Banja pa moyo wa mkazi nthawi zonse limakhala ndi malo apakati, koma anthu amasiku ano amasintha miyambo ya moyo wa banja, ndipo amasintha kwambiri moti ngakhale m'masukulu iwo anayamba kuphunzitsa mutu wakuti "makhalidwe abwino ndi maganizo a banja." Chabwino, ana athu adzauzidwa za chirichonse, mwinamwake izi zidzawathandiza m'tsogolomu kukhazikitsa mabanja okondwa. Ndipo momwe tingakhalire ife, m'masukulu athu okhudza makhalidwe abwino ndi maganizo a moyo wa banja sizinayambe, koma chimwemwe ndi mtendere m'banja zimakhaladi zofunika.
Miyeso ya moyo wa banja
Kuti mumvetsetse momwe mungakhalire ndi moyo wabanja wokondwa, ndi bwino kuyankhula za magawo omwe banja lililonse likumva kuyambira chiyambireni. Malamulo a moyo wachimwemwe m'banja ali pa gawo lililonse.
- Gawo loyamba ndi chikondi chosangalatsa . Tsopano banjali silikusamala za zinsinsi ndi malamulo a moyo wachimwemwe m'banja, chirichonse chiri chodabwitsa kwambiri. Achinyamata okwatirana amayesetsa kuchita zonse palimodzi, osafuna kutenga nthawi yayitali. Zolinga zabwino zakhala zikupangidwira tsogolo limodzi.
- Gawo lachiwiri la moyo wa banja mu psychology limatchedwa nthawi ya kuzindikira ndi kuledzera . Chisangalalo chosamva chikudutsa, okwatirana amayamba kuyang'ana mozama kwambiri pa moyo. Sitejiyi idzakhala yoyesedwa koyambirira mu moyo wa banja. Izi zimachitika kuti anthu sali okonzeka kuonana popanda chikondi chachikondi. Ndipo mmalo mwa chisangalalo cha kuzindikira, iwo amakhumudwa chimodzimodzi ndi kukwiya. Chofunika kwambiri m'nthawi ino ya moyo wa banja ndicho kulolera kugonana ndi chikhumbo chokambirana. Popanda mikangano ndi mikangano, sipangakhale moyo wa banja. Izi ndizokwanira ndipo sizikutanthauza kuti mwamusankha munthu wolakwika. Mwamuna ndi mkazi aliyense amatha kutchula zofuna zawo komanso zosokoneza za moyo wawo, ndipo zotsirizazo zingakhale zambiri. Koma nthawi zina zabwino zingapo zingathe kupambana zovuta zonse.
- Gawo lachitatu likhoza kutchedwa nthawi yomanga banja . Ngati mavuto a gawo lapitalo la banja asinthidwa bwino, ndiye kuti okwatirana ali ndi nthawi yowonananso. Tsopano banjali likukhudzidwa ndi zomangamanga za tsogolo ndi kukhazikitsa ntchito yogwirizana. Kungakhale kulera kwa mwana, kukonza nyumba, kumanga nyumba, ndi zina zotero. Zochita zonsezi zimabweretsa chisangalalo kwa okwatirana ndikuzigwirizanitsa.
- Gawo lachinai ndi nthawi ya bata . Banja liri ndi maudindo onse, okwatirana amadziwa udindo wawo ku mbali zina za moyo. Okwatirana aphunzirana kale, adzizoloŵera zofooka zazing'ono ndikuwakhululukira ndi mtima wonse. Tsopano ana ayamba kale kusukulu (HIGH SCHOOL), nyumba igulidwa, monga zonse ziri bwino. Vuto limakhala pa chizoloŵezi chomwe chimapezeka m'moyo wa banja. Choncho, zinsinsi zosunga banja panthawi imeneyi zingatchedwe zongopeka, luso la okwatirana komanso chikhumbo chokhala chosangalatsa kwa wina. Ngati simukulola moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku kukhala wokondana kwambiri, ndiye kuti banja lanu lidzapitirizabe kukhala ndi moyo wosangalala. Apo ayi, sitepe yotsatira ndi.
- Gawo lachisanu ndi kulumala . Okwatirana akuyesetsa kale kupeza malo kumadera amodzi, kugona pa theka la bedi kapena m'chipinda chosiyana, kulankhulana pa chosowa chachikulu. Mabanja ena akupitiriza kukhala monga chonchi, ena amatha,
koma mwanjira inayake amatha kudzitulutsa yekha ku mathithi awa. Izi zimachitika pambuyo pa kukambirana kwakukulu ndikuyika mfundo zonse pamwamba pa "i" kapena pambuyo pa chochitika chachikulu (mwinamwake chowopsya) m'moyo wa banja. Ndiye pakubwera nthawi yowonongeka, banjali liyambanso kupanga malingaliro amodzimodzi a tsogolo ndi chiyembekezo cha zabwino. Ndipo banjali ali ndi mwayi wapadera komanso chilakolako chosavomereze zolakwitsa zomwe zinapangidwa poyamba.
Mabungwe oyang'anira moyo wa banja losangalala akhoza kupatsidwa zambiri. Koma, mwinamwake, chofunikira kwambiri chidzakhala maitanidwe okondana, kulemekeza ndi kuyamikira moyo wanu wokondedwa.