Sikuti aliyense wa ife angathe kupeza nthawi yabwino yothandizana naye nyumbayo, ndipo mwanayo adzabadwa ndipo mtengo udzakula. Podziwa kuti simungathe kupanganso banja, muyenera kukonza chisudzulo. Ndipo pamodzi ndi ndondomeko izi zimabweretsa malingaliro a momwe angauze mwamuna wake za kusudzulana, momwe angachitire bwino? Izi ndi zofunika kwambiri ngati mukufuna kuchoka mwamtendere, ganizirani kuti mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ndi munthu wabwino ndipo sakufuna kumukhumudwitsa.
Kodi ndingamuuze bwanji mwamuna wanga zenizeni za kuthetsa banja?
- Musanayambe kuchita kanthu, muyenera kutsimikiza kuti mukuganiza bwino. Kusudzulana - ichi ndi chiyeso chomaliza, chomwe muyenera kufotokoza mutatha kuganiza mosamala, poopseza ndi chisudzulo pa mkangano - ndi zopusa, mutanena izi mozama, sipadzakhalanso chikhulupiriro.
- Kawirikawiri amuna amasintha maganizo awo akamaphunzira za nthawi yopuma. Choncho, ngati mukuganiza kuti mungathe kukhalabe ndi banja ndi khama la mnzanuyo, mungamuuze kuti mutuluka, ngati palibe kusintha posachedwa.
- Ngati mutha kusudzulana chifukwa mudakondana ndi wina, musafulumire kupanga chisankho. Dzipatseni nokha nthawi yoganiza, mwinamwake muyenera kukhala ndi nthawi yokha ndi mwamuna wanu mosiyana. Zimayenera kuti muzindikire kufunika kwa malingaliro anu, mwinamwake kutengeka mtima sikunayenera kuti banja liwonongeke.
- Pokonzekera kukambirana, ganizirani mozama za mawu anu. Yesetsani kuti musamangokhalira kumangokhalira kukhumudwa. Powona kuti chosowa cha chisudzulo chafika, pali zolakwa za onse awiri, choncho ndi kulakwa kumuneneza mwamuna pa chilichonse.
Ndikofunikira osati momwe mungasankhire mwamuna wanu zoona zokhuza mtima wanu ndi chikhumbo cha kusudzulana , kukonzekera kwanu kwachinthu ichi ndichabechabe. Dziwani kuti palibe kusiyana kosawonongeka, ndipo kudzakhala kuyesa kwakukulu kwa inu nonse. Choncho, nkofunikira kutenga gawo ili, pokhapokha atayesa zonse bwinobwino ndikuganiza momwe mudzakhalire mutatha kupatukana.