Vomerezani kuti pali nthawi zina pamoyo wanu pamene mukufuna kukhala pakati pa gulu kapena kampani ina, kapena, ngati mukuganizira chikhumbochi pamlingo waukulu, mumzinda mwanu osati kokha. Koma tsoka, ziribe kanthu momwe zingamveke zomvetsa chisoni, koma anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti luso lawo loyankhulana silinapangidwe moyenera kwambiri pa izi. Mukudabwa kuti "Mmene mungakopekerereni nokha?", Koma pakali pano kufunafuna yankho sikuli bwino? Ndiye pansipa mutha kukonza mfundo zonse pamwamba pa "e" mu funso ili.
Njira zazikulu zokopa chidwi
Katswiri wa zamaganizo wotchuka, Eric Berne, adanena kuti umunthu chifukwa cha umoyo wake, kudzidalira kudzikuza , kukula kwa luso loyankhulana, ndi zina zotero, ziyenera kugwedezeka. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, izi ndizopanda chidwi. Kotero, stroking yoteroyo ingakhale yonse mwa mawonekedwe a mawu ndi kumakhudza. Anthu ena, powona kuti sangathe kuyembekezera kuti awonongeke bwino, awonetseni khalidwe lawo losiyana - losasangalatsa. Mwachitsanzo, ana omwe amafuna kuti makolo awazindikire akhoza kugwiritsa ntchito mawu omwe amakopeka. Ngati izi sizikusamalidwa ndi mwana womaliza, ndiye kuti mwana wamng'onoyo amatha kuchita chilango chifukwa cha khalidwe lake loipa, lomwe lidzatsatira ngati sakulandira chisomo chabwino.
Choncho, tiyeni tiwone mndandanda wa njira zazikulu zomwe zimakuthandizani kukhala osati moyo wa kampani, komanso kumvetsetsa momwe mungakope chidwi, atsikana ndi mnyamata.
- Mtsikana aliyense, komabe, ngati amuna ena, amasangalala ndi zizindikiro. Koma osati nthawi zonse iwo adzakhala othandiza. Chifukwa ndi bwino kukumbukira kuti musaiwale za maonekedwe anu. Kotero, amuna, nthawi zambiri, samalirani miyendo yabwino ndi mabere. Koma kumbukirani kuti kunyoza kumawopsya anyamata kapena akazi okhaokha. Chalk zosiyana sizingowonjezera chithunzicho, komanso zimatha kumvetsera mbali zina za thupi lanu. Mwachitsanzo, kuvala mphete ndi zibangili, musaiwale kuyika manja anu ndi misomali. Ndipo kwa amayi, poyamba, mawonekedwe a interlocutor ndi ofunika. Ndipo izi zikusonyeza kuti muyenera kuyesa kuyang'ana bwino ndikukonzekera bwino.
- Musaiwale kuti kumwetulira kungakuuzeni zambiri, kusonyeza ubwino wa chikhalidwe chanu. Nthawi zonse amatha kukopa anthu. Ngakhale mutangomakumana ndi munthu, kumwetulira kwanu kosavuta kumatha kumudziwitsa kuti zolinga zanu ziri zoyera.
- Kumbukirani kuti pambali pa mawu omveka bwino, pali chilankhulo cha thupi, osalankhula. Ndipotu, pafupifupi zonse zomwe munthu amadziwa pothandizidwa ndi munthu wosayankhula. Choncho, tikukulimbikitsani kuti muzichita kutsogolo kwa galasi la nyumba. Yesetsani kufufuza zomwe mukugwiritsa ntchito poyankhula. Mwinamwake, pakati pawo pali ena omwe amanyengerera anthu kuchokera kwa inu (mwachitsanzo, "Kutsekedwa"): Kudumpha manja pachifuwa).
- Momwe mungakopererere amayi kapena abambo? Musaope kuti mukhale woyambitsa zokambirana zilizonse. Palibe chifukwa chochitira mantha kuti mudzalankhula poyamba. M'malo mwake, anthu ambiri amalemekeza anthu,
amene saopa kutenga ziwalo za boma m'manja mwao. - Kukhulupirira kwambiri. Anthu sakuvomereza ofooka, nthawi zonse akudandaula za moyo. Kumbukirani lamulo la chilengedwe: "Mphamvu kwambiri yamoyo."
- Ngati simukudziwa komwe mungasamalire, ndiye kuti tikukupatsani chithunzi: zikhoza kukhala, zomwe zilipo zosiyanasiyana zochitika masewera, masewera, mawonetsero.
Pakatikati nthawi zonse khalani okonzeka kupereka chiyembekezo chanu kwa ena. Koma, ngati kuyesayesa kwanu kukukopa chidwi poyamba sinapambane, musataye mtima. Phunzirani kuchokera ku makanda: Asanayambe kuyenda, amagwera mobwerezabwereza, koma amadzuka ndi zina zotero kufikira atakwanitsa okha.