Malingaliro kwa apongozi awo ndi phunziro lopweteka la zolemba, mafilimu ndi nkhani zochokera m'mabuku a amayi. Zimakwaniritsidwa, zimapitirira mpaka pano kuti ntchentche isakhumudwitse akazi akufika pa chigamulo cha malonda "kutenga ntchito yoopsa." Koma zonsezi zingatheke, ngati sizipeŵedwa, kuchepetsa kuchepetsa zotsatira za kulankhulana. Kawirikawiri, werengani ndikuwuziridwa ndi malangizo athu momwe mungachotsere apongozi anu. Zindikirani!
1. Ngati mulibe apongozi apakhomo, koma muli ndi "kuthekera" mwamsanga kuti mukambirane za tsogolo lanu ndi okhulupirika anu - chitani bwino momveka bwino muukwati wanu, mu ntchito yanu, komanso ntchito ya "alendo" kunyumba kwanu. ufulu, mphamvu, ndipo chofunikira kwambiri, pamene mzere uli. Mutagwirizana kale, mutha kupewa zowawa, zoopsa, misonzi komanso kuthetsa kusudzulana.
2. Pamene funso la kuchotseratu apongozi anu okhumudwitsa silingaganizirenso, koma maloto anu odetsa nkhaŵa ndi enieni, ndiye mwamuna wanu ayenera kukhala mzanga wapamtima. Ngati mulibe nthawi, "mayi" wake amutengera kumbali yake. Konzani momasuka kukambirana ndi kumufunsa kuti ayankhe mafunso ena:
- Ndani ali ndi udindo wa ubwino wa banja lanu - muli ndi mwamuna wanu kapena apongozi anu?
- Ndani ali mbuye wanu mnyumba yanu - inu kapena amayi anu aakazi?
- Kodi amayi anu apatsidwa ufulu wotani m'nyumba mwanu, kodi mphamvu zake zimapereka zidzukulu kwa zidzukulu zake komanso kusonkhanitsa madzulo, moyo wanu ndi maubwenzi anu ?
- Ndi njira ziti zomwe zimakulolani kuti mugwire ntchito, kuti mupereke mfundo zonse pamwamba pa "ndi" ndi apongozi ake?
Ndi zopanda pake kufunsa mafunso onsewa ngati mukukhala ndi amayi ake mnyumbamo. Kumvetsetsa, mkazi ali ndi zaka zirizonse amakhala mkazi, yemwe amateteza gawo lake. Ali ndi ufulu kuti asalowe mu khitchini, kuyeretsa chipinda chake, kuphunzira ndikumudzudzula, osakupatsani malangizo, koma malangizo komanso malamulo, ndi zina zotero mumzimu uwu ... Kodi muli ndi ufulu wokha mu gawo lanu? kumenyana, kokha komwe iye ali mlendo, osati mfumukazi yonse. Pansi pa nyumba imodzi amayi awiri salipo.