Chikondi ndi chimodzi mwa zovuta kwambiri. Zimakupangitsani inu kuvutika, chisoni, kukhumudwa, ndi chidziwitso. Koma chifukwa chakumverera kotere munthu amakhala ndikumva akusangalala. Chikondi chimalimbikitsa anthu kuntchito zabwino kwambiri, zimapangitsa chikhumbo kudzimana okha ndi kukhala moyo wa chimwemwe cha munthu wina.
Ziwerengero zimanena kuti pafupipafupi, munthu amakondana katatu. Komabe, kuti amvetse kuti ali m'chikondi, sangathe mwamsanga. Pa nthawi yomweyo, chifukwa cha chikondi mukhoza kutenga malingaliro ena: ubwenzi, chikondi, chilakolako. Nthawi zina achinyamata amagwirizanitsa miyoyo yawo mwaukwati, akukhulupirira kuti amakondana. Koma patangopita nthawi yochepa amadziwa kuti iwo anafulumizitsa ndi chisankho chawo, kutenga maganizo osiyana kwambiri ndi chikondi.
Kodi mumadziwa bwanji ngati mumakonda munthu?
Anthu ambiri amaona kuti chikondi ndikumverera kwa munthu wina. Ngati simungathe kugona mwamtendere, chitani zinthu za tsiku ndi tsiku, ngati chithunzi cha munthu wina nthawi zonse chiri pamaso panu, ndiye ambiri adzatcha chikondi. Komabe, iwo amene amadzifunsa okha kumvetsetsa, kaya amakukonda, adzakhala olondola. Maganizo, omwe amachititsa kuti asadziteteze okha, nthawi zambiri sagwirizana ndi chikondi chenicheni.
Mukhoza kudziwa zinthu monga momwe mungamvetsere kuti ichi ndi chikondi chenicheni:
- Mumamva chisoni kwambiri kwa munthu yemwe si mwamuna kapena mkazi mnzanu, mumakonda kucheza naye kuti muyankhule naye.
- Inu mumakonda kukhala limodzi mu gulu, musatseke kudziko lakunja.
- Inu mukufunitsitsa kumvetsetsana wina ndi mnzake, mukuphunzira makhalidwe a chikhalidwe ndi zizoloŵezi.
- Mukufuna kukhala ndi wokondedwa wanu.
- Simumangokhulupirira munthu wokondedwa wanu, ndikukhulupirira kuti aliyense ali ndi makhalidwe abwino komanso oipa.
- Mukufuna kukondweretsa munthu ndikukonzekera kuyesetsa kuchita izi.
- Mumamva chisoni kwa nthawi yaitali.
Anthu ambiri amafuna kumvetsa momwe mumamvera mukamakonda munthu. Komabe, malingaliro si nthawizonse othandizira bwino. Chizindikiro cha kukhalapo kwa chikondi sikumverera, koma ntchito. Ndi chikondi ndi chilakolako zochita zonse zikufuna kupeza, komanso ndi chikondi chenicheni. Chikondi chidzapangitsa munthu kukhala wachimwemwe, ndipo chilakolako ndi chikondi zidzakonzedwa kuti zikhale bwino.
Momwe mungamvetsetse - chikondi kapena chifundo?
Chikondi ndi chifundo zimakhala ndi kusiyana kwakukulu, koma chizindikiro chochititsa chidwi ndi nthawi. Chifundo, monga kukondana, sichikhala motalika. Chikondi chimabwera kuchokera kuchisoni ndikukhala kumverera kosalekeza. Akatswiri a zamaganizo, olemba, opanga mafilimu amakangana kuti pali chikondi pakuyamba kuona. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirirabe kuti poyamba kuwona chifundo kumatha, koma osati chikondi.
Chisoni chiri chabe, ndipo mwachikondi, munthu amayesetsa kumvetsa ndikuphunzira wokondedwa, kukhala ndi iye, kumuthandiza.
Kodi mungamvetse bwanji kuti ichi ndi chikondi chenicheni?
Pakadali pano, palibe zipangizo zamtengo wapatali zomwe zatithandizira kuzindikira choonadi cha chikondi. Ndipo popeza kuti malingaliro onse ndi maonekedwe a munthu ndi omveka, sikuli kosavuta kudziwa chikondi chenicheni.
Mtundu wa kuyesedwa kwa chikondi ndi ntchito. Munthu wachikondi amayesetsa kupanga moyo wa wokondedwa wake bwino. Ndipo kuvomerezedwa ndi chilakolako kapena chifundo kumayesetsa kukwaniritsa chidwi chake ndi kukwaniritsa zofuna zake. Mwachitsanzo, mnyamata wachikondi amabwera kwa mtsikanayo m'chipatala ndikumuimbira nyimbo pansi pawindo. Ndipo mwamuna amene amamukonda moona mtima amubweretsa zipatso zake, chamasana ndi mankhwala oyenera.
Pamene mumakonda munthu moona mtima, mumayamba kukhala moyo wake, mukuyesera kuti ukhale wokongola komanso wokongola.