Nsanje ndi psychology

Nthawi zina, patapita zaka zambiri za moyo wa banja, ndikufuna kubweretsa zolimba mu ubalewu. Ndi pamene lingaliro limayambira ponena za kuyambitsa nsanje kwa wokondedwa. Pankhaniyi, n'zosatheka kuthandiza ndi kubwezeretsa mgwirizano pakati pa okwatirana. Koma chinthu china, pamene nsanje ndi yosatha, ikhoza kuwononga ngakhale mtima wachifundo kwambiri. Kuchokera pamalingaliro a psychology, nsanje ndi kupanda chikhulupiriro kwa mnzanu, mantha ndi kusatetezeka. Koma chifukwa cha malingaliro oterewa sikuti nthawi zonse amakhalapo, zifukwa zomveka zopanda chidziwitso zowonongeka sizodziwika kwambiri, pakadali pano kuwerenga maganizo kumachita nsanje chifukwa cha kusunthira udindo pazochitika pamapewa a mnzanu, kuyesa zovuta zake ndikuwopa. Akatswiri ena amakhulupirira kuti maganizo omwe munthu wansanje amamva amasonyeza kusokonezeka kwake ndi makompyuta ake, ndipo chithunzi cha wokonda kapena wapikisano ndi wokhayokha "Ine", omwe sitingathe kuyandikira.

Nsanje ya amuna ndi akazi

Si chinsinsi kuti abambo ndi amai amve mosiyana. Kotero, mu psychology, nsanje ya amuna ndi akazi ili ndi mizu yosiyana ndi mawonetseredwe.

Amuna nthawi zambiri amayesa kukhala ndi mphamvu yoposa amai, kuchepetsa kulankhulana kwake ndi ufulu wake kuchotsa adani omwe angathe. Kenaka kutipangitsa kudzimva kulikonse kungakhale kokongola, zovala zolimba, kukumana ndi anzanu popanda kukhalapo kwake. Amuna omwe amadzidalira okha ndi omwe amatha kudalira wokondedwa wawo amakhala achisoni pokhapokha akawona zoboola zonunkhira za theka lachiwiri ndi amuna ena. Pakati pa anthu opanga omwe mungakumane nawo ndi osayanjananso omwe angakhale ndi nsanje pokhapokha ataphunzira za chiwembu.

Azimayi ali ndi nsanje chifukwa cha zifukwa zina, nthawi zambiri amamva chifukwa cha kaduka. Poganizira kuti wosankhidwa wake samusamalira pang'ono, mkazi amasiyiratu kukhala wotetezeka ndipo amayesa kubwezeretsa mwa njira iliyonse. Choncho, nsanje ya amayi nthawi zambiri imafuna kukopa chidwi cha mwamuna wake. N'zoona kuti simuyenera kuchotsa nsanje chifukwa cha upandu.

Psychology - kuchotsa nsanje bwanji?

Pa nkhani ya nsanje inalembedwa mabuku ambiri, onse ojambula, monga "Othello", ndi sayansi, monga "Psychology of jealousy" (Friedman). Fiction imatiwonetsa kuti izi ndizoopsa bwanji, ndipo mabuku okhudza maganizo amatha kuchotsa nsanje. Chinthu chachikulu choti muchite ndikumvetsa zomwe zimayambitsa chisokonezo, komanso pamaziko a deta kuti mutenge zofunikira. Kaŵirikaŵiri popanda kuthana ndi vuto silingatuluke, ndiye thandizo la katswiri ndilofunikira, monga momwe angathetsere masautso onse ndi kutsegula chifukwa cha nsanje. Palinso mwayi wokhala ndi nsanje, yomwe nthawi zambiri ilibe chifukwa chenichenicho. Pankhaniyi, thandizo la akatswiri ndi lofunika kwambiri.