Kulingalira, kapena kulingalira, ndiko kukhala ndi khalidwe loletsa, mogwirizana ndi zikhalidwe zoyenera. Anthu omwe ali ndi malingaliro abwino, ndi abwino komanso omasuka polankhulana, samangotsatira malamulo osadziwika okha, komanso amadziwa momwe amamvetsetsera, komanso samalola kuti zikhale zochititsa manyazi.
Kodi "munthu wanzeru" amatanthauzanji?
Chinthu chofunika kwambiri chomwe chimasiyanitsa khalidwe labwino ndi luso lachinyengo, ndi luso loganiza osati zokhumba zanu, zosowa zanu komanso zofuna zanu, komanso momwe mungakhalire osangalatsa komanso osangalatsa. Mwachitsanzo, munthu wochenjera sangapangitse munthu kukhala naye payekha ngati munthu watopa kwambiri komanso sakufuna kulankhula. Kapena, mwachitsanzo, sangapemphe zambiri zokhudza chochitika kapena chochitika chimene munthu sakufuna kukambirana.
Monga lamulo, munthu wochenjera amakhala ndi izi:
- kudzichepetsa;
- steadiness;
- luso loletsa chidwi cha munthu;
- luso lomvera ;
- kuthekera kwongomvetsera, komanso kumvetsera ena;
- Kukhoza kudziyika nokha pamalo a munthu wina.
Ndizoyankhula mwachangu zomwe zimasonyeza momwe munthu angakhalire ndi anthu. Ndipo chizindikiro chachikulu kwambiri ndi pamene munthu amachitira mwaluso osati kuntchito kapena kwa alendo, komanso ndi ulemu kwa okondedwa awo.
Njira yothandizira ndi kuyankhulana: momwe mungaphunzire?
Mukhoza kudziwa ndi mtima wonse mabuku onse okhudzana ndi khalidwe labwino, koma kutsatira malamulo sikutanthauza kuti mudzakhala osamala. Pofuna kukhala ndi malingaliro, ndikofunikira kuti tikhale ndi makhalidwe ndi luso:
- Mulimonsemo, musanapange pempho kapena zopereka, yesetsani kudziyika nokha pamalo a wina. Kodi ndi zoyenera kuti inu muzimva mau anu tsopano? Kodi samakhudza mmene akumvera? Kodi am'kakamiza kuti asiye mapulani omwe akukonzekera? Kodi kuli koyenera kuti alankhule tsopano? Taganizirani momwe mungayankhire, ndikuuzeni tsopano mawu awa. Ndipo kokha ngati simukuwona cholakwika chilichonse mu izi, chikhoza kutchulidwa.
- Kutsogoleredwa ndi kulingalira kwake: musamangokhalira kupsa mtima kwa munthu yemwe ali ndi mafunso, zopepuka zosafunikira kapena zoyamikirika.
- Chitani pazimenezo, chifukwa malo alionse amawoneka ofunika kwambiri
chitsanzo cha khalidwe. - Khalani mwachibadwa, pewani masewera ndi masewero owonjezera.
- Mulimonsemo, khalani ndi nkhawa : musaseke konse, musadandaule, musadule ndi chisangalalo.
Masiku ano anthu osamala amakhala akusowa. Munthu wochenjera samangokhala wophunzira komanso wolemekezeka, komanso amadziwa momwe angayankhire ena manyazi, amamva malire a kulankhulana ndipo nthawi zonse amakhala okondwa komanso omasuka pokambirana.