Amayesetsa kukhala opambana pa bizinesi yake - nthawi zonse amayamika ndipo amayenera kulemekezedwa. Komabe, pamene zilakolako zaumunthu zikukakamizika kuchita zachiwerewere, munthu woteroyo sangavomerezedwe ndi anthu. Kodi cholinga ndi chiyani ngati munthu wolakalaka ndi wabwino kapena woipa?
Kodi chilakolako ndi chiyani?
Omasulira malingaliro amalingaliro akuti chilakolako ndi chikhumbo chokwaniritsa bwino malingana ndi zolinga zaumwini m'madera osiyanasiyana. Tikayerekeza ndi zolinga, mawu awa akugwiritsidwa ntchito pa zolinga zaumwini, osati kukhala odzikonda. Mosiyana ndi umbombo, chilakolako chimatanthauzidwa ngati kulandira phindu. Lingaliro limeneli ndi nkhani ya makhalidwe abwino, kuwerenga maganizo, maphunziro ndi anthu ena ofunika kwambiri.
Kufunafuna ndi zabwino kapena zoipa?
Nthawi zina funso la munthu wolakalaka limakhala lofulumizitsa - ndilobwino kapena, mosiyana, silovomerezeka m'magulu. Mwachidziwitso, chilakolako chimamupangitsa munthuyo kuti achite zinthu zina. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, munthu amachita chirichonse kuti achite ntchito yake mwangwiro. Pa nthawi yomweyi, angakhale ndi chilakolako chooneka bwino, akudziwoneka bwino, akukambirana zonyansa, kukwera makwerero.
Komabe, munthu woteroyo nthawi zonse adzagwira ntchito yake pamlingo wapamwamba ndipo akhoza kudalira. Popanda kukhala ndi chilakolako chotero sichitha kukhala masewera, mpikisano ndi mpikisano wina. Pano, anthu amakonda kuyesetsa kuti apambane ndipo izi ndizolakalaka zedi. Komabe, pali zochitika pamene munthu angathe kunyalanyaza za zoyenera kuti akwanilitse zolinga, amakonda kukondweretsa ndi kudzikuza, ndiye si zabwino kwambiri ndipo angatchedwe kuti ndichabechabe.
Kufunafuna ndi zopanda pake ndizosiyana
Ngati munthu akufuna kutchuka, izi zikutanthauza kuti iye amayesetsa kuti akhale wopambana m'mbali zosiyanasiyana za moyo ndipo izi sizikhoza koma kulemekeza. Kukhala katswiri wapadera m'munda wake ndipo panthawi yomweyi kugwira ntchito mosamala sikungalephere kukhala chitsanzo kwa ena. Ichi ndicho kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa maudindo ndi zopanda pake, kumene kuli kukopa kosayenera kwa chidwi cha umunthu wanu. Pakati pachabechabe ndi chilakolako muli mzere wabwino, pamene chimodzi cha makhalidwe amenewa chikhoza kusintha kukhala china. Muzochitika zoterezi, munthu akhoza kutamanda zofunikira zake.
Kulakalaka ndi kutchuka
Pokhala ndi maudindo ndi kumvetsetsa zifukwa zokhumba, chikhumbo chokwaniritsa zolinga zawo. Pali chikhumbo chokhala ndi udindo wina, kuti mukwaniritse udindo woyenera. Ponena za zolinga zabwino, ndi funso la zolinga zonse zomwe zimalimbikitsa munthu kuyesetsa kukhala wopambana. Chifukwa cha iwo, pali chikhumbo chokwaniritsira zolinga zawo ndi kukhala opambana kwambiri. Komabe, ngati zilakolako sizakhazikitsidwa, ndiye kuti munthu akhoza kuwoneka wosangalatsa kwambiri.
Kulakalaka kungakhale kothandiza kwa munthu aliyense. Choncho, popanda zovuta, zimakhala zovuta kuti muyambe kukwera pamwamba pamakwerero. Pano, wopambana adzakhala mmodzi yemwe, kupatula pa zamalonda, adakali ndi makhalidwe ofunika kwambiri. Kukonda kwambiri nthawi zambiri kumawathandiza masewera, chifukwa munthu wolakalaka sangavomereze kuti kutenga nawo mbali n'kofunika. Adzafuna kukhala wopambana.
Kunyada ndi chilakolako
Kawirikawiri chilakolako chimakhudzana ndi kudzikweza. Izi ndi chifukwa chakuti ndi kofunikira kuti munthu akhale wotsimikiza kuti adzakwanitsa kukwaniritsa zolinga zake. Komabe, ngati poyamba ayamba kukayikira, cholinga chake chidzakhala chosatheka. Anthu omwe ali ndi chilakolako amachititsa kuti anthu azikhala ndi maganizo oipa. Iwo amawakonda, chifukwa amadziwa zomwe akufuna, koma mbali ina amatha kukhumudwitsa, chifukwa akhoza kuchita zachiwerewere. Nthawi zina zimakhala zokhudzana ndi chilakolako chowawa. Mkhalidwe umenewu umakhala woipa kapena wabwino m'manja mwa munthuyo.
Kutchuka ndi mbiri
Aliyense kapena pafupifupi munthu aliyense amadandaula za mbiri yawo. Izi ndi zoona makamaka kwa anthu apamwamba. Iwo amayesera kuchita chirichonse kuti asasokoneze nkhope zawo pamaso pa ena. Kaya munthu wina ali ndi ulemu wofuna kutchuka ndi mbiri idzadalira. Choncho, ngati munthu akuyesetsa kuti apambane pantchito yake ndipo nthawi yomweyo amayesa kukwaniritsa ntchito zake mwangwiro, ali ndi mwayi wonse wolemekezeka pamaso pa ena.
Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale ndi chilakolako?
Kukhala ndi zolinga zolinga ndi zabwino. Ngati pali chikhumbo chofuna kukhala ndi maudindo, apa pali malangizo othandiza:
- Ndikofunika kubwereza mau abwino monga momwe mungathere. Awa ndi mawu omwe amadzikumbutsa zothokoza. Ndi chithandizo chawo, mukhoza kusintha luso lodzidalira ndi kuthetsa mavuto m'mavuto ovuta.
- Ndikofunika kuika maganizo pa zomwe mungapeze ndi kuganizira mozama kuti pali mwayi woti mutaya.
- Ndikofunika kuganiza za kulephera ngati njira yothetsera.
- Muyenera kusangalala, koma musamangidwe.
- Ndikofunika kukhazikitsa zolinga zina komanso panthawi imodzimodziyo kukhazikitsa njira yowathandizira. Tanthauzo la zolinga zazing'ono komanso za nthawi yayitali. Ndikofunika kudzipindulitsa nthawi zonse mukakwaniritsa zolinga zanu.
Chikhumbo mu Orthodoxy
Chipembedzo cha Orthodox chimati chilakolako ndi tchimo. Mkhristu woona sayenera kukhala choncho, chifukwa zingakwiyitse Mulungu. Chipembedzo chachikhristu chimati aliyense ayenera kukhala wodzichepetsa komanso osadziwika. Baibulo limatiuza kuti mu moyo wa Yesu Khristu, kuchiritsa odwala kunapewa kutchuka ndi ulemu. Buku Lopatulika limanena kuti munthu ayenera kupewa khalidwe loipa ngati chilakolako chokhazikika.