"Ndinaziganizira ndekha, ndinakhumudwa!" - Atsikana ndi amayi ambiri anamva chidzudzulo ichi kuchokera kwa anzawo. Nchifukwa chiyani zimagwiritsidwa ntchito pa zolakwa za amayi monga chiganizo, ndi momwe tingalekerere kukwiya zopanda pake - tiyeni tiwone nkhaniyi.
N'chifukwa chiyani timakhumudwa?
Chifundo sichikhalidwe choyambirira cha khalidwe. Ana amayamba kukhumudwa pokhapokha atazoloŵera malamulowo. Mwachitsanzo, mwana amaphunzitsidwa kugawa zidole zake. Ndipo apa woyandikana naye mchenga wa mchenga amatenga fosholo yake, koma sapereka chidebe chake. Kodi munthu wamng'ono amamva bwanji? Kuwidwa mtima kwa mnzanu amene sanagwirizane ndi zoyembekeza zake, ndi kudzimvera chisoni. Pano pali, cholakwa choyamba.
Nthawi zina, mwana, ndiyeno wachinyamatayo, amaphunzira mothandizidwa ndi mkwiyo wake poyesa ena. Monga lamulo, anthu amalola atsikana kukhala ndi moyo nthawi yaitali monga momwe ana ang'onoang'ono amakhalira. Momwemonso, kamnyamatayo adzauzidwa moyenera kuti: "Khalani ngati mwamuna!", Ndipo msungwana wamng'ono adzadandaula ndikuthandiza kubwezeretsa chilungamo. Mwatsoka, iyi ndi njira yomwe mkwiyo umakhazikika mu chikhalidwe chachikazi. Ndipo mkazi wachikulire ndiye amamva zachipongwe: "Kodi ukukhumudwanso?"
Choncho, kumangokhalira kukwiya kumabwera chifukwa choyembekezera zinthu zosayenera. Msungwana amayembekeza kuti mafilimu achikondi amveke kwa mnyamata, ndipo ngati sachita, amakhumudwa. Ngakhale kuti maubwenzi ali ndi gawo loyambirira, amuna ali okonzeka kukhala ndi mlandu wopanda mlandu. Koma m'kupita kwa nthawi, iwo adzakonzanso zida zokongola m'gulu la nkhanza. Ndipo kukhudzidwa kudzatchedwa ndi dzina lake - chilakolako chofuna kugwiritsidwa ntchito mothandizidwa ndi chidziwitso chosadziwika. Ndipo kamodzi, mwa chizoloŵezi, pokhala ndi vuto la chinkhupule, mkazi amapeza phunziro loipa. M'malo mwa munthu wamantha, amaona kuti akubwerera. Ndipo amva mawu omwe anaponyedwa pa phewa lake: "Walingalira zonse, iwe wakhumudwa tsopano, khala pansi ndi kulakwitsa kwako."
Nchifukwa chiyani sitiyenera kukhumudwa?
Mabanja ena amakhala moyo wawo wonse, ndipo wina amachitira chipongwe, ndipo wina - kudziona kuti ndi wolakwa. Kodi ndiyenera kusintha chinachake, kufufuza zifukwa ndi njira? Akatswiri a zamaganizo ndi madokotala amatsutsa mosapita m'mbali, motsimikizirika, ayenera kumvetsetsa, mwinamwake kumayambitsa matenda aakulu a somatic. Mkwiyo ndi ululu, umene timanyamula mkati ndi kudzipha tokha. Ngati mukuwopsya moyo wanu kwa nthawi yayitali, mukhoza kugona tulo, mtima, komanso khansa. Ndipo ngati matenda akuyamba kudziwonetsera okha, ndiye nthawi yoti mumvetsetse, bwanji kuti musakhumudwitse anthu.
Kodi mungatani kuti musakhumudwe?
Choncho, chifukwa cha kunyoza pali zifukwa ziwiri.
- Yoyamba ndi yosokoneza . Ichi ndi chizoloŵezi chokhazikika mu chiyanjano ndi ena: Ndikudikirira, simundipatsa, ndikukhumudwa, mumalapa ndikupereka. Mu chikonzero ichi, ndipo yankho la funso la momwe mungaphunzire kuti musakhumudwitsidwe. Chinyengo ndi chakuti munthu wamkulu amayembekeza chinachake kuchokera kwa wina. Ndili kuyembekezera kumene mukufunikira kugwira ntchito, ndipo kuyambira pomwe, pezani mfundo izi:
- N'zotheka kupeza zomwe mukufuna ndi mphamvu yanu. Kudzidalira kumapangitsa munthu kukhala wamphamvu komanso wodzilamulira. Kwa munthu wotere anthu ena amadzikoka okha, ndipo palibe chifukwa chowasungira okha ndi mtima wodzimvera;
- kodi munthuyo amadziwa zomwe akuyembekezera? Amuna amakonda kwenikweni kusonyeza kudzichepetsa komanso kulingalira mozama. Koma ndi chisangalalo chidzachita kwa wokondedwayo chirichonse, chomwe amamufunsa poyera.
- Chifukwa chachiwiri ndi cholinga .
chilakolako chikhoza kuvulaza kwambiri, chifukwa chakunyoza kwenikweni. Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kusakhumudwitsidwa ndi anthu otere? Yankho lake ndi limodzi - kuphunzira kuphunzira ndi kuvomereza. Landirani mfundo yakuti anthu ena ali ndi njira yayitali ya kusasitsa mwauzimu. Kukhululukira moona mtima, kumasula katundu wosafunikira kuchokera mu mtima wanu ndi kusakumbukira zambiri za izo.
Pazochitika zonsezi, yesetsani kukhala nokha, pakukula kwa makhalidwe anu omwe angakuthandizeni kukweza mkwiyo. Chinsinsi cha mavuto onse ndi kuyamba kuyang'ana mkati mwa iwe mwini, kotero kuti kuchokera kwa munthu yemwe amakhumudwa ndi zosavuta, akhale munthu womasuka ku mkwiyo ndi ziyembekezo zopanda kanthu.