Munthu amene amakonda ndi kudziyamikira yekha amatha kuwona pomwepo. Iye ali ndi chidaliro mwa iyemwini, amadziwa momwe angapititsire ku cholinga, amakhalabe pamwamba, sali wovuta ndipo amalemekeza ena. Munthu wokhala ndi ulemu waukulu amakhala ndi mwayi wapamwamba kwambiri kuposa munthu amene ali ndi kudzidalira.
Akazi ambiri akuyesera kupeza yankho la funso la momwe mungadzikondere nokha ndikuwonjezera kudzidalira . Kufuna kotere kwa funsoli kumasonyeza kuti kudzidalira kwambiri kapena kudzikuza ndizovuta pa chikhalidwe chonse cha anthu.
Malingaliro onena zawekha amapangidwa kuyambira ali mwana, nthawi zambiri kuchokera ku maganizo a makolo kwa mwanayo. Kusamalidwa kwa kholo kapena kusasamala mwana nthawi zonse kumapangitsa mwana kumverera ngati wopanda pake kapena chofunika kwambiri. Zonsezi ndizovuta kwambiri polimbikitsa maubwenzi ndi kukonzekera zolinga ndikuzikwaniritsa.
Kawirikawiri, amayi omwe ali odzichepetsa amayamba kuganizira momwe angadzikondere okha ndi kuwalemekeza, atayamba kuchita zolephera pamoyo wawo. Akazi omwe samadzikonda okha sachita chidwi ndi amuna. Amayi amenewa nthawi zambiri amasiyidwa, osanyalanyazidwa, osayamikiridwa. Kawirikawiri, anthu otizungulira amatichitira momwe timadzikondera.
Kodi mkazi amadzikonda bwanji ndikuwonjezera kudzidalira?
Yesetsani kuti muwonjezere kudzidalira, choyamba, yesetsani nokha. Kuonjezera kudzidalira m'kanthawi kochepa sikugwira ntchito, chifukwa mavuto omwe adziyesera okha amapangidwa zaka zambiri. Ngati mukufuna kusintha moyo wanu kuti ukhale wabwino, ndiye malangizi othandizira monga momwe mungadzikondere nokha ndikudzidalira:
- Perekani madzulo amodzi kulembera pa pepala zifukwa zonse zomwe zingabweretsere mavuto. Ngati mumakumbukira kale, zimakhala zomveka kuti vuto lodzipenda ndilo chifukwa cha maganizo olakwika a anthu oyandikana nawo. Palibe vuto lanu pa izi.
- Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti kupambana ndi chisangalalo sichidalira kokha pa deta zakunja, nzeru ndi luso lina. Aliyense akhoza kukhala wachimwemwe, monga aliyense angadzipangire yekha wosasangalala.
- Lembani pamapepala kapena m'kalembedwe ka malemba ndi kusindikiza mndandanda wa makhalidwe anu abwino. Kawirikawiri zimakhala zovuta kwa munthu wodzichepetsa kuti achite izi. Mwachitsanzo, mungapeze mndandanda wa makhalidwe abwino a munthu pa intaneti. Mndandanda waumwini ukhale ndi makhalidwe osachepera 20. Zolembazi ziyenera kuikidwa pa kompyuta yanu ndikuwerenganso nthawi zonse.
- Muyenera kutenga nthawi, kusamalira thupi lanu, kuvala zovala zabwino. Anthu odzichepetsa samadziwa kugwiritsa ntchito ndalama pa maonekedwe awo. Kusamalira mbali ya thupi kumanena ubongo kuti thupi ndi loyenera kulemekezedwa.
- Tiyenera kuphunzira kunena kwa anthu omwe ali pafupi nafe "ayi." Musawope kuti ena sangasangalale ndi kukanidwa. Chinthu chofunikira kwambiri ndi kuphunzira momwe mungalankhulire za zilakolako zanu ndi maganizo anu. Ngakhale ngati abwenzi sakukondwera ndi khalidwe latsopanoli, iwo adzaphunzira kulemekeza maganizo anu.
- Ngati mkazi amaganizira zomwe akuyenera kudzikonda yekha, amafunika kumvetsa zomwe sakukhutitsidwa nazo.
Nthawi zina pamakhala mphindi pang'ono, zomwe zimaonedwa kuti ndizofunika kwambiri pazokha. Mayi akhoza kuganiza kuti ali wodzaza kwambiri kuti alemekezedwe, kapena wamanyazi. Ngati vutoli likulepheretsa, muyenera kuyamba ntchito. Komabe, moyo umasonyeza kuti ichi ndi chifukwa chodzidalira: ndikoyenera kuchotsa chifukwa chimodzi, monga wina akuwonekera.
Malangizo onsewa, momwe mungakhalire munthu wodzikonda komanso wokonda nokha, mudzathandizira nokha pamwamba pa zilakolako za anthu ena. Pokhapokha ngati munthu atha kuika zofuna zake ndi makhalidwe ake pamwamba pa anthu ena, akhoza kukonda wina.