Podziwa kuti ndikutani, mungathe kudana ndi munthu wododometsa, kuwonetsa zolakwa kapena kumukhumudwitsa. Kuyankhula kotereku kumangokhalira kuseka, koma ndi kukhudzidwa kwa nthabwala zakuda. Mukhoza kumva kunyoza pafupifupi kulikonse, kuchokera kwa abwana kupita kwa ana anu omwe.
Sarcasm - ndi chiyani?
Okweka m'dziko lathu ndi ambiri ndipo ndi osiyana. Ngati wina ayamba kupanga nthabwala yoipa kwa wina, ndiye amagwiritsa ntchito chipangizo chomwe kuyambira nthawi zakale chinkawoneka ngati chofikira anthu okhawo apamwamba ndi udindo. Kuti timvetse tanthauzo la kunyoza, munthu ayenera kutembenukira ku chiyambi cha mawu awa.
Lili ndi mizu ya Chigiriki ndi matembenuzidwe angapo: "kutambasula thupi," "kudya nyama," "milomo yoluma," mwinamwake kunena za mkhalidwe wa munthu yemwe anamva mopanda tsankho ku adiresi yake, atavala nthabwala. Masanthauzirama amatanthauzira tanthauzo la mawu awa ngati kunyoza koipa, mwano wonyansa, wonyodola, mothandizidwa ndi zomwe iwo akufuna kuti awulule wina mwachinyengo.
Kodi mungadziwe bwanji zong'oneza bondo?
Kusiyanitsa mawu achisokonezo kuchokera ku zodabwitsa kapena zosangalatsa ndi ophweka. Mmodzi wa iwo ali ndi tanthauzo lake lomwe. Zopweteka kwambiri ndi nthabwala zosangalatsa zomwe zingakupangitseni kuganiza ndi kuseka vuto kapena munthu popanda kumudetsa kapena kumunyoza. Irony ndi "dona woopsa". Sangathe kungokhalira kuseka, koma osati zopweteka kwambiri kuti asamvetse izi kapena mawuwo.
Ngakhale kuyankhula mwachidule ndi kunyoza kuli koopsa, koopsa komanso kokhumudwitsa, koma n'kofunika ndi uthenga womwe iwo akunenedwa. Pankhaniyi, wokamba nkhani, monga lamulo, amamvetsa bwino zomwe zimapweteka munthu, koma amakwaniritsa izi. Pachifukwa ichi, ndi bwino kuchitapo kanthu molondola ndi mawu, kuti musadzatseke nokha.
Mmene mungayankhire ndi kunyoza?
Funso lovuta komanso lopweteka kwambiri ndi momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito kalembedwe kameneka pambali ya munthu wina ndi momwe mungachitire ndi izo. Zindikirani kuti kunyoza kwakukulu sikukumveka kwa aliyense, koma ndi omwe amalola nthabwala zoterezo ku adiresi yawo. Kawirikawiri munthu woteroyo amakhala "mnyamata wakukwapulidwa", komanso ku adiresi yake ndipo popanda chifukwa amamuseka nthabwala aliyense wosakhala waulesi. Dzitetezeni ku nthabwala zonyansa ndipo mukhoza kuchita izi:
- chotsani zovuta;
- phunzirani kuyankhulana mwachipongwe;
- ngati n'kotheka, pita ku maphunziro akukula.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti kunyozedwa kumaloledwa kwa anthu omwe sali oyenerera, akuvutika ndi mantha osiyanasiyana kapena kudziimba mlandu nthawi zonse, nthawi zambiri popanda kuzindikira ngakhale kuti akulakwa. Pitirizani izi kungakhale ndendende ngati mawu okhumudwitsa samveka poyankha wolakwira, ndipo izi zidzachitidwa poyera. Monga momwe chiwonetsero chimasonyezera, kulakwitsa kwakukulu, kopanda pakeko kumakhumudwitsa kwambiri joker yowopsya.
Chisakasa ndi chisokonezo ndizosiyana
Kuti musakhumudwitsidwe ndi nthabwala iliyonse ndipo musamapweteketse mawu alionse, ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa kumene kunyoza ndi kusokoneza kuli, kusiyana ndi momwe amasiyanirana. Ngati akunena zachipongwe, mothandizidwa ndi zomwe akufuna kuvulaza munthu poyera, zonse ziri zomveka, ndiye kusayeruzika, pokhala ndi zowonongeka, kumaphimbidwa. Sizingatheke mwachindunji, koma kumanyansidwa kapena kunyoza. Chisakasa ndi mtundu wonyansa komanso wonyansa. Pankhani yonyansa, tanthawuzo lake lonyenga liyenera kuyesedwa kugwira, lomwe silinaperekedwe kwa aliyense.
Sarcasm ndi zabwino kapena zoipa?
