Mwamuna wakhala akuonedwa kuti ndi chinthu chachikulu muzonse. Khalani ntchito, banja kapena njira ya moyo. Koma m'mayiko amasiku ano domostroy yasiya kukhulupirira, ndipo kawirikawiri kuchokera m'milomo ya mkazi mungamve funso lakuti: "Kodi mungadzilamulire nokha bwanji?" Musamayembekezere pamene mwamuna amapereka ndalama kuti agulitse, alola kuyenda ndi anzanu kapena asankhe kaya alowe masewera kapena ayese kujambula. Ana, nsapato ndi kusunga nyumba ndizo zinthu zomwe zimakhala zovuta kwambiri. Koma moyo sayenera kudutsa! Kuika umunthu wanu ndi maluso kwa mwamuna? Ndani anakuuzani zopusa chotero! M'nkhaniyi, tidzathetsa kukayikira kwanu ndikufotokozera momwe mungadzipange okha.
Kudalira amuna - momwe mungachotsedwe?
Zonsezi zimayamba bwanji? Kawirikawiri ichi ndi chiyambi cha malo ogwirizana, kapena mapeto a ukwati ndipo, kachiwiri, cohabitation. Ntchito, nthawi ndi malo, omwe adadzaza moyo usanayambe kukumana ndi munthu, pang'onopang'ono amafalikira kumbuyo. Mayiyo akutsegula maudindo ndi maudindo atsopano - kuyang'anira chuma ndi moyo, kubadwa kwa ana komanso kulera kwawo. Pang'onopang'ono, mkazi amayamba kudzimana yekha chifukwa cha ubale wabwino m'banja, ndipo amayamba kupasuka mwa munthuyo ndi moyo wake. Apa, ndiye kudalira mwamuna wake kumayambira. Icho chimanyamula khalidwe la nsembe. Kukana kuchokera ku chitukuko ndi ntchito pofuna kuthandiza ana, mwamuna ndi banja - pambuyo pa mkaziyo atatsimikiziridwa, kuti wozunzidwayo, ndithudi, adzawerengedwa. Koma nthawi imatha, ndipo kudalira mtima kumakhala pang'onopang'ono kukhala zinthu zakuthupi. Pambuyo pake, ntchitoyo inapita ku gahena! Pang'onopang'ono, zipsyinjo zikukula: zimakhala zovuta kuti azikhala pakhomo, sakonda kuti abwera kunyumba mochedwa ndipo samamvetsera, samakonda kuti amupatse ndalama zazing'ono, ndi zina zotero. Pa nthawi yomweyi, mayi wodalirika amayamba kuopa kutaya mwamuna yemwe wayamba kuyang'ana pozungulira, kuvutika maganizo, mavuto, kugonana, kusakhutira ndi moyo wake, ndi zina zambiri. Koma zonse zinayamba ndi nsembe ya banal, ndipo ndi zolinga zabwino. Njira yokhayo yothetsera vutoli ndiyo kukhala wodziimira nokha!
Momwe mungadzitetezere mwa mwamuna wake?
Zifukwa zomwe mkazi amayamba kudalira mwamuna wake, zimayambira ali mwana. Zolakwitsa za makolo pakadali pano zinali za ufulu komanso zoyenera. Ovomerezeka ndi ana, omwe makolo nthawi zambiri amawauza kuti: "Ngati mumandikonda, ndiye kuti mudzachita zomwe ndanena." Kapena mosiyana: "Ngati mumandikonda, ndiye kuti simungachite." Popeza kuti amayi amayembekezera thandizo ndi kuthandizidwa ndi mwamuna, mkaziyo amayamba kudzimana yekha chifukwa cha chikondi chake. Kodi mungakonze bwanji vutoli ndi kukhala mmodzi yemwe ali ndi udindo wodzitama wa "mkazi wodziimira yekha"? Inde, muyenera kuthetsa mavuto anu a maganizo kamodzi. Mungathe kuchita izi motere:
1. Yambani ndi masewera olimbitsa thupi: yang'anani maso anu ndikuganiza kuti mukukhala paphiri lalitali, ndipo pansi panu pali njira yayitali. Iye ndi moyo wanu. Yang'anani mosamala, ndipo yesani kuyesa khalidwe lanu nthawi zina zomwe mumakumbukira. Kumbukirani nthawi yomwe mudadzikweza nokha, ndiye pamene mudali kuchita zomwe mumakonda. Pambuyo pake, dzifunseni mafunso angapo ndikuyankha moona mtima:
- Ndili ndi ubale wotani ndi makolo anga?
- Ndimachita kangati zomwe ndikufuna?
- nchifukwa ninji ndikuopa kutaya mkazi wanga?
- bwanji ngati nditakhala wopanda mwamuna?
2. Kumbukirani zochitika kuyambira ubwana, zomwe munkachita kuchita potsutsana ndi chifuniro cha makolo. Dziwani nokha kuti pokhala wamkulu, muli ndi ufulu wochitapo kanthu, monga mukufunira.
3. Ganizilani zomwe mukufuna kumoyo wanu? Ndi zolinga ndi malingaliro otani zomwe mungathe ndikuziika patsogolo panu. Yesani kuyamba kuzigwiritsa ntchito, osati kuyang'ana kumbuyo kwa wina kapena maganizo ake.
4. Kumbukirani kuti maubwenzi abwino ndi omwe ali m'mabanja omwe onse awiri amadziwa okha, osadalira wina ndi mzake, osayesana wina ndi mzake, koma azikhala mwaulemu, chikondi ndi chiyanjano.
M'banja lililonse sipangakhale mbali yamphamvu ndi yofooka. Ntchito zonse za mkazi ziyenera kugawanika pakati. Choyamba zikhale zovuta kuti mutuluke pa ntchito ya wozunzidwa. Lolani kuti banja lidziwe kuti muli ndi ufulu wokhala ndi nthawi komanso zofuna zawo. Mukangoyamba kuchita zosiyana ndi zapakhomo, ndi zochitika zawo, mudzakhala omasuka, ndipo mudzawona momwe moyo wanu wa banja udzasinthidwe msanga. Kumbukirani kuti chikondi ndi kulemekezana kokha m'dziko lino lapansi kungathe kuchita zozizwitsa. Ndipo malo anu enieni ndi dziko lanu, kumene simungadalire wina aliyense.