Mwachidule yankho "Ndikuvomereza", pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zosiyanasiyana. Ena mwa iwo sali okondana, komabe izi sizikutanthauza kuti zifukwa za pragmatic ndizofunikira maziko a banja lolimba. Ndipo ena pafupifupi amatsimikizira kulephera kwa chochitikacho chotchedwa "kupanga chiyanjano chatsopano". Palibe zodabwitsa kuti pali matenda omwe amadziwika kuti ali ndi zolinga zaukwati, malinga ndi zomwe, wina angayesere kulongosola mwayi wa "iwo amakhala mosangalala nthawi zonse." Ganizirani za zotsatirazi zomwe ziri pafupi ndi nkhani yanu:
- chikondi. Ili ndilo buku lothandizira ukwati, lomwe ambiri a ife tinalota kuyambira tili ana. Ife tikufuna kukhala pafupi ndi phunziro la chilakolako chathu ndi kupembedza. Amayi ambiri amakhulupirira kuti ukwati ndi njira yothetsera malingaliro awo kupyolera muzaka;
- kukonzekera ukwati. Ena a ife timakhulupirira kuti moyo wokha m'banja ungatchedwe woyenera ndi wangwiro. Ndipo njira iyi yokha yawirinthu ingayang'ane. Pazochitikazi, mkazi sangapeze mtendere kufikira atatsimikiza kuti ubale wake ndi wovomerezeka ndipo umakhala kumwamba;
- anthu osagwirizana. Cholinga ichi chokwatirana chikugwirizana kwambiri ndi chaka chapitalo. Makamaka ngati mmodzi mwa anthu awiriwa analeredwa m'banja lomwe ukwatiwo unali wokonzedweratu ndipo ankawoneka kukhala cholinga chachikulu cha ubalewu. Ukalamba, monga lamulo, umatsanulira mafuta pamoto;
- kupambana. Makamaka, cholinga chimenechi ndi chofunikira kwa amayi, chifukwa ukwati ndi mwayi wodzitamandira kwa ena;
- kuthawa kusungulumwa. Mwamwayi, ambirife sitimva zokwanira ndikuona ukwati ngati chipulumutso kuchokera ku kusungulumwa. Pakalipano, kupezeka kwa sitampu mu pasipoti sikungatsimikizire kuti malo a banja adzatenthedwa mu nthawi yomwe kusungulumwa kumathamangira;
- kuthawa kwa makolo. Nthawi zambiri maukwati oyambirira. Apa chilakolako ndicho chilakolako cha kutaya zake
moyo; - kukakamizidwa ukwati. Mimba yosakonzekera, monga lamulo, ndiyo chifukwa chokwanira cha maukwati awo;
- ukwati wokhazikika. Kuyesetsa kupeza ndalama, kusamukira kudziko lina, kupeza ufulu - zonsezi zikhoza kuchitiridwa ndi ukwati ndi kuwerengera. Ngati mbali zonse ziwiri zikuzindikira cholinga chachikulu chovomerezana, ndiye nthawizina mgwirizanowu umapereka mgwirizano wamphamvu.
Cholinga chilichonse chimakulimbikitsani kuchita zomwe mukuchita, musachite mantha kuzifufuza pasadakhale, kuti musadzipusitse.