Ngati tikukamba za anthu omwe amagwiritsa ntchito mawu achipongwe mobwerezabwereza, ndiye kuti iwo ndi anthu anzeru, komabe pazing'ono kapena zochepetsedwa, osayang'anitsitsa, chikondi, chisamaliro. Kapena, mosiyana ndi zimenezo, amadalitsidwa ndi madalitso a moyo ndipo amadziona kuti ndi ofunikira. Zoona, ana aamuna oterowo, monga olamulira, mu nthabwala zawo zoipa amayenderera ku banal mwano, osamvetsetsa zomwe akunyoza.
Zosangalatsa zong'onong'onong'ono sizikugwirizana nazo, chifukwa zimagwiritsa ntchito mawu, kugwiritsa ntchito mwaluso. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, munthu wodandaula amakhala wodabwitsa kwambiri, ndipo lingaliroli, limodzi ndi nthabwala lakuthwa komanso loipa - likuwonekera bwino. Sikoyenera kulingalira, kudandaula zabwino kapena zoipa. Malinga ndi amene ali ndi chida ichi, zotsatira zake zowombera zingakhale zosiyana. Pa nthawi yomweyi, sitiyenera kuiwala kuti Faina Ranevskaya, yemwe ndi wojambula bwino, adatchuka osati chifukwa cha luso lake lochita zinthu, komanso chifukwa chodzudzula mawu omwe ali othandiza komanso atapita kale.
- Ndi bwino kukhala munthu wabwino, "kulumbirira" kusiyana ndi zolengedwa zamtendere, zophunzitsidwa.
- Horseradish, yomwe imaikidwa pamaganizo a ena, imapatsa moyo wodekha ndi wosangalala.
- Pansi pa mchira wokongola kwambiri wa peacock ndi bulu wamba wamba. Kotero ndizochepa pathos, abwana.
- Nchifukwa chiyani onse opusa ali ngati akazi?
- Kodi mumadziwa zomwe zimakhala mu kanema? Tangoganizirani kuti mukusambitsuka ndikusamba ulendo kumeneko.
- Kuti mulandire kuzindikira - ndikofunikira, ngakhale koyenera, kufa.
- Kugonana, kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, masochism, kusamvetsetsa sikuli zopotoza. Zovuta, makamaka, ziwiri zokha: hockey yamunda ndi ballet pa ayezi.
- Chilichonse chokondweretsa m'dziko lino ndi chovulaza, kapena chiwerewere, kapena chimayambitsa kunenepa kwambiri.
- Ndikudani inu. Kulikonse kumene ndimapita, aliyense amayang'ana pozungulira nati: "Taonani, uyu ndi Mulia, musandichititse mantha, ikubwera."
- Akazi, ndithudi, ali anzeru. Kodi munamvapo za mkazi yemwe adataya mutu wake chifukwa chakuti munthuyo ali ndi miyendo yokongola?
- Talente ndizokhazika mtima pansi ndi zosasangalatsa zokhazikika ndi wekha ndi zofooka zanu, chinachake chimene sindinayambe ndachipezapo ndi chisokonezo.
- Nthawi yachinai ndikuwonera kanema ndipo ndikukuuzani kuti lero ochita masewerowa adayimba kuposa kale lonse.
Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kutukwana?
Chilichonse chomwe chinali, kudandaula kumatanthauza khalidwe loipa la munthu komanso kudzidalira kwake , koma ngati mutayamba kugwiritsa ntchito molakwika, mukhoza kuthamangira ku vuto lalikulu. Ofuna kuseka ayenera kudziwa momwe angaphunzire kuyankhulana komanso kusalankhula koma osadziyika okha. Chinthu chachikulu ngati mukufuna kupweteka munthu, muyenera:
- bwino;
- mawu omveka bwino;
- kusakhala mawu okhumudwitsa ndi mawu a tizilombo toyambitsa matenda;
- kusankha malo abwino kapena mkhalidwe wa nthabwala;
- kuyang'ana kwakukulu.
Ngati mutayamba kudzichita mwatsatanetsatane m'mawu osamveka, ndiye kuti mwezi umodzi mudzatha kuwonetsa momveka bwino. Chinthu chachikulu sichiyenera kupita patali, chifukwa kudandaula, ngakhale kuseketsa, koma nthawi zina kumakhumudwitsa. Mu moyo, luso limeneli ndi lothandiza kwambiri, chifukwa mawu omangidwa bwino ndi ogwira ntchito achipongwe amathandiza kutsegula zitseko zambiri.
Sarcasm ndi kuseketsa
Mwachidziwitso mukulankhula kulikonse muyenera kumakhala ndi chisangalalo. Sarcasm ndizoseketsa, pokhapokha ndi kuwonjezera kunyoza. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, awa ndi mafanizo awiri ofotokoza, kukhalapo komwe sikutheka popanda wina ndi mnzake. Anthu amanyazi sangathe kuwagwiritsa ntchito pazinthu zawo ndipo motero kusamvetsetsana kwachipongwe kumatengedwa. Kukulitsa luso limodzi mwa inu nokha, munthu amadziŵa yekha yachiwiri. Chofunika kwambiri ndi chakuti, ataphunzira kudana, anthu akhoza kuwonjezera ulemu wawo ndi udindo wawo.