Akazi sali obadwa, iwo amakhala. Akazi aphunzira kuti pali chinthu chotero ndipo pang'onopang'ono amayenda kumbali ya kayendetsedwe kakale. Takhala "tikukolola zipatso zake" kwa nthawi yaitali. Ndipo mmalo moyimitsa, kuti tiganizirenso, mochulukira timapanga mavuto podzizungulira tokha. Za zomwe "akazi" amatanthauza, werengani.
Zambiri mwatsatanetsatane
Ukazi wachikazi ndilo kayendedwe ka mgwirizano wa ufulu ndi amuna. Chidachitika ku North America pa Nkhondo Yodziimira.
Mkazi woyamba-wachikazi ankaganiza moyenera za American Abigail Smith Adams. Ndilo mawu ake odziwika bwino akuti: "Sitidzamvera malamulo, pokhapokha ngati sitinayambe nawo mbali, ndipo sitidzagonjera boma lomwe silikuimira zofuna zathu."
Woimira oyambirira wa kayendetsedwe ka ufulu wa amayi ku USSR anali Valentina Tereshkova. Pambuyo pake, kutchuka mpaka lero, akazi achikazi otchuka anali Clara Zetkin, yemwe adafuna kukondwerera Tsiku la Azimayi la Mkazi pa March 8 ndi Maria Arbatova. Otsatira gululi omwe amalimbikitsa kutenga nawo mbali pa chisankho, moyo wa anthu. Mbiri yakale inakhazikitsa ukazi wothandizira kuthetseratu kuponderezana ndi utsogoleri. Tsopano kuti zonsezi zakhala zikukwaniritsidwa kale, chikazi sichikhala chofunikira kwambiri.
Kodi chikuchitika chiani tsopano?
Oimira chigawo chokongola cha mtundu wa anthu akusocheretsa ndikusokoneza lingaliro lamakono la zochitika izi. Kudzitcha okha akazi, asungwana amakana ndikunyalanyaza kufunikira kwa amuna. N'zosadabwitsa kuti pakati pa mafilimu amasiku ano a chisokonezo, ambiri oimira njira zolakwika. Kuchulukitsa "muzhikovatost" mu "pansi ndi phulusa" kunapondaponda chikazi.
M'malo mokweza chikhalidwe cha chikazi, kukongola ndi kugonana, timadzimvera tokha ndi munthu yemwe si mwamuna kapena mkazi mnzathu ndipo motero timanyoza osati iwo okha, koma ife eni. Amuna, nawonso, amataya mphamvu ndi umuna m'maso mwathu. Nanga, timamva chisoni ngati ife titawasiya mwayi umenewu?
Choyamba, tonse ndife anthu omwe ali ndi moyo komanso amatha kumva. Inu mumafuna ufulu - mudzakhala. Koma sitiyenera kudzipangitsa tokha ku malire ndi "kuuma" kwa wina (sitidzalongosola chala) chiri "cholimba kwambiri". Tsopano tikudandaula kuti palibe amuna enieni. Koma kodi akazi enieni alipobe?
Kufunsidwa, monga akunenera, kumapangitsa kukambirana.
Chilichonse ndi chabwino moyenera
Tisakane kuti zachikazi zamakono zimabzala udani pakati pa amuna ndi akazi ndipo zimalimbikitsa lingaliro la kufooka kwa amuna. Tsatirani izi: Zonsezi zinayambira ndi kulimbana kwa chiyanjano ndi ufulu, ndipo kodi pamapeto pake adafika pati?
Mwa kusokoneza kusiyana kwa chikhalidwe pakati pa oimira azimayi osiyanasiyana, kuwononga njira yachikhalidwe ya moyo ndi kuwononga maudindo omwe apatsidwa kwa amuna ndi akazi, chisokonezo chonse chimapezeka mu chiyanjano. Pamapeto pake onse "sasangalala" ndipo amakumana ndi mavuto pomvetsetsana.
Ngati mwadzipangira udindo wokhala mkazi, ganizirani izi musanayambe kukhazikitsa ntchitoyi. Ufulu wonse ndi kumasulidwa kwathu kwatsimikiziridwa kale. Kodi mukutsatira chiyani?
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti lingaliro lamakono la chikhalidwe cha chikazi limapweteka kwambiri mwa amuna. Kuchokera kukhumudwa, kugonana "kofooka" kumayamba kubwezera pa "mphamvu". Pano pali kubwezera kumeneku ndipo chidani sichingakhale chophweka. Moyo ndi thupi zimafuna chisamaliro, chikondi ndi chikondi. Zimakhala zovuta kutsutsana ndi chilengedwe komanso zachilengedwe. Apo ayi, timadzichitira okha chiwawa.
Monga ndakatulo wina anati: "Ndiwe mkazi, ndipo ndi zomwezo." Ndipo izi ziyenera kukhala zonyada.