Zomwe angapereke kwa mtsikana yemwe akufuna kukhala wokongola, amayamba ndi uphungu kuti adzidalire ndi kudzikonda nokha. Koma momwe mungachitire izo ndipo zimatanthauzanji kudzikonda nokha? Tsopano tikambirana za izi.
Nchifukwa chiyani mungadzikondere nokha?
Musanasokoneze njira zomwe mungadzikondere nokha, muyenera kumvetsa tanthauzo lake. Kodi chikondi chimatanthauza kudziyesa bwino kuposa aliyense, kukhala wodzikweza komanso wosafikika? Ayi, ndi kuzindikira kokha za ukazi ndi kukongola kwanu, ichi ndicho kulandiridwa kwathunthu kwa chiwerengero chanu ndi zochitika zanu. Koma panthawi imodzimodziyo muyenera kudziwa bwino zolakwa zanu, koma musadzipweteke chifukwa cha kukhalapo kwawo, ndipo muzidzikonda nokha - chifukwa palibe amene ali wangwiro.
Momwe mungadzikondere nokha?
Musaganize kuti malangizo "momwe mungadzikondere nokha" amagawidwa ndi anthu otukuka okha. Psychology imatiuza chinthu chomwecho - kusowa chikondi, kudzidalira komanso kudzimva zambiri, zomwe mwachibadwa sizikondweretsa munthu. Kotero, ife tinapeza kuti mkazi ayenera kudzikonda yekha, koma momwe mungadzikondere nokha ndi kuchita izo kuchokera pa lingaliro la maganizo, ife tsopano tizitha kusokoneza.
- Phunzirani kudziyang'ana nokha pagalasi ndi zosangalatsa. Ngati mumakonda chinachake mwa inu nokha, lankhulani za izo, ponena za kusinkhasinkha kwanu pagalasi. Ngati simukukhutira ndi chinachake, lankhulani izi, koma yesetsani kupeza zolephera zanu.
- Mu moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku timapambana zambiri pa zizoloŵezi zathu, pa ulesi wathu ndi zinthu zina. Phunzirani kudzitamandira nokha ngakhale pa zochepa zapindulazo.
- Kuwongolera malingaliro anu pagalasi kuti ndi okongola, musaiwale kuti mukhulupirire nokha. Ndiwe wokha wokongola, mwakuthupi komanso mwauzimu. Mukhoza kukhala ngati mtsikana wina aliyense, komabe ndinu wapadera, wina alibe, ndipo chifukwa cha ichi nokha ndinu woyenera chikondi.
- Kudziyang'ana nokha pagalasi, musayankhe kuti "Wansembe wa Jay Lo ndi wokongola kwambiri, ndipo chiuno cha Angelina Jolie ndi wochepa thupi, ndipo sindili choncho, choncho ndine woipa." Palibe cha mtunduwo! Siyani zokhudzana ndi miyezo yeniyeni ya kukongola, pambuyo pa zonse, zomwe mukuziwona pazowunikira zingakhale zokongola, koma sizili zamoyo, osati zenizeni, choncho zimatayika kwambiri. Ndiwe wodabwitsa chifukwa msungwana wokongola - iwe nthawi zambiri bwino. Ndipo kuti muwonetsetse kuti mungayang'ane chithunzi palibe choipa kwambiri, yesani chithunzi chanu chabwino kudzera mu Photoshop. Chabwino, ngati zokongola za magazini zidawona izi, zikanadabwidwa ndi kaduka, chabwino?
- Lekani kuganiza "koma ngati ndichita izi ndikuwona momwe anthu ena amandiyang'ana." Chitani zomwe mukufuna (chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti sichidutsa lamulo), sangalalani ndikusangalala ndi mphindi iliyonse yomwe mwakhalamo.
- Aliyense ali ndi malingaliro oipa pamene ife timawoneka kapena timachita molakwika. Choncho m'ng'anjo muli "masamba a manyazi", simukuwafuna. Mwinamwake munalakwitsa kwinakwake, kotero bwanji! Palibe munthu aliyense wopanda ungwiro, aliyense ali ndi ufulu wochita zimenezo. Pomalizira, sikuti amene sachita zolakwa, koma amene samayesa kukonza zolakwa zake. Ndipo inde, palibe anthu olakwika - ngati munthu akunena kuti sanakhale ndi chinthu choterocho, ndiye kuti amamunamizira, kapena ali ndi nzeru zamagetsi, kapena alibe kanthu kopindulitsa pamoyo wake.
- Monga kujambulidwa ndi kudzigulira wekha zovala zatsopano. Dziwani kuti muli ndi malo ndi chithunzi chilichonse chokongola. Kudzikuza nokha ndi kudziuza nokha kutamanda sikokulakwa.
- Kulankhulana nthawi zambiri, makamaka ndi anthu omwe si amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Phunzirani kuvomereza zovomerezeka, musamachite manyazi ndipo musaganize kuti munthu akutamandani chifukwa chakuti akusowa chinachake kuchokera kwa inu. Mwayamikiridwa chifukwa amakomera kukongola kwanu, kokha mwa njira iyi ndipo palibe njira ina iliyonse.
Kumbukirani, pokhapokha podziwa kudzikonda nokha, mudzawona momwe ena amakukonderani. Inde, izi sizidzachitika mwamsanga, chikondi cha padziko lonse sichidzagwa usiku, koma ndithudi, khulupirirani ine.