Chidziwitso chosayembekezeka sichinapitilire? Ngakhale mtsikanayo atatsimikiza kuti amamukonda kwambiri, amakhala ndi nthawi yambiri ndipo amayankhula mofanana, osati kuti munthuyo amamuitana, ndipo ngati sakuchitadi, pangakhale zifukwa chimodzi.
Nchifukwa chiyani foni ili chete?
Ngati munthu sakuitana tsiku loyamba, ndiye kuti:
- sanasangalatse, ndiko kuti, mwanjira ina, iye sakonda mtsikana;
- kugonjera ndi kugonjetsedwa pomwepo, koma mantha ndi wamanyazi;
- akudzipangira yekha mtengo. Inde, palinso zitsanzo zotere zomwe zimasewera ndi atsikana, ngati khati lokhala ndi mbewa;
- siufulu, amene ali kale pachibwenzi ndi mtsikana wina;
- akungofuna kudzipatsanso nthawi kuti muthetse maganizo anu;
- sakufuna kusintha. Moyo wake ndi wolimba kwambiri moti sali wokonzeka kuthera nthawi yokhala naye payekha;
- amatenga agogo awo kupita kuchipatala, mwamsanga anawulukira kumzinda wina kukalembetsa cholowa, ndiko kuti, panali mtundu wina wa mphamvu zazikulu;
- sanangoganizapo za izo.
Inde, ngati munthu saitana ndi kulemba, ndiye mtsikanayo yekhayo asankha kuchita momwe angayankhire komanso ngati ayambe kuitanitsa. Ambiri amakhulupirira kuti munthu ayenera kunyada ndi kudzilemekeza, chifukwa ngati mwangosonyeza chidwi, munganene momveka bwino kuti msungwanayo akupezeka mosavuta. Choncho, ngati mwamuna anasiya kulira, koma momwe angachitire, msungwanayo sakudziwa, ndiye tikhoza kupereka nthawi yoganiza - kwa iye komanso kwa iyemwini. Zaka zingapo zapitazi, amayi adalimbana nawo molimbika kuti akhale ndi ufulu wofanana ndi azimayi awo, zomwe zinayambitsa zotsatirazi: Amuna anasiya kuganizira zochita za amayi zomwe sizinali zachilendo, koma maganizo awo sanasiye.
Kotero, ndikudabwa chifukwa chake mwamuna anasiya kuitana ndi kulemba, samayang'ana zolakwa zake mwa iyeyekha. Iwo mwina sangakhale, koma mnyamata akuganiza kuti mkazi ayenera kukhala wokonzeka nthawi yotereyi popanda chifukwa.