"Mukudziwa?", "Tangoganizani!" - Anzanu ogwiritsa ntchito phokoso pamasana ndi nthawi ina iliyonse, osasowa mwayi wokambirana nkhani zatsopano. Pambuyo pathu ndi vuto - ndi chiyani, kulankhula mopanda pake, kapena kodi ndi nthawi yomwe mumagwiritsira ntchito phindu lanu?
Mfundo zosangalatsa
Asayansi omwe amapita patsogolo pa yunivesite ya Indiana (USA) asonyeza kuti miseche, ndizo ziweruzo zosaloledwa za anthu omwe salipo pakalipano, ali ndi zovuta kwambiri pakati pa anthu. Ndipotu, sichimakukondani ndi mphekesera zowonjezera, ndipo ambiri amangopewa anthu oterewa.
Mundikhulupirire, pokambirana za moyo wa munthu wina alipo kuphatikizapo, ndipo chikhumbo chotsuka mafupa a munthu chimabwera chifukwa cha zifukwa zina. Miseche imatanthauza kugawana nzeru, kufufuza, nthawi zambiri zopanda nzeru, kuyerekeza ndi munthu, kufufuza zofooka. Mwinamwake mutatha kuyang'ana kwatsopano pa tanthawuzo la lingaliro ili, kodi inu musintha malingaliro anu kwa miseche?
Kotero, akatswiri a zamaganizo amati anthu, pokambirana za mavuto a anthu ena, amawoneka kuti akuyesera okha khalidwe ndi zochitika za wina amene akufuna kukambirana. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, iwo amasangalala kuti zochitika zosangalatsa sizinachitike ndi iwo, motero, kuzindikira kwa izi, kuyerekezera ndi malo awo abwino, kumawachititsa kukhala chete.
Zotsatira za "kujambula"
1. Kutonthoza . Asayansi asonyeza kuti kutumiza uthenga kumathandiza kuthetsa. Pamene munthu akukambirana za wina, makamaka ngati nkhaniyi ndi mtundu woipa, mtima wake umawonjezeka, kumva nkhawa kumakula. Chikhalidwe chachilendo choterocho chimayambitsidwa chifukwa chakuti muyenera kuwuza wina chinthu china. Zimapindulanso ngati munthuyo sakufuna kulankhula zambiri zokhudza iye mwini, ndiye chifukwa chake amalankhula za wina. Chifukwa cha ichi, kukambirana kwa munthu akunja kumapangitsa kuti muteteze kuyankhulana ndi munthu wina, chifukwa mumakambirana nkhani zomwe zimakukondani, koma musakhudze nokha.
2. Zotsatira za kusintha . Akatswiri asayansi atsimikizira kale kuti miseche ndi zokambirana zinali zokhudzana ndi chisinthiko, monga momwe zinathandizira anthu kuti asankhe atsogoleri, kupatulapo onyenga ndi akuba. Dokotala wa Sciences N. Emler adanena kuti ndi miseche yomwe imasiyanitsa ife ndi zinyama ndipo idathandizira kupanga mapangidwe ambiri pakati pa anthu akale. Timalandira uthenga watsopano mwachinyengo, nthawi zambiri zonyenga, koma, mwinanso zilizonse, zothandiza, pokhapokha ngati sitingachite zolakwika zofanana m'miyoyo yathu. Bungwe lofufuza za zaumoyo laumoyo linapereka chidziwitso: 33% mwa amuna ndi 26% azimayi amalankhula miseche tsiku lililonse. Mfundo yosavuta ndi yakuti anthu amatcha miseche - kukambirana, ndipo amayi samatulutsa mau a nyimboyo ndi kunena momwe akunenera, "miseche."
3. Thandizani mnzanu . Akatswiri ena azachipatala amalimbikitsa maganizo awa: Nthawi zambiri, miseche imachitika chifukwa chofuna kuthandiza. Ndi kovuta kukhulupirira, koma ndi zoona. Popatsa wina chidziwitso choipa cha wina, timayesetsa kuteteza munthu uyu. Tsopano, omalizawa ali ndi zidziwitso ndipo, tiyeni tinene, okonzeka kukana mdani. Apa chinthu chachikulu chiri kale, kotero kuti munthu uyu sanagwiritsidwe mwatsatanetsatane mwachinsinsi.
Aliyense amadziwa kuti pali anthu omwe ali enieni, pafupifupi fane la miseche. Iwo amadziwa zonse ndi aliyense, pa zochitika ndi nkhani, ndizofunika kwambiri - amadziwa momwe angaperekere chidziwitso mu mtundu woyenera. Chifukwa cha izo, zimakhala zotchuka. Koma, khulupireni ine, anthu omwe ali ndi moyo wodzala ndi zochitika zochititsa chidwi, zochitika zokongola, kuzindikira, odziwa anzawo, sangakambirane za moyo wa munthu wina. Chifukwa chilakolako cha miseche
4. Cholimbikitsa ndi kukhazikitsa maubwenzi abwino . Miseche imatilimbikitsa kuti tikhale abwino. Tikuwopa kuti tidzatsutsidwa mwadzidzidzi, chifukwa cha zobisala ndi miseche, chinthucho chimatilimbikitsa kuti tisakhale monga choncho.
Pali lingaliro lakuti miseche imawononga ubwenzi. Koma izo zikutembenuka, ayi. Chifukwa cha miseche, ubwenzi ungakhale wovuta kwambiri. Chifukwa, pokambirana ndi munthu wina, anthu amaganiza kuti iwo sali ngati awo ndipo maganizo awo amawagwirizanitsa.
Ndipo tsopano taganizani, ndi kangati momwe mumalankhula miseche? Ndipo ndi zochuluka bwanji? Tsopano mukudziwa kuti izi ndi zothandiza kwambiri!