udani kwa okondedwa anu komanso omwe mungakonde nawo. Onetsetsani kuti mukhulupirire wokondedwa wanu, chifukwa uwu ndiwonetseredwe bwino koposa momwe mumamvera. Landirani choonadi chophweka: simudzatayika konse zomwe sizomwe muli nazo.