Wosankhidwa wanu ndi wokwatira ndipo simukudziwa choti muchite bwanji? Nthawi iliyonse mukakumana, nonse mwa inu muli ndi malingaliro, ndipo zonsezi zakhala zikuchitika kwa zaka zambiri. Poyamba, muyenera kukonzekera chirichonse, chifukwa si aliyense amene angadzitamande ngati ali wokwatiwa, komatu simukusangalala ndipo mukuganiza kuti mungasiye kukonda mwamuna wokwatiwa, chifukwa ngati sangachoke m'banja, palibe chiyembekezo chokhalira ndi banja. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amapereka malangizo pa izi.
Momwe mungaletsere uphungu wothandizira wa katswiri wa zamaganizo
Kuti malingaliro anu pazochitika zonsezi asinthe, ganizirani nokha pamalo a mkazi wokwatira. Ndipotu, zedi, kukhala mumkhalidwe wake - ndizovuta kwambiri kuposa mbuye.
Koma iyi ndi njira yophweka, ngati sinakuthandizeni, nkofunikira kutenga zowonjezera zowonjezera. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amalangiza kuti poyamba adziwe kuti akulekanitsa ndi kuchitapo kanthu, popeza kuti asanachite izi pasadakhale, nthawi yomweyo thupi lidzasokonezeka. Izi zikudzaza ndi mfundo yakuti vuto la maganizo lidzakhudza thupi nthawi zonse ndipo akhoza kukokera kwa miyezi kapena zaka. Kukonzekera kudzakuthandizani kuchepetsa momwe mukukumana ndi nthawi. Ngati mukufuna kusiya kulemba mwamuna wokwatiwa, uphungu wamaganizo umapereka ntchito yogwira ntchito pawekha. Dzilimbikitse, ganizirani za inu nokha, tsogolo lanu, pangani ndondomeko popanda munthu uyu, mubwere ndi cholinga , mwachitsanzo, mutenge ufulu ndi kugula galimoto kwa zaka zingapo, lolani malingaliro anu onse kuti aganizire lingaliro ili. Mulibe nthawi yoti mudandaule ndi kuganiza za kupatukana, mumasintha, mutsegula zosowa ndi maganizo ena.
Kodi mungaleke bwanji kukonda mwamuna wokwatira?
Funso limeneli limadzipangitsanso amayi ambiri. Poyang'ana pang'onopang'ono zingaoneke kuti zonse ndi zoopsa, koma kuyang'ana mkhalidwewo kuchokera kumbali ina, mukumvetsa kuti mwamuna ndiwothandizira wanu odalirika
Ngati vuto lalikulu ndikuletsa kukonda mwamuna wokwatira amene amakukondani, musalole kuti maganizo oipa akhale pamutu mwanu-iyi ndiyo lamulo lalikulu la akatswiri a maganizo. Kondwerani mu moyo, ganizirani nthawi zabwino zopatukana , ndipo mwamsanga mudzazindikira kuti pali nthawi zabwino kwambiri izi. Mwamuna wachikondi amatha kupita chirichonse chifukwa cha mkazi, ndipo ngati amapeza zifukwa zambiri, amapewa kuyanjana ndi mkazi wake, ganizirani chifukwa chake mumasowa osankhidwawo, chifukwa sikuti adzakuchitirani chimodzimodzi.