Ubwenzi pakati pa apongozi awo ndi mpongozi wawo siwowonjezera kutentha ndi kulandira. Nthawi zambiri, kusowa kumvetsetsa kumabweretsa mavuto a m'banja, komanso kusudzulana.
Chiwerengero cha mavoti omwe amachitika m'mayiko osiyanasiyana chikusonyeza kuti kuchuluka kwa ubale m'banja kuli ndi apongozi awo. Anthu ochepa chabe amatha kudzitamandira ndi ubale wabwino ndi amayi awo, koma kwa amayi ambiri a zaka zosiyana siyana funso la momwe angakhalire ubale ndi apongozi awo amakhala otseguka. Psychology ya maubwenzi ndi apongozi ake akhala akuphunzitsidwa kwa zaka zambiri, ndipo lero pali zambiri zambiri zomwe zimaperekedwa pa momwe angakhalire ubale ndi apongozi ake. Koma, ngakhale izi, vuto silinathetseke m'mabanja ambiri. Ndipo kugwiritsira ntchito mwayi ngakhale malangizo osavuta ndi ndondomeko za akatswiri a zamaganizo muzochita sizingakhale zophweka nkomwe. Tiyeni tiyesetse kumvetsa zifukwa izi, chifukwa chiyanjano pakati pa apongozi awo ndi apongozi awo chikhalabe vuto, ngakhale kuyesa konse kwa akatswiri a maganizo, ndi zomwe ziyenera kuchitidwa kuti banja likhale mwamtendere ndi kumvetsetsa.
Mmene mungakhalire maubwenzi ndi apongozi anu?
Ngakhale lingaliro lakuti ayesetse kuthetsa vutoli silovomerezeka kwa apongozi anga aang'ono. Kuika kotereku kumayambitsa chiyanjano choipa ndi apongozi ake. Pankhaniyi, ndibwino kuti atsikana azidziika pamalo a apongozi awo. Tangoganizirani kubadwa kwa mwana, taganizirani momwe akulira, ndipo kwa zaka zambiri ndi munthu wofunika kwambiri pamoyo wa mayi, kufikira tsiku likubwera pamene mkazi wina satenga malo ake. Azimayi okhaokha amatha kumvetsa zolinga za khalidwe la mwamuna wa mwamuna. Chinyengo chophwekachi chidzakuthandizani kumvetsetsa momwe mungakhalire paubwenzi ndi apongozi ake muzovuta kwambiri, ngakhale mkangano ukupitirira kwa zaka zingapo.
Chinthu chinanso chimene chimayambitsa mikangano pakati pa apongozi awo ndi apongozi awo ndi nsanje. Nsanje ikhoza kutenga mitundu yambiri, koma chinthu chokhacho chimakhala chimodzi - kuopa kutaya chisomo cha wokondedwa. Mwadzidzidzi kuthetsa kukhudzika kwa nsanje kulibe mphamvu kwa apongozi ake ambiri. Ndipo kuthandizira pazomwezi zingathe kukhala mpongozi weniweni, kusamalira kuti amayi ake aamuna sanamveke atasiyidwa ndipo sakufunikira. Koma kuti athane ndi ntchitoyi, mpongozi wake ayenera kulemekeza apongozi ake moona mtima ndi kuyamikira zomwe wachitira mwana wake.
Kuwonjezera apo, kusowa kwa kumvetsetsa pakati pa apongozi apongozi ndi apongozi awo ndi chifukwa cha zikhalidwe zakale, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimanyalanyazidwa. Kumverera kwa kuyandikira kukalamba, kusintha kwa maganizo ndi kukhumudwa, chifukwa cha kusintha kwa mahomoni, kumakhudza khalidwe ndi khalidwe mwanjira yolakwika. Ndipo popeza dziko la apongozi ake ali ndi zochitika za thupi, ndi mpongozi wawo amene ayenera kusonyeza kumvetsetsa ndi kudzichepetsa, kupeza njira kwa amayi a mwamuna wake ndi kumuthandiza kuthana ndi nthawi yovuta pamoyo.
Koma izi ndizo zochitika zoyamba zokha kumvetsetsa. Ngakhale kufunafuna modzipereka kukhazikitsa mtendere m'banja, podziwa zifukwa za maganizo oipa a amayi a mwamuna wake, mkwatibwi amafunika ntchito yambiri. Choyamba, muyenera kulingalira za momwe mungamangire ubale ndi apongozi anu. Pachifukwachi muyenera kumvetsa bwino apongozi anu, kuti mudziwe chikhalidwe chake ndi zizoloŵezi zake. Kwa amayi ena, n'kwanira kuona kuti mpongozi wawo amamvetsa ndipo ali wokonzeka kugwirizanitsa, pamene ena amatsutsana ndi kuyesayesa kuti ayesetse kuchita mantha. Choncho, kukhazikitsa njira yothetsera chiyanjano n'zotheka kungoganizira za chikhalidwe cha apongozi ake. Komanso, chofunikira choyanjanitsa ndi kukhululukidwa mtima kwa apongozi ake, chifukwa cha mavuto onse omwe adayambitsa. Ngati mkwiyo ukhalapobe, m'tsogolomu amaupweteka.
Pali maphunziro apadera a maganizo omwe amachotsa zoipazo ndikuyamba kumanga maubwenzi ndi kansalu koyera. Pambuyo pa kukwiya, ndipo osakondwera ndi amayi a mwamuna, mukhoza kuyamba ntchito yogwira ntchito. Koma musayembekezere kuti zonse zidzasintha mwamsanga, makamaka ngati mkangano ukhala nthawi yaitali. Kuyamba kwa ubale watsopano kungakhale kukambirana moona mtima. Ngati apongozi ake amadziwika ndi kusadziletsa, kapena nthawi zambiri amatanthauzira tanthauzo la zomwe zinanenedwa, ndiye m'malo moyankhula ndi bwino kumulembera kalata. Fotokozani kuti zikhale mwaziganizo zosavuta ndi zochepa, kupeŵa kusamvetsetsana ndi kusokonezeka. M'kalata kapena kukambirana, m'pofunika kufotokozera chomwe chili vuto ndi malingaliro ake. Musagwiritse ntchito phokoso, mukuyembekeza kuti lidzachepetsa chiyanjanocho. Koma kuyamika mochokera pansi pa mtima kapena kutamanda amayi a mwamuna wake sikungakhale zopanda pake, kutsindika makhalidwe kapena maluso omwe amachititsa chidwi.
Ndikakhala ndi apongozi anga, nkofunikira kuthetsa mikangano yokhudzana ndi maganizo, komanso zoweta. Ndipo kuthana ndi mavuto oterewa ayenera kuyankhulidwa mwachidwi ndi kuseketsa, chifukwa cha nkhondo zapakhomo nthaka idzapezeka nthawi zonse ndi kulikonse. Ndipo pankhaniyi, nkofunikanso kuti apite nawo apongozi awo popanda kukwiya ndi kuweruza, komanso kufufuza zifukwa zosakhutira ndi kufotokozera njira ya ulimi wopanda mgwirizano.
Pa njira yowyanjanitsa ndi apongozi ake, nthawi zonse ndi bwino kukumbukira kuti ngakhale kuti chiyanjano ndi amayi a mwamuna wake chinali chotani, uyu ndiye mayi wa wokondedwa yemwe angafune kuti banja lake likhale labwino komanso losangalala. Ndipo chifukwa cha cholinga ichi, njira zonse ndi zabwino ndipo kuyesetsa sikungakhale chabe.