Anthu amachitapo kanthu mosiyana ndi zochitika zomwe zimachitika kuzungulira iwo, ndipo mwachikhalidwe amatha kugawidwa m'magulu awiri: zovuta ndi zokondweretsa. Maganizowa ndi osowa, koma anthu ochepa komanso odziwa bwino angathe kufotokozera zomwe zimakhala zovuta komanso zowona. Pali njira zina zomwe anthuwa angadziwike, koma m'moyo munthu angathe kusuntha kuchoka ku gulu limodzi kupita ku lina.
Ndani ali wovuta?
Choyamba, tiyeni tiyang'ane pa dikishonale, komwe kunalembedwa kuti munthu woipa ndi munthu amene amawona zinthu zoipa zokhazokha mu zochitika zilizonse. Kwa iye, dziko likuyimiridwa mochuluka kwambiri mu mitundu yakuda. Ambiri amatcha pessimists whiners, chifukwa nthawi zambiri amadandaula za miyoyo yawo komanso zolephera zomwe amakumana nazo nthawi zambiri. Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti anthu osayenerera sangatchedwe otayika, chifukwa akhoza kupambana m'moyo, nthawi zonse akuzindikira mavuto omwe angakhalepo m'nthawi. Ndiyeneranso kuzindikira kuti anthu okalamba ndi omwe ali okalamba kwambiri pakati pa anthu okalamba omwe adakhumudwitsidwa ndi mavuto ambiri, zomwe zimawapangitsa kuti azisamalira kwambiri.
Pitirizani kumvetsetsa zomwe zilibe vuto, ndiyenera kunena kuti "chizindikiro" ichi si chiganizo ndipo pa moyo munthu akhoza kuyang'ana zinthu m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Chilichonse chimadalira zochitika ndipo ngati chirichonse chikuyenda bwino, ndiye kuti maganizo osayenerera amatha.
Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa munthu wokhumudwa ndi woyembekezera?
- Osayembekezereka amawongolera mozama mkhalidwewo ndipo samadzimvetsa okha zomwe angathe, kotero ndi kosavuta kuti iwo adziŵe zochitika zawo. Nthawi zambiri anthu oganiza bwino amagwiritsa ntchito malingaliro amodzi ndipo nthawi zambiri amagwiritsa ntchito bar, akukhumudwa.
- Okhazikika amakhala ndi chiyembekezo ndikukhulupirira zotsatira zabwino za zochitika, zomwe zimawathandiza kuti asataye mtima ndi kuyesetsa zolinga zawo.
- Asayansi amakhulupirira kuti anthu ovutika maganizo amakhala ndi nzeru zambiri , choncho ngakhale ali achisoni, koma nthawi yomweyo ali anzeru.
- Anthu opindula amakhala osangalala kwambiri, poona zinthu zabwino zomwe zimakuthandizani kulimbana ndi maganizo oipa komanso zosavuta kupirira zovuta.
Kuti musapitirize kuchita zinthu mopitirira malire, ndi bwino kupeza "golide" kutanthauzira moyenera zinthu mozungulira osati kumangirira malingaliro.
Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale osangalala?
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti munthu aliyense ali ndi mwayi wosintha maganizo ake ndikuphunzira kuyang'ana dziko mosiyana.
Mmene mungalephere kukhala wokhumudwa:
- Susowa kuyang'ana wolakwa pa zolephera zawo. Ganizirani za iwo ngati chochitika, chomwe chiri chofunikira kuti mupeze yankho lolondola, kuti musakhalenso ndi mavuto otere.
- Khulupirirani ndi mphamvu yanu. Musagwirizane nazo, ngakhale mutayesedwa. Kukhulupirira mwa mphamvu zawekha kudzakhala chilimbikitso chofunikira kuti musayime ndi kuyesa kukwanitsa kachiwiri.
- Yambani ndi anthu abwino, chifukwa chitsanzo chabwino ndi choipa ndi "chowopsa."
- Chotsani ku moyo wanu zinthu zopweteka ndi zobweretsa mavuto. Ngati mukuyenera kuchita ntchito yosakondedwa, yesetsani kuthana nawo m'mawa.
- Werengani mabuku okoma, mafilimu openya ndi kuzungulira ndi zochitika zosiyana. Tikulimbikitsidwa kuyenda pa mwayi wina uliwonse, kupeza malingaliro atsopano.
- Chikhalidwe chachikulu cha munthu wokondweretsa kwambiri ndi kumwetulira. Yesani kumwetulira mobwerezabwereza, komanso ngakhale pagalasi. Kudandaula kuzungulira iwe ukhoza kupeza malipiro abwino a maganizo abwino. Izi zokha zimagwira ntchito kumamwetulira.
- Pezani ntchito yomwe ingasokoneze mavuto ndi kubweretsa maganizo abwino.