Momwe mungakwaniritsire mnyamata ... Mukudziwa, ine sindimakonda kwambiri verebu. Osati mwa onse, koma pano, mu chiganizo ichi. Bwanji-ine ndikanena kumapeto. Sindikukupatsani malangizo a momwe mungamuthandizire. Koma ndiyesa kuyankha mafunso anu, malinga ndi momwe ndikuchitira mutuwu.
Kodi mungakwaniritse bwanji munthu amene mumamukonda?
Ndipo ndani samakukondani nkomwe? Chabwino, panopa, monga mwa ena ambiri, mfundo yakuti "kusamba, kothamanga" ndi yabwino kwambiri. Nthawi zonse khalani pamaso pake, pitani kumene akupita, khalani kumene ali, chitani zomwe akuchita. Mukuona, zonse zitheka kuti si inu nokha amene mumadabwa ndi momwe munthu uyu angapezere. Mwinamwake, izi ndi zomwe mtsikana wina amaganiza. Choncho, pakadali pano, wopambana ali wamphamvu.
Zoona, izo_pokhapokha ngati nkhani ya nkhondo zanu ziri zofanana ndi zomwe inu awiri mungakhale. Koma ngati, mwachitsanzo, amauza amayi omwe ali ndi tsitsi la bulauni, ndipo mumakondwera ndi nsalu yanu yapamwamba komanso maso anu akumwamba moyo wanu wonse ukuyenda bwino. Khalani ndi chisoni pa nthawi yanu (ndi kunyada), ndipo ganizirani ngati mukufuna kupeza munthu uyu?
Kodi mungakwaniritse bwanji mnyamata amene amakonda?
Kutsutsa, iwo amati, amakopeka. Inde. Theoretically. Mumoyo weniweni, banjali liyenera kukhala ndi malo ochezera. Ngati mnzako akukonda kusewera pamsana, ndipo mukuwopa kupita kunyanja - bwanji kuti musagwedezeke, simungathe kumvetsetsa munthu uyu. Ngati sangaphonye konsati ku Conservatory, ndipo simungamuuze Mozart kuchokera ku Beethoven - momwe mungayesere, kuti munthuyu afune kuyankhulana nanu, nkokayikanso kugwira ntchito.
Mudzanena kuti pali mabanja ambiri kumene sakudziwa zochepa pazochitika kapena zokondweretsa. Ndikuvomereza, ndani akutsutsa? Koma! Kodi mwalankhula ndi wina aliyense wa mabanjawa? Nkhani! Ndipo iwe umva kuti apo sanadabwe ndi momwe angamuthandizire munthu uyu (kapena mwamuna), koma iye sanatseke usana usiku, kuyesera kuti awone momwe angagonjetsere. Kodi mumapeza kusiyana?
Momwe mungakwaniritsire chikondi cha mnyamata?
Ndilo msewu wautali mumadontho ... Ngakhale sindikudziwa ngati ndamvetsa bwino funso lanu, popeza mungathe kukwaniritsa chikondi cha munthu aliyense (kapena chibwenzi) pokhapokha mukakhala mukulankhulana naye kale - pamsinkhu wochezeka. Chifukwa chiyani? Inu mwachiwonekere simungayankhe yankho, chifukwa inu mudzazipeza izo zatha nthawi ndi kuzilemba, koma ine ndikuzinenabe.
Simukukondedwa chifukwa cha maonekedwe anu. Mukukondedwa chifukwa cha moyo wanu. Ndipo kuti amvetsetse ndikumvetsetsa ngati ndi theka, zimatenga nthawi. Ndichifukwa chake chikondi champhamvu sichikhala chikondi nthawi zonse. Ngakhale kuti ubale weniweni umayamba kukula m'chikondi. Koma mwinamwake mukufuna kufunsa momwe mungapindulire osati chikondi, koma chidwi cha mnyamatayo?
Kodi mungamuthandize bwanji?
Choyamba, kuvala mu mtundu wofiira - ichi ndi chimodzi mwa njira. Koma ndikumvetsa zomwe mumatanthauza. Ndidzabwerezanso kachiwiri. Munthu ayenera kukhala ndi inu chidwi - ndipo chidwi chake kwa inu sichidzauma. Choncho musayese kusankha momwe mungamvetsere munthu ameneyu. Yesetsani kumvetsa zomwe mungachite kuti munthu aliyense athandizidwe (mwamuna, ndi munthu wamkulu) adzakondwera ndi bizinezi ndi inu. Munthu ndiwetaweta, ndipo wosankhidwa wanu siyekha. Adzapita komwe anthu onse akupita.
Mwanjira ina, zaka zambiri zapitazo, ife gulu lalikulu tinasiya masiku angapo kunja kwa mzinda. Ife tinali ndi nyumba yokongola yakale yokhala ndi munda wokongola ndi piyano yayikuru yomwe imayima mu chipinda chimodzi. Inu mukudziwa, pafupi ndi ndani omwe anyamata athu anali kubwereza masiku onse omwe ife tinakhalamo? Pakati pa msungwana wamba, yemwe adakhala pansi usiku uliwonse chifukwa cha piyano iyi, ndipo adasewera.
Kodi ndizofunikira kupeza mnyamata?
Ndani anafunsa funso ili? Imani, chonde. Ndikufuna kukuwombera mokweza. Poyambirira, ndinanena kuti "Kodi ndingakwanitse bwanji munthu?" Sindimakonda kwenikweni mawu akuti "kukwaniritsa". Tsopano ndifotokozera chifukwa chake. Kuti mukwaniritse-kuwombera ... Zonse zomwe muli zanu, zimabwera kwa inu mosavuta komanso popanda kuzunzika, ndipo simukuyenera kulimbana nacho konse. Koma chinsinsi chachikulu ndi chakuti Nature samakonda,
Si inu amene muyenera kuzunzika ndi momwe mumamvetsetsera munthuyo. Iyenera kukhala maola pansi pawindo lanu. Izi sizikuyenera kudandaula za momwe mungakwaniritsire chikondi cha mnyamata. Ndi abwenzi ake omwe akufunika kukuuzani momwe akuwopera kukutaya.
... Mungathe kuchita zinthu zotsutsana ndi aliyense - koma osati nokha. Chifukwa muzaka khumi mudzakumbukira kuti si iye amene adagula daffodils yakuda pa metro m'nyengo yozizira, koma inu munayesera kuti mugwire kumwetulira kwake, mawu, kuyang'ana, modzichepetsa ndi zomvetsa chisoni ...