N'zosatheka kupeŵa mikangano. Pali anthu ambiri, maganizo ambiri. Tikasinthanitsa malingaliro athu, chidziwitso, chidziwitso, timakakamizidwa osati kungoganiza zokha malinga ndi malingaliro athu, komanso kumvetsera, nthawi zambiri mosiyana ndi momwe timaonera interlocutor. Ndipo pamene zofuna sizimagwirizana, pamabuka mikangano.
Mikangano sizowopsya nthawi zonse. Kawirikawiri ndikumenyana kumene choonadi chimabadwa. Njira yowonjezera yowonjezera yothetsera vuto ingapezenso mutatha kuthetsa vutoli. Mgwirizano wotsutsa kapena wowonongeka umatsimikiziridwa ndi momwe mumasankhira kuthetsa mkangano uwu.
Khutitsa ndiwekha ...
Kukhala ndekha, kutsutsana kwapakati kungabwere pa nthawi iliyonse. Kawirikawiri, pamene zoyembekeza zathu sizigwirizana ndi zomwe tili nazo kwenikweni, kumenyana kwapadera kumabwera chifukwa cha kusadziwa kwathu, ndiko kuti, mkangano umene umapezeka mkati mwathu, mkati mwa moyo wathu, chidziwitso chathu. Njira zothetsera mikangano yosagwirizana ndizokhazikitsidwa, choyamba, pofufuza momwe zinthu zilili komanso kuzindikira chomwe chimayambitsa chisokonezo. Njira yeniyeni yothetsera vuto ndi kulemba mawu a zomwe mukuda nkhawa nazo. Popeza mwalemba ndondomeko zonse, ndipo mutayang'ana zomwe zachitika, mutha kudziwa kale "mdani" wanu mumoyo mwanu.
Tsopano tiyeni tiwone njira zothandiza kwambiri zothetsera mikangano yoyamba.
- Kulandirira "Chotsatira ndi chiyani?" Lembani zomwe mwalemba. Kuwerenga ndime iliyonse, mumalingaliro, kapena mokweza, dzifunseni funso ili: "Ndipo chotsatira ndi chiyani?". Funsani funso ili kwa mafunso atsopano ndi zotsutsana zomwe zikuchokera mitu yanu, mayankho sangatenge nthawi yaitali kuyembekezera. Pitirizani izi mndandanda mpaka yankho lanu liri: "Palibe!". Kamodzi "palibe", kodi ndibwino kuti mudandaule za zopanda pake? Chirichonse, funsoli lasinthidwa. Kawirikawiri ife timakokera mavuto athu, timatero, monga momwe akunenera, kuchokera kumalo a njovu.
- Kusintha maganizo. Ngati simungathe kusintha vutoli, musafulumire kudzipweteka nokha, yesetsani kusintha maganizo anu pa vutoli. Yang'anirani mkhalidwewo kuyambira pa nthawi yowona zabwino, ndipo iwo adzapezeka, khulupirirani ine. Mutasintha malingaliro a vutoli, mudzamva chitonthozo, ndipo pasanapite nthawi vuto lidzatha.
Kutuluka kwa nkhondo yapachibale kumatilepheretsa kukhala ndi thanzi labwino. Nkhawa ndi nkhawa sizidzatha mpaka chifukwa chake chichotsedwa. Choncho, kuyesa kusinthana ku mulandu, kuyesa kusaganizira za wodwalayo, kuthamangitsa kapena kusintha nkhani yosathetsedwe ndi zina zomwe sizingatheke. Kwa kanthawi mudzaiwala zomwe zikukuvutitsani. Koma izi sizidzatha nthawi yaitali, chifukwa chomwe chimayambitsa mkangano sichidzathetsedwa. Musathamangitse nokha, musawope, chitetezero chabwino koposa ndikumenyana ndi mantha anu.
Inu ndi ena
Kuntchito, pakhomo, pa phwando - kulikonse komwe tifunika kukambirana ndi anthu pali mikangano ndi mikangano. Izi ndi zachibadwa, ndipo ndi zachibadwa. Pali njira zambiri zothetsera mikangano yaumwini, ndiko kuti, mikangano pakati pa anthu. Aliyense amasankha yekha khalidwe labwino lomwe limagwirizana kwambiri ndi mfundo zake, chilengedwe, ndi kufunikira kothetsa vutoli.
- Njira yothandiza kwambiri yothetsera kusamvana ndiyo kuyanjana. Pankhaniyi, maphwando otsutsana amakonza vuto pazovomerezeka kwa aliyense. Apa, muyeso yina, onse apambana.
- Kupewa kapena kupeŵa mkangano si njira yabwino yothetsera vutoli. Khalidwe limeneli lingakhale bomba la nthawi. Pamene mumapewa mikangano yotseguka, kukhumudwa ndi kukhumudwa zidzakulemberani. Mwayi ndi mwayi kuti m'tsogolomu izi zidzasanduka mikangano yaumwini. Kodi mukufunikira izi? Konzani vuto pamene likuchitika.
- Kukambirana monga njira yothetsera kusamvana kuli ndi malamulo ena. Choyamba,
ndikofunikira kupereka chidziwitso choyera cha malo ake ndi zifukwa zake. Chachiwiri, ndikofunikira kulemekeza maganizo a interlocutor, kumvetsetsa, ndikuyesera kulingalira zothetsera vutoli. Mutu umodzi, monga akunena, ndi wabwino, koma awiri ndi abwino.
Njira zothetsera mikangano ya m'banja ziyenera kukhazikitsidwa pa cholinga chimodzi - kulenga ndi kusunga banja losangalala. Palibe mtsogoleri m'banja, palibe wopambana kapena otaika. Ndiwe gulu, ndipo ngati wina wataya, munataya zonse. Ndipo simungathe kukonza ndewu, kuti mupeze kuti nonse mwa inu m'banja ndinu "ozizira". Muli ndi cholinga chimodzi, momwe inu nonse mukugwirizanitsa zolinga zanu zofanana, zipatazi ndizo moyo umene mukufunikira kukhala nawo nthawi zonse, mukuchita limodzi komanso palimodzi. Choncho, kuthetsa mikangano, kumbukirani chinthu chachikulu - pa wina ndi mnzake.