Ngati mumakhulupirira mlembi wa Chifalansa Frederick Begbeder, ndiye kuti mumakonda moyo kwa zaka zitatu. Amayi enieni samakonda kukhulupirira, komabe amavomereza kuti pakapita nthawi maganizo amodzi ndi awiri amasintha, kapena amatha.
Pofuna kukondana ndi mwamuna wake kachiwiri mungapereke malangizo kwa nthawi yosatha, koma tidzakambirana mfundo zazikuluzikulu, popanda chikondi chimene sichidzayendetsa panyumba panu, ngakhale chaka cha khumi.
Momwe mungayanjanenso ndi mwamuna wake?
- Choyamba, mwamuna ayenera kulipira mokwanira. Musaiwale kuti mufunsane naye pazinthu zofunika kwa inu ndi banja lanu, onetsetsani kuti mupemphe thandizo, ngakhale mutadziwa kuti mudzadziyendetsa nokha. Amuna mwa chilengedwe sali ogonjetsa okha, komanso opulumutsira, choncho khalani ofooka kwa kanthawi, ndipo mumulole kuti asangalale ndi chigonjetso, ngakhale kuti msomali ndi msomali woponyedwa mu khoma.
- Chachiwiri, mkazi sayenera kukhala wosangalatsa kwa mwamuna wake. Ayenera kuthandizira zokambirana pa mutu uliwonse, kupereka uphungu, kupereka chithandizo cha maganizo ngati mwamuna wake ali ndi vuto. Werengani zongopeka, mvetserani nyimbo zabwino, pewani masewera, phunzirani chinachake chatsopano - mu mawu amodzi, khalani! Ndipo vuto, momwe kachiwiri kukondana ndi mwamuna wake, adzasiya yekha.
- Chachitatu, khalani wofatsa ndi wofatsa ndi mwamuna wanu. Ndipo sizokhudzana ndi kugonana kwagwirizano, zomwe siziyenera kusintha nthawi zonse, komanso zizindikiro za tsiku ndi tsiku. Tenga mwamuna modzichepetsa ndi dzanja mu sitolo, pomwe mzerewo umapita pang'onopang'ono. Kapena akugwedezeka ngati kuti mwangozi ntchafu yake ikuyendetsa galimoto. Kupsompsona pa tsaya, kudutsa pa phwando lachisangalalo, ndi mwambo wamakhalidwe kwa amayi omwe sakudziwa kukondana ndi mwamuna kachiwiri.
Mwatsoka, zimakhala zachilendo pa zovuta zina zomwe zimachitika m'banja, kusamvetsetsana ndi zifukwa, osati chikondi, zimayikidwa kutsogolo. Kawirikawiri awiri awiriwa amakhala mbali. Koma ngati mukutsimikiza kuti chikondi chikhalirebe, ndipo munthu uyu ndi theka lanu lachiwiri, chitanipo kanthu!
Momwe mungagwirizane ndi mwamuna wakale adzakuuzani mtima. Akumbutseni munthu wa iyeyekha, koma wosasamala. Muloleni iye awone momwe iwe unakhalira wokongola pamene iye analibe. Ngati pali mwayi woitanira mwamuna wamwamuna wakale kukawachezera, ndiye kuti musiye maluwa patebulo. Muuzeni kuti muli ndi chidwi ndi amuna ena. Koma koposa zonse, chikhalidwe cholimba chimayamikira kukhulupirika ndi kukhulupirika, kotero musati mukhale ndi nsanje. Khalani ndi chidaliro chochuluka mwa inu nokha ndipo zonse zidzatha!