Kodi amai amaganiza chiyani?

O, ndi angati amuna omwe amadabwa ndi zomwe akazi amaganiza? Ambiri a iwo ngakhale madzulo ndi abwenzi amapereka nsembe kuti apeze zomwe zikuchitika pamutu wa wokondedwayo.

Kodi amai amaganiza bwanji?

Poyankha funso lomwe amai amaganiza, ndibwino kumvetsetsa chomwe chimasiyanitsa mtundu wazimayi wa kuganiza kwa amuna. Momwemonso, malingaliro a amayi adzasiyana ndi maganizo a amuna. Ndipo sikuti wina ali wochenjera, koma wina ndi wophunzira, amuna ndi akazi okha ali ndi njira zosiyana.

Amuna ololera amachita zambiri kumbali ya kumanzere ya ubongo, zomwe zimawathandiza kumanga mndandanda wa zochitika pa njira yopita ku cholinga. Ngati mwamuna ali ndi cholinga, ndiye kuti malingaliro ake onse adzayang'ana njira zothetsera cholinga. Komanso, amuna omwe amaganiza kuti adziwonetsere okha, kuti adziwe mfundo zomwe zili zenizeni, kotero pali ambiri omwe akuimira pakati pa afilosofi.

Ndipo amai akuganiza chiyani? Kulondola, kulingalira. Choncho, malingaliro a mkaziyo sangayankhe funso limodzi - adzakhala ndi nthawi yoganizira za lipoti lapachaka, komanso za nsapato zomwe angagule pa March 8, ndi zomwe mwamuna wake adzadyetsedwa lero. Amayi sakonda kukhazikitsa malangizo amodzi ndi sitepe kuti akwaniritse zolinga zawo, amawona chithunzi chachikulu ndikudziwa nthawi yowathandiza. Choncho, nthawi zambiri zochita za amayi zimawoneka zosagwirizana, zosagwirizana kwathunthu. Palinso mawu akuti "akazi sakuganiza, akukonza chiwembu." Chifukwa kulingalira za mutu wa mtendere wa padziko lapansi kapena za filosofi ya kant ya amayi ambiri sali okondwa - izi sizingathe kuwathandiza mwanjira ina iliyonse padziko lapansi. Koma kuti muganizire kuphatikiza kwakukulu kuti mudzipindule nokha, ziri ngati mkazi.

Ndizodabwitsa kuti ndi njira zosiyana zoganiza, abambo ndi amai sangamvetsetse? Pofuna kuthandiza amayi motere, Steve Harvey (yemwe amadziwika ku US TV wofalitsa pulogalamuyo pamaganizo a amuna ndi akazi) analemba buku lakuti "Chitani ngati mkazi, taganizirani ngati munthu". M'bukuli mlembi amaphunzitsa amayi kuti amvetsere oimira chigawo cholimba cha umunthu, koma panthawi yomweyi akulangiza kuti asachite khalidwe lachimuna. Momwemo, mkazi nthawi zonse adzakhalabe mkazi, koma adzapulumutsidwa ku zinthu zokhumudwitsa zomwe zimagwirizana ndi maganizo olakwika okhudza chikhalidwe cha amuna.

Kodi amai amaganiza chiyani za kugonana?

Zisanachitike, tinalankhula za kulankhulana kwa amayi nthawi zonse, koma koposa zonse timakhudzidwa ndi ubale wa amuna ndi akazi. Ndipo ndithudi, tikufuna kudziwa zomwe amai amaganiza zokhuza kugonana.

1. Choyamba, ziyenera kutengera nthano kuti amayi samaganizira za kugonana nthawi zambiri, ndipo zoterezi zimakhala zachilendo kwa amuna okhaokha. Malingana ndi zotsatira za kafukufuku, amai amaganizira za kugonana pafupifupi 34 pa tsiku la ntchito, pafupifupi pafupifupi mphindi khumi ndi zisanu. Kuphatikiza apo, amai 70% omwe anafunsidwa amanena kuti amagwiritsa ntchito malingaliro ogonana pafupifupi ora tsiku lililonse.
2. Ngati amuna adziwa zomwe amai amaganiza, panthawi ya kugonana, amadzipachika. Ngati mwamuna akuganiza pa nthawi yogonana, panthawi yomweyi amaika chidwi kwa wokonda ndikuganizira zinthu zowonongeka, zomwe zikuchitika masiku ano, momwe bedi likugwirira ntchito komanso zomwe anansi awo amaganiza. Gawo lachitatu la amayi nthawi ndi nthawi limapezeka pa tsamba la mnzawo, mwamuna wina, ngakhale amaiwala ndikuitanitsa wokondedwa wawo dzina lake.
3. Azimayi samawona ukwati nthawi zonse ngati kupitiriza kugonana, ana ndi zidzukulu. Amayi amadziwanso momwe angagwirire ndi kugonana, chifukwa cha ndondomekoyi, ndipo nthawi yathuyi, atsikana a zaka 16 okha omwe ali openga za nkhani ya chikondi ya Edward ndi Bella amakhudzidwa ndi kukonda chikondi. Pafupifupi 33% mwa anthu omwe anafunsidwawo adanena kuti ali ndi "911", monga momwe angayitanire kugonana, pamene "thupi limafuna".
4. Pafupifupi amayi atatu pa atatu alionse sakhutira ndi moyo wawo wapamtima, ndipo kusintha kumalepheretsa chizoloŵezi, lingaliro la udindo ndi zina zamaliseche zachikazi zamorochki.

Ndipo potsiriza: malingaliro a mkazi wokongola sangamvetsetse ndi munthu aliyense, ndipo ngati iye akanakhoza, iye amathyoledwa - zosangalatsa sizikusowa mpikisano.