Ndi anthu ochepa okha omwe amadziwa kuti ndikutani, ngakhale kuti nthawi zambiri timakumana nawo tsiku ndi tsiku. Izi zimachitika pakugwirizanitsa magulu osiyanasiyana kukhala amodzi, kukhala ndi cholinga chimodzi. Izi zimachitika m'madera osiyanasiyana ofunika, sayansi, chikhalidwe ndi maganizo.
Kodi kufanana ndi chiyani?
Pakali pano, lingaliro la kuyanjana liri ndi matanthauzo ambiri. M'madera onse, zikhale mankhwala, biology, chipembedzo, psychology, ndi zina zotero, zikutanthawuza kuyanjana kwa gulu limodzi ndi lina, ndi cholinga chosintha pamapeto. Kwa anthu, kufanana ndi njira yakuwonongeka kwa chidziwitso cha dziko, pakukhazikitsira chikhalidwe cha anthu ena. Kotero, izo zinachititsa kuti anthu ambiri asakhalenso kwathunthu ndi kuthetseratu kwathunthu miyambo yawo. Ikhoza kukhala ya mitundu ingapo:
- zachilengedwe;
- chiwawa;
- kukakamizidwa.
Kusamalidwa mu Socialology
Mu kusintha kwa anthu, chikhalidwe ichi chiripo nthawi zonse, chifukwa chimatsimikizira zotsatira zabwino. Funso likubweranso: kodi kugwirizanitsa ndikutanthawuza chiyani kuti tidziwike muzochitika zamagulu? Iyi ndi njira yosavuta yochotsera zosiyana za anthu, zina zomwe zinachokera kwa anthu ena. Pali mtundu wa kulephereka m'maganizo a anthu omwe poyamba anali okhulupilira chikhalidwe chawo, chipembedzo chawo kapena chinenero chawo.
Chidziwitso cha kusintha kwa chikhalidwe chosiyana ndi chokongola ndipo njira imeneyi imapangidwira munthu mwamsanga. Mwamwayi, m'moyo muli zochitika zambiri za chipsinjo. Kawirikawiri zimatha kuonekeratu kumalo kumene ntchito zankhondo zikuchitika. Pali kukakamizidwa, ndipo boma limasankha anthu, zomwe ayenera kukhulupirira ndi momwe angakhalire.
Kulingalira mu Psychology
Kuchokera m'malingaliro a maganizo, zifukwa zowonongeka zimawonekera mwadzidzidzi, chifukwa popanda munthu munthu sangathe kulumikizana molingana. Mawu awa amatanthauza gawo limodzi la ndondomeko ya kusintha, komwe ndiko kupeza chinthu chatsopano. Kulingalira ndi njira yosavuta yodziwira dziko , chifukwa ndi iye palibe chifukwa chovomereza zambirimbiri. Kuyambira ndi msinkhu wa khanda, nthawi zophunzira izi zimadzikumbutsa ndikukhalapo, pang'onopang'ono zikuchulukitsa.
Zizindikiro za kuzindikiritsa
Zotsatira zofanana za kugwirizanitsa zimagawanika molingana ndi zochitika m'zinenero. Mawu ambiri amalembedwa mwanjira imodzi, ndipo matchulidwe awo omveka amasiyana ndi makalata amodzi kapena awiri. Njirazi zimakumana ndi moyo tsiku ndi tsiku, ndipo kulankhula kwathu kumapanga mawonekedwe atsopano komanso atsopano. Kutembenuka kwa kumveka komweku kunawulula zizindikiro zotsatirazi za chilankhulidwe cha zinenero:
- kukhudzana - kumveka kwa mawu awiri pafupi;
- Kupita patsogolo - phokoso lapitalo limakhudza chotsatira;
- zodzaza - zizindikiro zosiyana zimakhala zofanana;
- Kusiyanitsa - kusakanikirana kwa phokoso lomwe siliyimirira pambali;
- mowonjezereka - mawu omvekawo amakhudza choyambirira;
- sizimveka - zomveka zimakhala zosiyana, koma zimagwirizana wina ndi mzake pazifukwa zina.
Kodi kufanana kumasiyana bwanji ndi kusokonezeka?
Pafupi chirichonse padziko lapansi chiri chosiyana. Kusiyanitsa pakati pa kusamalitsa ndi kusokonezeka kumakhalapo chifukwa chakuti poyamba poyamba pali kugwirizanitsa, mwachiwiri, kuvunda. Njirazi nthawi zambiri sizingatheke, choncho nthawi zonse zimakhala zosiyana. Njira yoyamba imaphatikizapo mphamvu, ndipo yachiwiri amathera pomwepo komanso zolephera zina zimabweretsa mavuto. Makamaka zimadza ndi zaka. Njira yothetsera ana asanakwanitse zaka zaunyamata ikukula bwino, komwe kupeza mphamvu kumapitirira ndalama zake.