Kuyankhulana ndi njira yovuta yolumikizana ndi anthu ndi magulu onse. Popanda kuyankhulana, anthu sangakhaleko. Kuyambira maonekedwe enieni a munthu woyamba, izi zakhala zifukwa komanso zowonjezera za kutuluka kwa anthu komanso chitukuko. Anthu amasiku ano sangathe kuchita popanda kuyankhulana mu gawo lililonse la miyoyo yawo ndi ntchito zawo, mosasamala kanthu kuti munthu amakonda yekha kapena kampani, an extrovert kapena introvert. Tiyeni tiyese limodzi kuti tipeze zifukwa zodziwika ngati kuyankhulana, ndi kuyankha funso la chifukwa chake munthu ayenera kulankhulana.
Udindo woyankhulana mu moyo waumunthu
Yankho la funso la chifukwa chake munthu amalankhulira limatibweretsera mbiriyakale ya anthu oyambirira. Kuchokera kuyankhulana kumene anthu oyambirira anabala ndi manja, ndikulankhula kwa anthu kunayamba, malingaliro ndi zilembo za zinthu zinawoneka, ndipo kenako kulemba. Ndi kudzera mwa kuyankhulana ndi kutuluka kwa anthu, anthu, kukhazikitsa mtundu wa malamulo oyankhulana pakati pa anthu.
Kufunika kwa kuyankhulana m'moyo wa munthu sikungakhale kovuta kwambiri. Zimakhudza kwambiri mapangidwe a psyche munthu, kukula kwake bwino. Kuyankhulana pakati pa anthu kumawathandiza kusinthanitsa uthenga, kuzindikira ndi kumvetsetsana wina ndi mzake, kuphunzira kuchokera pazochitikira ndikugawana nawo. Kuyankhulana m'moyo wa munthu kumamusiyanitsa ndi zamoyo zina zapadziko lapansi.
N'chifukwa chiyani akulankhulana?
Kufunikira kwa munthu kuyankhulana kumatsimikiziridwa ndi moyo wake wachibadwidwe komanso kukhalapo kwina kulikonse, kaya ndi banja, ogwira ntchito, sukulu kapena wophunzira. Ngati munthu sanathenso kulankhulana kuchokera kubadwa, sakanatha kukhala munthu wokhudzana ndi chikhalidwe, chitukuko komanso chikhalidwe, kukumbukira munthu panja.
Izi zimatsimikiziridwa ndi anthu ambiri otchedwa "Mowgli anthu", omwe amalephera kulumikizana pakati pa mwana akadali mwana kapena nthawi yomweyo atabadwa. Machitidwe onse a zamoyo omwe amapangidwa mwa anthu oterewa ndi ovuta, koma apa psyche imachedwa kuchepetsa, ndipo ngakhale kuima kwathunthu chifukwa cha kusowa kwadzidzidzi ndi anthu. Ndi chifukwa chake timamvetsa chifukwa chake munthu amafunika kulankhulana ndi anthu ena.
Kuyankhulana ndi anthu
Zikuwoneka kuti ngati kuyankhulana kuli koyenera kwa anthu onse, ndiye kuti aliyense wa ife ayenera kulankhulana momasuka ndikukwanitsa kuchita. Komabe, nthawi zina anthu ena amaopa kulankhulana ndi anthu kapena, mwa kuyankhula kwina, chikhalidwe cha anthu. Chiwopsezochi chimapezeka nthawi zambiri paunyamata, chovuta kwambiri pamoyo wa munthu. Ngati choyamba cholowa pakati pa anthu chikusokonekera, ndiye kuti m'tsogolomu munthuyo adzakhala ndi mavuto polankhulana ndi anthu.
Maluso oyankhulana ndi anthu amapezeka ndi msinkhu ndipo pano chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndizochita izi. Malamulo akale oyankhulana angathandizire izi:
- Kulankhulana ndi munthu, chitani njira yabwino koposa, mu malingaliro anu.
- Onetsani ulemu kwa munthu amene mukumuyankhula naye.
- Khulupirirani yemwe mumamulankhulana naye.
Ndi anthu ozoloŵera, nthawi zambiri sitingathe kulankhulana, timadziwa momwe amachitira ndi mau ena, nkhani ndi nkhani. Koma kuyankhula ndi alendo, ndibwino kuti muzichita nthawi zonse pambali yabwino, musati muwonongeke, nthawizonse mukhale okoma mtima. Lankhulani ndi kumwetulira, koma yesetsani kuonetsetsa kuti mawu anu ndi mawu anu ndi oyenerera. Yang'anani munthuyo maso ndikuwoneka momveka bwino, ndikuwonetsa chidwi chenicheni ndi chidwi kwa wothandizira. Ngati simungathe kudzigonjetsa nokha ndi kuchita zonsezi pamwamba pazifukwa zina, ndi bwino kuti musamayanjane ndi munthu.