Ubwenzi pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi ndi wosalimba, monga chombo cha galasi ndi kayendetsedwe kamodzi kodzichepetsa, mawu otukwana kapena chinthu cholakwika, ndipo amatha kuuluka mofulumira. Koma mukakwatirana, anthu amaiwala za izo ndikungokumbukira pamene mwamuna wachoka, ndipo vuto limabuka momwe angamubwerere. Musaganize kuti mutha kubwereranso mwamunayo chifukwa izi zikuchitika pang'onopang'ono - izi sizichitika tsiku, simungathe kufufuza mofulumira mkhalidwewo, kusintha mkati ndi kubwezeretsa maganizo ake.
Pali malingaliro osiyana a momwe mungabwerere mwamuna, pakati pawo ndi mitundu yonse yamatsenga. Iwo ali otchuka kwambiri tsopano, koma ambiri samvetsa kuti n'zotheka kubwezeretsa munthu chifukwa cha kudalira kwaumoyo, palibe chifukwa chobwezera kumverera pano. Ndipo njira zamatsenga zimangowononga chiyanjano cha abwenzi.
Ngati mukufuna kubweza mwamuna wanu nokha, zinsinsi zina zamalingaliro zingakuthandizeni kubweza mwamuna wanu m'banja.
Momwe mungabwerere mwamuna - uphungu wa katswiri wa zamaganizo
Akatswiri a zamaganizo ali ndi malingaliro awo momwe angabwerere bwino mwamuna ndipo amatsimikizira kuti n'zothekadi.
1. Choyamba, ganizirani ngati mukufunikira kwambiri munthu amene anakuperekani. Simukuyenera kulimbana nawo ngati:
- muli ndi zolinga zosiyana m'moyo;
- iwe umangodalira yekha ndalama pa iye;
- mukuopa kunyozedwa kwa ena.
Ndikoyenera kuyesa, pamene:
- iwe umamukondabe ndipo umamuphonya iye kwambiri;
- mwakonzeka kusintha;
- mumavomereza zolakwa zanu.
2. Ngati, ndi kuchoka kwa mwamuna, dziko lanu liribe kanthu ndipo mukuganiza choti muchite kuti mubwerere mwamunayo, ndiye choyamba muyenera kukhala oleza mtima. Ngati mwamuna adayamba kukondana ndi wina, konzekerani kuti asazindikire kalikonse kanthawi, kupatula wokondedwa wake watsopano. Musati muwope, iye nthawiyina adadutsa izi ndi inu. Ndiye iye adzawona zolephera za mkazi watsopano.
3. Ziyenera kumveka kuti simuyenera kubwezeretsa ubale wakale, muyenera kupanga ubale watsopano ndi wokondedwa wanu wakale. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kuganiziranso moyo wanu palimodzi, kuiwala zochitika zakale, kufufuza zolakwazo ndi kuwongolera. Ndipo ngati mukufuna kudziwa momwe mungabwerere mwamuna wanu wokondedwa - musinthe nokha.
3. Tengani tsambali, ligawikeni m'magawo awiri, lembani mbali imodzi, monga zikuwonekera kwa inu, ndi makhalidwe ati omwe anakusangalatsani kwambiri kwa mwamuna, ndipo chachiwiri - chomwe chingamulekanitse. Tsopano mndandanda uwu udzakhala chikumbutso kwa inu, choti muchite ndi zomwe mungapewe mukamachita nawo.
4. Mu psychology, palinso malangizo ena ofunikira momwe mungabwerere mwamuna wanu - simukusowa kucheza naye, makamaka ngati muli ndi ana. Kumuthandiza kuti akakomane ndi ana pakhomo kapena kubweretsa moyo wamba (mungamupemphe kuti athandize kukonzanso chinachake m'nyumba, kapena kuti azicheza ndi ana pa tchuthi), nthawi zambiri mumamvetsera mwamuna wake. Mkazi wanzeru samapewa kukhudzana ndi achibale a mwamuna wake ndi mabwenzi ake omwe, ndi njira yabwino, angamuthandize kubwezeretsa. Okhulupirira za kugonana amakhulupirira kuti ngakhale atatha kusudzulana, pamene mwamuna sanalembetsere maubwenzi atsopano, ndibwino kuti akhalebe paubwenzi wabwino ndi iye, komanso ngati ali ndi chigonere (ngati muli ogwirizana pabedi).
5. Pamene mukumana naye, musamayerekezere kuti mukuzunzidwa, musamasonyeze chisoni chanu - khalani osangalala komanso osasamala. Kotero iwe umamulepheretsa mwamuna, iye akuyembekezera iwe kuti ufuule, kufotokoza ubale womwe iwe umupempha iye kuti abwerere, ndipo iwe ndi wopanda izo siribwino.
6. Tengani nthawi: sintha tsitsi lanu, sungani zovala zanu, pitani ku salon, zokondweretsa zatsopano.
7. Pitani ku discos, mukakumana ndi amuna. Chabwino, ngati iye atadziwa za izi, ndipo iwe ukhoza kudzutsa mwa iye chibadwa cha mwiniwake.
Chinthu chachikulu sichidzabwereza zolakwitsa zomwezo pokhapokha mwamuna atabwerera.