Kale kwambiri mwana asanabadwe, ataphunzira chikhalidwe chake, makolo ayamba kupeza zinthu za mtundu woyenera komanso ngakhale kukonzekera ana. Tonsefe tikudziwa kuti phokoso la pinki ndi la atsikana, ndi zovala za buluu, njinga yamoto ya chokoleti ya mnyamata. Choncho, maphunziro a amayi omwe ali ndi abambo amayamba, ndipo chizindikiro cha amuna sizowonjezera kuti munthu amatsatira udindo wake, womwe umayesedwa ndi anthu. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, akazi, mofanana ndi amuna, amasiyana ndi kavalidwe kokha, komanso mwa machitidwe awo, zizoloŵezi, mawonekedwe, ndi zina zotero.
Kodi mwamuna amatanthauzanji?
Tiyeni tikambirane mwatsatanetsatane chomwe chikhalidwe chimatanthauza, udindo wa amuna ndi akazi. Ndikofunika kudziwa kuti chikhalidwe cha anthu ndi chikhalidwe choyambirira chimayambira ndi chidziwitso cha amuna, chikhalidwe chimene chimakhudzidwa osati ndi chitukuko cha munthu, koma ndi kudzidziwitsa kwake.
Kotero, kale zaka ziwiri, ana amamvetsetsa kugonana kwawo, "Ndili mtsikana, ndipo ndinu mnyamata", koma, ndithudi, satha kumvetsa tanthauzo la izi. Poyang'ana dziko lozungulira iye, poyamba, kwa anthu a m'banja lake, ana amaphunzitsidwa kusiyanitsa kugonana kwa anthu ena ndi zovala zomwe amavala, tsitsi lawo.
Ndili ndi zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri, pamene mwanayo akudziwa za kugonana kwake, zachikhalidwe zimayamba kuonekera mwa iye. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, pa nthawi yachinyamata, chidziwitso cha amuna ndi akazi chikukula, chikuwonetseredwa mu kusintha kwa thupi, kutha msinkhu, mitundu yonse ya zokondana. Kuphatikizanso, munthu wamng'ono amasonyeza udindo wake wazimayi, kudziŵa khalidwe labwino, kupanga chikhalidwe molingana ndi malingaliro a anthu akuzungulira. Choncho, atsikana amayamba kuyesa mwakhama, amafuna kuti azikonda anyamata, atsikana amayamba kutsanzira mosamalitsa anthu omwe amawakonda kwambiri kuchokera mafilimu, akuyesera kusintha maonekedwe awo.
Pang'onopang'ono, amuna ndi akazi onse amasonyeza machitidwe a chikhalidwe, chikhalidwe, chikhalidwe chomwe chimapezeka pa maziko a maphunziro. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, ngati makhalidwe achiwerewere amatha kusokonekera, ndiye kuti kugonana kulipo m'malingaliro aumunthu.
Kusiyana kwa kusiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi
Kawirikawiri amakhulupirira kuti amai amakonda kukhala woyang'anira nyumba, amayi omwe amapereka moyo wake wonse ku kubadwa ndi kulera ana, pomwe amuna ali ndi ntchito zamalonda, omwe ndi ofunikira kuti akhale odzikonda pankhani zachuma komanso kukhala ndi moyo wabwino. Zoona, kuyang'ana pa anthu amasiku ano, mumamvetsa kuti anthu omwe ali pafupi nafe amagwirizanitsa makhalidwe onse achimuna ndi akazi.
Ndipotu izi sizosadabwitsa. Mu psychology, chodabwitsa ichi chimatchulidwa monga kuphatikiza kwa akazi ndi abambo makhalidwe. Mu zina, amawoneka mofanana, pali chiwerengero cha makhalidwe amenewa, ndi wina yemwe amatsogoleredwa ndi amayi kapena amuna okha.
Kusiyana kwa amuna ndi akazi, kusiyana pakati pa kugonana sikuwonetsedwa kokha mwa khalidwe, malingaliro, zokondweretsa, komanso makhalidwe abwino . Chinthu chochititsa chidwi kwambiri ndi chakuti, zomwe zimatchulidwa kwambiri, izi zimasintha kwambiri khalidwe la munthu. Ndipo izi zikusonyeza kuti munthu wotereyo akhoza kusintha mosavuta kumoyo watsopano, ndipo thanzi labwino lidzakhala lamphamvu kuposa omwe sali. Kuyambira pa chidziwitso ichi, akatswiri a maganizo amalimbikitsa kuti asaphunzitse mwana wawo momveka bwino, osati kuti azikakamiza anthu kuti azikhala ndi zovuta za tsiku ndi tsiku monga "Usalire, siwe mtsikana", "Ndiwe mfumu yapamwamba, kotero iwe uyenera kukhala wodzichepetsa kwambiri."