Chikondi poyang'ana koyamba ndikumverera kokondana kwambiri ndi ... maganizo otsutsana. Sakhulupirira zimenezi, koma amadikirira mwachinsinsi, amawakana, amauziridwa ndi mafilimu, ndakatulo, mabuku. Timaganizira ngati pali chikondi poyamba pakuwona, ndi zizindikiro zake ndi chiyani, ndikumverera kotere.
Kodi mumakhulupirira chikondi mukangoyamba kuona?
Kusakhulupirira mu chikondi pakuyamba kuona, monga lamulo, kumabwera kwa ife kwa zaka zambiri, pambuyo pa zokhumudwitsa zingapo ndi ... ndi chidziwitso. Timaphunzira kusakhulupirika, ndipo kuopa zomwe adzatipweteke, kumakula ndikuphuka ndi mtundu wachiwawa. Ndiyeno pakubwera nthawi yomwe timakayikira kuti sitimakhulupirira, timakana mwayi wokhala ndi chikondi poyamba pakuwona (mosasamala kanthu kuti kusakhulupilira pa chochitika chilichonse sichikutitsimikizira mwa njira iliyonse). Koma ndibwino kuganiza kuti aliyense wa ife mu mphindi yotsatira akhoza kupyozedwa ndi kumveka bwino ndi kumvetsa (ngakhale ephemeral) za zomwe ziri za moyo.
Psychology, monga lamulo, amawona chikondi pakuyamba kuona kupyolera mu ndondomeko ya kumvetsa kuti chikondi ndikumverera komwe sikungokhalapo nthawi zonse, kumafuna nthawi kuti iwonongeke pazochitika zomwe zili pamodzi. Panthawi imodzimodziyo zimatengedwa kuti zimatengera ife mphindi imodzi kuti tipange chisankho chothandizira mnzanu wina. Kwa masekondi 90 ubongo umapindula pofananitsa chithunzi cha choyenera (mmaganizo athu) mzanga ndi chithunzi cha mlendo. Ngati mukuganiza kuti zosankhazi zingakhale zabwino m'tsogolomu, bwanji osaziona ngati chikondi poyamba?
Mavuto a chikondi pakuyamba kuona
Chomwe chimatchedwa chikondi poyang'ana poyamba. Monga lamulo, msonkhano woyamba umatanthawuzidwa, popeza chikhalidwe cha chikondi cha mtundu umenewu sichiyenera kukhala khungu ndi limodzi lokha. Zimatsimikiziridwa kuti nthawi zina ife tiri mu chikhalidwe pamene chinachake mwa munthu chomwe mwadzidzidzi chimabwera mu chidziwitso chonse (kapena mmalo mwake, malingaliro osadziwika), ngati kuti "tikuzindikira" izo, ndikuchotsa fano kuchokera mu gulu lopanda kanthu. Vuto ndilokuti "kuzindikira" kumatanthauzira kujambula kwachithunzi cha zithunzi, zomwe mukuganiza kuti mumadziwa kumapeto. Kusokonezeka kumabwera ngati kusiyana kuli kwakukulu. Komabe, muyenera kuvomereza, ichi si lamulo. Koma ulamuliro weniweniwo "chikondi ndi wakhungu" ukhoza kuthandizira kupulumuka kukonzanso fano.
Tsopano tiyeni tiyankhule za momwe timachitira ndikumva mwadzidzidzi. Anthu ambiri amavomereza kuti amachotsa maso awo akakumana ndi munthu amene amawakhudza. Pa nthawi yomweyi, nkhani ya chikondi poyambirira imadzaza zitsanzo, pomwe anthu osadziwika amagwirana manja mu miniti, ngati kuti amadziwa bwino miyoyo yawo yonse. Pali nkhani zambiri za maubwenzi m'dziko lathu lapansi, ndipo ngakhale kuti onse ali payekha, akhoza kugawa m'magulu akulu. "Chikondi pakuyamba kuona" ndi chimodzi mwa izo. Ndipotu, anthu amakhumudwa nthawi zina patapita zaka zambiri ndikukhala limodzi. Bwanji osapereka mpata kukumverera kumene mwamsanga kulowa mu moyo, ngati iwo unabweretsa mitundu yambiri ndi chisangalalo.
Mukufunikira kudzikumbutsa nokha:
- mumakonda munthu amene mumangophunzira. Musaganize kuti mumudziwa. Dziwani makhalidwe atsopano, sangalalani ndi zachilendo;
- mwadzidzidzi kupeza theka ali ndi ufulu wokhala wokha. Musayese kumuthandiza munthu, izi ndizopindulitsa kwambiri pa ubale wa nthawi yaitali.
Ndipo, chofunikira kwambiri, palibe chifukwa chothandizira kumverera maganizo omwe amatha kupyolera mukumverera ndi mantha, chifukwa palibe yemwe angakhoze kuwoneratu zomwe adzatsogolere. Sangalalani zomwe mwakumana nazo, chikondi ndi kukondedwa! Ndipo, ndani akudziwa, mwinamwake, pa funso la ana a mtsogolo, monga mudakumana ndi papa, mudzayankha "chinali chikondi poyamba"