Tangoganizani kuti madzulo, m'chipinda chanu, mutalowa mu injini yowonjezera kuti: "Mmene mungamusungire munthuyu." Kapena madzulo, kuntchito, ndikulemba mwachangu funso lachibokosilo: "Kodi mungamusunge bwanji mwanayo pafupi ndi inu?" Chifukwa chiyani mwadzidzidzi mumakondwera ndi momwe mungasungire mnyamata? Chifukwa mumamukonda kwambiri, kapena chifukwa chakuti simudziwa nokha? Tiyeni tiwone zomwe zingatheke pazochitika zonsezi.
Kodi mungasunge bwanji mnyamata wokondedwa?
Ndibwino kuti inu mwafunsa funsoli ndendende, ndipo simunapemphe momwe mungamusungire munthuyu kwamuyaya. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa yankho langa kwa inu likanakhala losavuta. Mukuona, nkotheka kuti muzaka zisanu simudzakumbukira ngakhale dzina lake. Musakwiyire! Sindikunena izi, ndikuvomereza izo - ndizotheka kwambiri.
Koma tiyeni tisachedwe nthawi, ndipo tiyang'ane patali. Mudakumana naye, mumatsimikiza kuti mumamukonda, ndipo mumangofuna kudziwa momwe mungasungire munthu uyu pambali pake.
Chabwino, choyamba ndi chinthu chachikulu - musasonyeze kuti mumakonda kwambiri. Pambuyo powerenga mawu awa, chonde musapotole chala chanu pakachisi - mwinamwake mudzandikhumudwitsa kwambiri. Mu mndandanda wautali wa nsonga za pepala lamtengo wapatali "Momwe mungasungire mnyamata kapena mwamuna" ndi bungwe ili lomwe laikidwa pa olemekezeka kwambiri, malo oyamba. Kodi tanthauzo lake ndi chiyani?
Choyamba, musamuitane nthawi iliyonse (komanso usiku uliwonse) kuti muwone kumene ali. Usamuuze momwe umamuphonyera iye, ndi momwe iwe ukufunira kumuwona. Mmasewerowa "Mmene Mungasunge Munthu" Mfundo zoterezi zimaloledwa kukhala yankho m'mawu awa: "Inenso!" - Atangokuwuzani kuti sakugona usiku, chifukwa nthawi zonse amaganiza za inu. Kodi zingamupweteke? Inde, ndithudi - kungosunga maina anu onse akulozera.
Chachiwiri, musamathetse madzulo onse pamodzi ndi iye. Ngati mumanyalanyaza lamulo ili, simudzatambasula tikiti ya lottery "Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale ndi mnyamata?" Muloleni achite zinthu zina, koma choyamba - musataye makhalidwe, zofuna zanu komanso zomwe munadziwana musanayambe kukumana ndi iye.
Musayesere kupeza chimene kwenikweni anali kuchita usiku umenewo pamene sanali ndi inu - khulupirirani ine, mudzalandira zambiri mwa iye pamene simunamufunse mafunso enieni.
Kodi mungamusiye bwanji mnyamatayo, ngati simudziwa nokha?
Palibe njira. Ndikutanthauza, simungathe kuchita izi, ndipo adzakhala ndi inu kokha mpaka atatopa. Ndipo izo zimamupweteka iye, mwinamwake, mofulumira kwambiri. Ngati mukudabwa kuti mungamuthandize bwanji, yesetsani kudziphunzitsa nokha.
Musamawoneke ngati akuyang'ana mtsikana kapena mkazi wina mwachidwi - kapena chifukwa chake ali ndi maso oyang'ana. Nthaŵi zina, mwa njira, malingaliro ameneŵa ndi osakanikirana. Koma ngakhale siziri chomwecho, funso ndilo: "Mukuyang'ana chiyani?" Ndizovuta. Kodi mukuyembekeza bwanji kusunga mnyamata, ngati maso ake ali kumbali yomwe mungamuwonetse, amakuchititsani mantha? Ndipo mungachite chiyani ngati mwawona chithunzi chabwino cha amuna kapena akazi okhaokha? Mwadzidzidzi ndipo mosasamala akuyang'ana kumwamba kopanda malire? Kusiyanitsa ndikuti tikhoza kuzindikira chilichonse chomwe sichidziwika kwa iwo, ndipo sangathe kuchita (ngakhale kuti sangathe).
Mwa njirayi, nthawi yotsatira mumuzeni modekha ndi njirayi: "Tawonani, mtsikana uyu ali ndi chidwi chotani!" Makamaka musataye mwayi uwu pamphepete mwa nyanja, koma mchitidwe wamba mumzindawu ndi wofunikira kwambiri. Poyamba, mawu oterewa amachititsa kuti asokonezedwe kwathunthu, koma potsiriza adzayamba kukuzindikira ngati msungwana wodalirika yemwe sachita mantha ndi mpikisano uliwonse - ndipo iye, ndikukhulupirira, ndikufuna! Kwa inu, mwa njira, inunso, chifukwa chaichi si inu amene mungasinthe momwe mungasungire munthu uyu, ndipo ayamba kuda nkhawa za momwe angatayire mtsikana wotere. Komabe, ngati zonsezi zikuwoneka kuti sizingatheke, ndiye kuti sizingatheke kwa inu ndi funso la momwe mungasungire munthuyo kwa nthawi yaitali.
Chinanso cha m'mene mungasungire munthu
Osamukoka kuti agulitse - makamaka pankhani ya kusunga mnyamata wokondedwa. Kuthamanga kuzungulira mabitolo pali abwenzi kapena abwenzi. (Ngakhale, ndithudi, njira yabwino ndi kupita kukagula yekha). Ndipo, ndithudi, izo pansi pa mawu oti "masitolo" ine sindikutanthauza masitolo aakulu nkomwe.
Lamulo limeneli limalola chimodzi chokha. Ngati muli kale kupereka mphatso kwa wina ndi mzake, muuzeni (mwachitsanzo) mizimu imene mukufuna kukhala nayo - yeniyeni, kuti ingathe kugula izi kwa inu. Kapena mumusonyeze pawindo chinthu chomwe mumakonda. Mudzamupangitsa kukhala kosavuta kuti asankhe mphatso kwa inu - ndipo adzakondwera kwambiri kwa inu.
Malangizo awa a momwe mungasunge munthu, ndi a gulu la chilengedwe chonse. Ngati muli otsimikiza kuti mlandu wanu ndi wapadera, tangolongosolani ndikufunsani funso lanu. Ngati mukufuna, tikhoza kufufuza yankho pamodzi.